Looook, my girlfriend of 10 months is ignoring me right now. I didn't text her like for 9 days to see if she would text back, and to my assumption she didn't.
Then i started to call her and text her, she doesn't even reply to me.
I mean why girls don't just say what's on their mind?
Thins are normal between us, just that that day i told her that we'll reevaluate the relationship cause she wasn't putting effort into relationship. I'm not mad if she wanna break up, but just inform rather than ignoring. What should i do?

sir...that means silent mode....i hate that...i just ams her informing what im doing...so that she doesnt have any point...but if it is too long..than...just say goodbye

last time when i was like u hoping she to sms me first for 1 week, we got broken. real story dude. u should pujuk die insted of waiting her to start first.

Nope... dont need to chase back... it very clear both of them are not meant to be together

well..dont know her side of the story..so cant really comment..but based on your story..DAMN THAT b****!

I don't feel nice u know to just leave things unattended. I feel that the least we should just talk it out, but she's kinda ignoring me.
I know that it's on the verge towards breaking up, but at least just talk it out. How should i phrase it? Very immature to just ignore the relationship. =.=

U just send her a final message to come out settle clean cut of the relationship....

you stop caring about her just bcos to see whether she misses you or not ?
if you know she is busy , a simple good night will do, just to show that you care, but not to totally vanish into thin air. boyfriend apa ni ?
if she doesn't even like a simple good night text, that means that she will be gone , sooner or later, so why care ?

Your gf is still immatured and cannot handle relationship issues well...however intro her to me if you are not interested to prolong, I'm still single

Y did u stop texting for 9 days in the first place? Did u guys have a fight or something

Your sentence always make me laugh n smile.. a good medicine and cure to me

I kinda agree with u. His nick suits him, funnybone

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Okay, last month i ask her like why she doesn't initiate much, and she didn't give me any reason behind it, stating that she doesn't know and I maybe PMS that day and told her that we'll reevaluate this relationship (I know i screw up this part) and something about giving up on her if i didn't ask her the reason why? so i guess that she may have assume that we're done and i didn't contact her for 9 days that day, cause I was having road trip with friends also.
So last 2 days i called her twice and messaged her once, and no reply. I know that things is my fault also, but come to think 9 days and she never didn't even contact me?

So how do I go about it? I don't really wanna lose her, but I still like her. I just want to talk to her, but kena ignore pulak.
I've decided to push aside my pride and see how things go.

silent mode activated.
It will be hard to talk with her, you may try but make sure you got extra bullet to fire it back.

how would you feel if someone told you that you are incompetent?
moreover, she is still a girl. Girl are full of emotions.

if my assumption is correct, she is not fully angry at you.. just she does not want to be wronged.. if she had not putting effort, how come your relationship still stands till 10mths? if there was an answer, it was that you, TS is weighing her performance in relationship..and then question her about her, not performing at times.. and that makes her feel wronged..

As hard as it is for you to do, I think u should keep ur pride and let her go. See if she comes back. Otherwise it's clear she doesn't need or want u that much.

Well...at least I can still make others smile with my desperate singlehood status..not all bad

it hint she want break up... jsut like my ex did

you're in danger zone. can see that you still have feeling towards her

10 months your rship not so strong la. You still in probationary stage.

Two calls and two text only? If you really think she is important to you, call her 100X ! until she pick up ! Thats what I did.

You know there's always people saying that don't be too desperate, and i follow this rules and as oppose you say i should call her 100x.
I feel like calling her but u know later she feel like I'm desperate, and like annoyed.
If given the opportunity I would call her till she picks up.

It depends how you approach it. If call 100 times and given the right explanation the girl know you are concern and value the relationship.

If you call to complaint or scold her she sure will annoyed.

If your relationship can't withstand a little obstacles, your gf probably don't love you as much as you think, regardless of how long the duration of relationship is.

It is basic consensus that no one likes to be ignored, particularly but the one they like/love, and particularly if it is their significant other.


If someone ignores you, it's no different from someone giving you the finger, because ignoring people is a display of disrespect, kinda like that lady driver who wants to merge into your lane without looking and almost clips your bumper, and then when you honk at her or move to the side to glare at her, she pretends like nothing happened.

That is disrespect. Why would anyone put up with that?

Words of advice: Gf can ignore bf, but bf cant ignore gf, no matter who's wrong, SHE's ALWAYS right.

Even if arguments occured, you have to still msg her morning, ask her how's her lunch, tell her you're home from work, good night etc. (EVEN THOUGH SHE IGNORE YOU). Just continue to do so. Unless you want a breakup

Yea you are right. If you do it she forgive you pretty quick if you ignore the more emo and furious she will be.

TS,from my view is..ur gf dun wan to reply ur message and answer ur call maybe is bcoz she still under shilly-shally, she hv lose heart in the relation but not willing to broke up with u...
she dun wan face it..

Yep, the only way to overcome this is after she has forgive you (no matter who's wrong), try to tell her in a nice way, and hopefully she will understand.

But chances are if something happen it goes back to the same sh*t again. That's girls No use talking senses to them, but at least let them know how you feel and think when she ignores you.

Not being desparate if you trying to tackle girls la..
But shes ur gf..u need to be 'desparate'
Lol

did you do something to make your gf angry??

I am now on silent mode with my bf, he did something to piss me off. Best way to mend this is show her you still care, just as prometric mentioned.

I guess silent treatment shows how mature you are, instead of communicating like an adult on what your bf did that bother you, you choose to act immaturely so that your bf can play guessing game with you.

That shows how much you really cared about your bf.

you don't know my bf.

If I were to tell him, it will stress him more, and it doesn't do any good for our relationship. Silent treatment is the best. Time for me to cool off as well.

This post has been edited by freshstart: Oct 7 2013, 12:20 PM

Fren ah, you are her boyfriend not some pursuer la.

What is wrong with calling her until she pick up?

I a bit exaggerating, why don't you space out, call her 10am, no pick up, then 12pm, then 3pm, then 6pm, then 9pm. Don';t just sms and wait lah.

No you think ppl is mind reader. Silent treatment are for childish ppl. Mature will bring it up and talk about it.

Regardless your partner like it or not make it firm sit down and talk it out get it done.

Okay, she at last replied to my facebook messages but I think she gave up hope already.
I told her that if i didn't call you can call me. and she replied "You didn't contact me for a week so I assume you wont contact me la".
But her main phone still switch off, couldn't get her.
I guess this is really over d, I just want the chance to talk to her one last time and just gently part ways, and not just ignoring each other and move on. At least we've dated and think it of something like the last respect before I stop all communication with her and leave her alone.
I've tried to communicate but her reply just couldn't make it.


What do you guys think? Until then I can't really think properly and it affects my studying life.
Please give me insight on how do I bring this matter up.
Thanks in advance.

This post has been edited by Bangala: Oct 7 2013, 08:57 PM

be fierce to her ?

find someone to pretend to be your new gf to make her jealous ?

or just break up with her first before she dump u ..

Don't hope too much, just accept that you and her are no more. Even if you want to set a closure properly, but she just don't want to see your face anymore, do you intend to drag this problem until you failed your studies?

Just give her one long, final goodbye messages, fb or sms, tell her everything that you want to tell, ask her to forgive and forget, and then the final bye bye, respectfully.

And then go study.

My last advice to you is

Do you treasure her? Do you want her.

If yes,
Please ask her out to talk. Tell her what have happen and tell her you value this relationship . Provide a list of solutions let her choose if she dont get her to suggest.

Anybody can give up. It requires intelligence and loyalty to keep go on. If after talk still fails you have tried.

If No,
Move on

Bangla,life is short and so was your relationship, time to move on and fins a better one who wont be such an immature little girl always being sensitive about the little issues what happen when you get married and on your marriage night you argue over little things, that wudnt be so nice, stop thinking about her and focus on your studies score well and show others what a capable person you are then the other girls will come and you will forget about her and find much better and prettier ones, i guarantee you she will regret and will beg you to take her back

Precisely! Men have no idea how much they're stressing women out when they don't pujuk the woman back. Like I said, ignoring someone is a sign of disrespect, don't men know that they have to earn that respect from their women?

No wonder men live longer than women, because women are constantly being stressed out by men!

You go girl! Don't mind what the other guys here are telling you. If your bf doesn't pujuk you back, then he's not worth your time and effort anyway. Giving him the silent treatment is also great for him to reflect on the mistakes he's made, after all, men are clueless about what women want.

What you mean by you call her and text her, she doesn't reply to you? She no pick up your call even when you call her a few times? Sometime she busy you know. Is this LDR or close relationship? If LDR, it is time you know to pay her a visit and let the magic happen.

since u decided to let go and she doesnt wanna come out and see u, best way is to bite the bullet and no contact. she will contact u when she is ready, hence u focus on ur studies. it's hard to do, it sucks, but tell urself, its all for the better.

when u get sad, just occupy urself with things to do, going out with friends help a lot, since u are studying i think that can be accomplised easily.

her main phone is not off, its just she has already blocked you

main point is you didnt managed to perform. u are a low performer and therefore she is firing you

Hire and Fire theory, just like Donald Trump. Good one, this is what it is about

The feelings I have for her is still like the first time I met her. I really don't give up, but once I give up, I really ignore the person till my last breath.
Very hard la, keep avoiding this kind of conversation but nevertheless I'll still try to talk to her again.
Perhaps I've been this insecure guy in the relationship due to her lack of effort and has backfire me.

piap liao bo?

This post has been edited by thomasyke: Oct 8 2013, 03:10 PM

yup.. thats what life is about
when it comes to friends, relationship and even family

dblstandardsux,

my bf is one of a kind, he don't pujuk, never pujuk me before in our 1 year ++ relationship. So never expect him to.

the silent treatment is for us to cool off, and reflect what we want in our relationship, and also to move on from the chaos.

That's exactly what I said, it's right that you give him the silent treatment for him to reflect upon his mistakes. 1 year plus he never pujuk you? He's lucky you don't dump his ass. If only guys know how to appreciate great gfs like you

Dumping him is not an option I will go for. Like I mentioned, he's one of a kind.

Wish he will come and read this thread, let him realize how great I am.

He's not just the only one who is one of a kind, you also one of a kind.

Unless you're a twin, then you're two of a kind. Then please intro your sis to us too.

Prepare for the worst...

1. Dump her and look for new GF.
2. Move on with life and forget everything.

that's make us a special couple.

sorry, I don't have sis, neither is my bf.

Talk is easy, but to execute it is hard. I mean you care and like her, but you feel that it shouldn't end like this.
Haha maybe I can't accept no from a person and will try until I succeed
Nvm la, still young still young. Can find other prettier girls.

This post has been edited by Bangala: Oct 8 2013, 11:56 PM

How to know if she has already blocked my number? She kept giving excuse like;

1) Phone battery kong
2) Phone left in backpack
3) After few days her phone still no battery say no time

Never play kayu tiga, always honest, loyal, and ask her well being also kena like this. Really suck man
I know i may have threaten to give up on the relationship due to her problem, and maybe even hurt her even I was unaware. Anyway either way still my fault for telling that.

This post has been edited by Bangala: Oct 9 2013, 12:00 AM

Okay one more question.

Let's say I tried but didn't have the opportunity get through her phone to say the last words;
Is it okay to just pm her through Facebook and write her my letter? Or just ignore and delete all contact even on Facebook.
I don't like ignoring when things goes sour, not my type. I like to settle things so that we won't have resentment towards each other later in future.

AND

Is it okay to ask how she feels in the relationship for the last time.




Perhaps she's even reading this forum.

This post has been edited by Bangala: Oct 9 2013, 12:02 AM

Look, if she doesn't have the decency to give you a closure, what makes you think she really value the relationship?

You think a person that loves and respects you would do this to you?

First of all, why didn't you text her for 9 days? She is probably mad at you for not texting her. Anyway, try to reconcile with her. If she still ignores you then forget it and move on.

seriously why the heck you want to ignore texting message to her for 9 days. what if she do the same to you.
of course you will get angry. this is what we call ego.. you have to take away the ego man
seriously its gonna ruin your relationship. never ever do that.. in relationship. away there is the one who give away just to make
sure the relationship go on. just remember. don't expect. give more.. Cause my relation also is like that. that's why its stay for 12 years till now.
my English not so good. just tell from what i have experience.