so i guess.....everything is ok in LDR thread?

huhu...

not that everything is good i mean...
but everything has the solution and getting well i hope....

thanx u guys!!

i truuuuulllllly feel u man....( U ARE A GUY RITE? COZ IT IS WRITTEN U ARE A FEMALE, BUT U SAY SHE WILL AUTO-TELL U,SHE?)

But thats love....
Love is beautiful becoz it brings JOY
it also brings PAIN
it brings a lot of things.....
thats what make LOVE more n more beautiful

My advice? Just be urselves....BUT, be more literal in the relationship...it helps....
and sometimes it is best to be not literal at all....
Me and my girl argue too...and sometimes it is just becoz we miss each other too much....it lead to arguments.

Too much of a good thing can be a bad thing!!
remember that!!

i felt the same way before.
wasting time, dedication, money...LOVE!!

So STUPID of us right?

WRONG!!!

so stupid of them.

Just tell this to urself---> it is their lost. SHE doesnt deserve YOU!
not the other way around.

cheer up!

i know.....easier said than done....
ive been there...i told u before...
my relationship before this....4 over years....ended.....

dont be like me...i did so many f*cked-up things after i broke-up.

and i find ur situation in dealing with ur ex very similar with mine.

trust me...urs a waaaaaaaayyy less confusing than my situation.
my last situation...
after 4 years of relationship...it ended....she said want to be frens oso....
but it can never be that easy...
what makes things harder.....we see each other almost every day, even after break-up...
and we share a group of the same frens....
so damn frustating, hurt me like hell. confusing.

so...all i can tell u now...is to embrace the change, not fight it.
easier said than done. true. but u have no choice.
take time for urself. do things u like. hang out with ur frens.

no probs....
we look out for each other here rite?

help me......

i really dont know what to do......

i feel so helpless from here...
When my gf is in trouble...all i can do is hear her out and talk to her...advice her oni.....

and i cant stop myself from worrying about her...u know la,Msia getting more n more dangerous place to live nowadays....

we had an argument...
i tell her to tell me (thru sms or call) when she got home (if she goes out etc) so that i know she is safe at home....

but sometimes she forgot...or battery low...and one thing lead to another, we argued....She told me, if anything happens to her, if she calls me to tell me, what can i do? i cant do anything!

i tell her i will do my best from here.....find a solution, or call her fren or my fren. (meaning if i cant contact her when supposedly i can...maybe something bad has happened, to her, so i can call her fren to check about her etc, so fren knows she is in trouble and can get help)

the thing is....it really broke my confidence when she told me "Whats the use of telling u? What can u do?"

im really sad...i know i cant lie or kid myself...what she says it true in a way....

about the controlling or reporting thing is past...i mean, it was settled, and i did ask about it here...when i asked about how to make my gf feel secure...o always report to her...well...thats not the prob....

the prob here is i feel helpless....
i tell myself i can do a lot from here oso....
but when she told me whats the use of telling me...it really struck me hard...

i feel helpless....
what can i do to be more helpful? to be more reliable? to be "there" for her?
to be most helpful to her?besides lending an ear or voicing my opinions?

or what can i do to make this feeling of helplessness goes away?

i call her often. Sometimes im afraid i call her too much. I do buy stuffs for her. I even made a few stuffs myself and send it to her. I never went back except once a year in Spring, but since this year, i go back twice already., and planning to go back in october too.... :sigh:

yeah...i have a few...her closest frens....
but she is the type of girl who doesnt like to involve personal matters with frens.She is Aries, and i believe it to be an Aries trait...being very secretive and not mixing ,differentiating fren and personal matters. and most of the time, fren comes 1st.

(is this true to all girls or just Aries? girls i used to be with and my gf now, and girls i used to like , 90 percent of them are Aries)

Anyway...if i really got worried to much(waited for hours or so)...and everything else fails..then can only i call. if i dont have a good reason to call...things will turn nasty.

I told her the what i can do(from here) in case of emergency....but still i think i cant do much!!
What other thing can i do to protect my girl? I gave her a pepper spray oso. Reli worried about her well-being.

This post has been edited by quiksilver: Sep 30 2006, 01:41 PM

thanx miyoko.
ill do my best to be her best.Trusting her in taking care of herself is not an easy thing to do.But ill do my best. U see....she just moved in into a new apartment with her fren...just the 2 of them. The area is secluded, and in the building not many people around yet. I went to see her new home when i was in Mesia (that time she hasnt moved yet) they dont even have street lights at some places.
Sometimes her housemate leaves her alone to her hometown..esp weekends....
Thats why i worry liao.

Pretty girl, alone. Just damned worry.

Thanx for ur advice...ill do my best!

true...
i lost more than 10 kgs after break-up....
kept indoors most of the time....
no difference between nite and day for me....
when i do have a chance to go out (have to), the sunlight hurts my eyes.

depression....
but slowly ull regain urself...
u have to.

Bipolar disorder

geez....did i had this?
do i still have this?

i did thought of suicide b4.

i read the symptoms...
i think i have it liao...

but dont everyone get the same symptoms oso?

just me eh?

it is NOT normal for normal people....but Normal for people breaking-up. And it is unhealthy. It is expected from people breaking up and having depression. So what miyoko said is true....it is normal for people who just broke up to lose weight...
but it is abnormal to healthy human being.

U shudnt have replied at all.
Or just a reply like.... "ok"
or... "thanx"

Yeah Suiteng...hope u get well fast....

Can u tell me about ur symptoms and why the doctor diagnosed u as having bipolar-disorder?

im worried i maybe have it too....
Tengs...

And oh yeah....do u guys do gatherings? for those living in Mesia i mean....lol.

really? i did feel suicidal before....but never did anything....
so i hurt myself physically. kinda when my hands or feet hurts, i wont feel the pain in my heart.

I oso got very worried...depressed easily....

Shud i go for a check-up?

U guys did have a gathering?Who turned-up?
Maybe ill join u guys one day...thinking of going back this October...for one week...Just when my love is having her holiday....Coz she wont be celebrating Raya, i guess maybe can spend some time with her....

Thanx a lot u guys....

but i always feel hopeless....
i just did samting wrong to her just now....
now she bad mood with me....
im so hopeless....

wah? firewire? u ?
am i missing something here? lol

coz dont understand what u say liao....

i know la u mean in Taiwan....
But u sed u wan report?
i tot u want her report...so i tot someone here know liao....

u want to report-in like report-in duty issit?

lol

Welcome to the thread!!(not mine though,lol)

lol...
my other half is in Malaysia...
but im in Japan...
more distance from Taiwan liao...

Many here quite far oso liao....huhu