Girlfriend ignoring me. Help
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 Oct 8 2013, 10:40 AM
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239 posts Joined: Nov 2012 From: Penang  
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What you mean by you call her and text her, she doesn't reply to you? She no pick up your call even when you call her a few times? Sometime she busy you know. Is this LDR or close relationship? If LDR, it is time you know to pay her a visit and let the magic happen.
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Oct 8 2013, 11:07 AM
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QUOTE(Bangala @ Oct 7 2013, 08:52 PM) Okay, she at last replied to my facebook messages but I think she gave up hope already. since u decided to let go and she doesnt wanna come out and see u, best way is to bite the bullet and no contact. she will contact u when she is ready, hence u focus on ur studies. it's hard to do, it sucks, but tell urself, its all for the better.I told her that if i didn't call you can call me. and she replied "You didn't contact me for a week so I assume you wont contact me la". But her main phone still switch off, couldn't get her. I guess this is really over d, I just want the chance to talk to her one last time and just gently part ways, and not just ignoring each other and move on. At least we've dated and think it of something like the last respect before I stop all communication with her and leave her alone. I've tried to communicate but her reply just couldn't make it.  What do you guys think? Until then I can't really think properly and it affects my studying life. Please give me insight on how do I bring this matter up. Thanks in advance.  when u get sad, just occupy urself with things to do, going out with friends help a lot, since u are studying i think that can be accomplised easily.  |
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Oct 8 2013, 02:25 PM
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699 posts Joined: Nov 2008
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her main phone is not off, its just she has already blocked you
main point is you didnt managed to perform. u are a low performer and therefore she is firing you |
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Oct 8 2013, 02:48 PM
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239 posts Joined: Nov 2012 From: Penang
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QUOTE(PhilHellmuth @ Oct 8 2013, 02:25 PM) her main phone is not off, its just she has already blocked you Hire and Fire theory, just like Donald Trump. Good one, this is what it is about main point is you didnt managed to perform. u are a low performer and therefore she is firing you |
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Oct 8 2013, 03:01 PM
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38 posts Joined: Feb 2013
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QUOTE(aspire2oo6 @ Oct 8 2013, 07:26 AM) My last advice to you is The feelings I have for her is still like the first time I met her. I really don't give up, but once I give up, I really ignore the person till my last breath. Do you treasure her? Do you want her. If yes, Please ask her out to talk. Tell her what have happen and tell her you value this relationship . Provide a list of solutions let her choose if she dont get her to suggest. Anybody can give up. It requires intelligence and loyalty to keep go on. If after talk still fails you have tried. If No, Move on Very hard la, keep avoiding this kind of conversation but nevertheless I'll still try to talk to her again. Perhaps I've been this insecure guy in the relationship due to her lack of effort and has backfire me. |
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Oct 8 2013, 03:09 PM
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409 posts Joined: Jun 2007 From: <20k group
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piap liao bo?
This post has been edited by thomasyke: Oct 8 2013, 03:10 PM |
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Oct 8 2013, 03:52 PM
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QUOTE(Ketchum @ Oct 8 2013, 02:48 PM) Hire and Fire theory, just like Donald Trump. Good one, this is what it is about yup.. thats what life is aboutwhen it comes to friends, relationship and even family |
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Oct 8 2013, 03:58 PM
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QUOTE(dblstandardsux @ Oct 8 2013, 10:37 AM) Precisely! Men have no idea how much they're stressing women out when they don't pujuk the woman back. Like I said, ignoring someone is a sign of disrespect, don't men know that they have to earn that respect from their women? dblstandardsux,No wonder men live longer than women, because women are constantly being stressed out by men! You go girl! Don't mind what the other guys here are telling you. If your bf doesn't pujuk you back, then he's not worth your time and effort anyway. Giving him the silent treatment is also great for him to reflect on the mistakes he's made, after all, men are clueless about what women want. my bf is one of a kind, he don't pujuk, never pujuk me before in our 1 year ++ relationship. So never expect him to. the silent treatment is for us to cool off, and reflect what we want in our relationship, and also to move on from the chaos. |
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Oct 8 2013, 04:10 PM
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QUOTE(freshstart @ Oct 8 2013, 03:58 PM) dblstandardsux, That's exactly what I said, it's right that you give him the silent treatment for him to reflect upon his mistakes. 1 year plus he never pujuk you? He's lucky you don't dump his ass. If only guys know how to appreciate great gfs like you my bf is one of a kind, he don't pujuk, never pujuk me before in our 1 year ++ relationship. So never expect him to. the silent treatment is for us to cool off, and reflect what we want in our relationship, and also to move on from the chaos.  |
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Oct 8 2013, 04:23 PM
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QUOTE(dblstandardsux @ Oct 8 2013, 04:10 PM) That's exactly what I said, it's right that you give him the silent treatment for him to reflect upon his mistakes. 1 year plus he never pujuk you? He's lucky you don't dump his ass. If only guys know how to appreciate great gfs like you Dumping him is not an option I will go for. Like I mentioned, he's one of a kind.Wish he will come and read this thread, let him realize how great I am.  |
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Oct 8 2013, 04:57 PM
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QUOTE(freshstart @ Oct 8 2013, 04:23 PM) Dumping him is not an option I will go for. Like I mentioned, he's one of a kind. He's not just the only one who is one of a kind, you also one of a kind. Wish he will come and read this thread, let him realize how great I am. Unless you're a twin, then you're two of a kind. Then please intro your sis to us too. |
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Oct 8 2013, 04:58 PM
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Prepare for the worst...
1. Dump her and look for new GF. 2. Move on with life and forget everything. |
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Oct 8 2013, 05:34 PM
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QUOTE(dblstandardsux @ Oct 8 2013, 04:57 PM) He's not just the only one who is one of a kind, you also one of a kind. that's make us a special couple. Unless you're a twin, then you're two of a kind. Then please intro your sis to us too. sorry, I don't have sis, neither is my bf.  |
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Oct 8 2013, 11:43 PM
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QUOTE(acbc @ Oct 8 2013, 04:58 PM) Prepare for the worst... Talk is easy, but to execute it is hard. I mean you care and like her, but you feel that it shouldn't end like this. 1. Dump her and look for new GF. 2. Move on with life and forget everything. Haha maybe I can't accept no from a person and will try until I succeed Nvm la, still young still young. Can find other prettier girls.  This post has been edited by Bangala: Oct 8 2013, 11:56 PM |
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Oct 8 2013, 11:47 PM
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QUOTE(PhilHellmuth @ Oct 8 2013, 02:25 PM) her main phone is not off, its just she has already blocked you How to know if she has already blocked my number? She kept giving excuse like;main point is you didnt managed to perform. u are a low performer and therefore she is firing you 1) Phone battery kong 2) Phone left in backpack 3) After few days her phone still no battery say no time Never play kayu tiga, always honest, loyal, and ask her well being also kena like this. Really suck man I know i may have threaten to give up on the relationship due to her problem, and maybe even hurt her even I was unaware. Anyway either way still my fault for telling that. This post has been edited by Bangala: Oct 9 2013, 12:00 AM |
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Oct 8 2013, 11:53 PM
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38 posts Joined: Feb 2013
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Okay one more question.
Let's say I tried but didn't have the opportunity get through her phone to say the last words; Is it okay to just pm her through Facebook and write her my letter? Or just ignore and delete all contact even on Facebook. I don't like ignoring when things goes sour, not my type. I like to settle things so that we won't have resentment towards each other later in future. AND Is it okay to ask how she feels in the relationship for the last time.  Perhaps she's even reading this forum.  This post has been edited by Bangala: Oct 9 2013, 12:02 AM |
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Oct 9 2013, 12:04 AM
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98 posts Joined: Jan 2008 From: Fight Club
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Look, if she doesn't have the decency to give you a closure, what makes you think she really value the relationship?
You think a person that loves and respects you would do this to you? |
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Oct 10 2013, 03:31 PM
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2 posts Joined: Jul 2011 From: KL
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First of all, why didn't you text her for 9 days? She is probably mad at you for not texting her. Anyway, try to reconcile with her. If she still ignores you then forget it and move on.
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Oct 11 2013, 09:33 AM
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6 posts Joined: Apr 2005
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seriously why the heck you want to ignore texting message to her for 9 days. what if she do the same to you.
of course you will get angry. this is what we call ego.. you have to take away the ego man seriously its gonna ruin your relationship. never ever do that.. in relationship. away there is the one who give away just to make sure the relationship go on. just remember. don't expect. give more.. Cause my relation also is like that. that's why its stay for 12 years till now.  my English not so good. just tell from what i have experience. |
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