I guess everyone is against your idea because we have seen it happened so often. An old, rich, successful man with playing with a young girl.

Personally I'd advise you not to do it. I lost my girlfriend when she stepped in to the working world because she was exposed to all those successful working men at her work place. What I'm saying is that she's just attracted to the success and maturity of those older men. And being old as they are, they have experience on "capturing" younger girls hearts. I'm not saying you are the same materialistic girl, but I suggest you think it through because as of now, it just seems like you are admiring him from afar and have yet to find out if you are both compatible.

To answer your questions,
Yes I feel that 20 years is a big gap. Yes I think he will be attracted to you (maybe only sexually). What you should do is think it through very carefully before doing anything, because it's very easy for a girl in her 20s to seduce a man in his 40s.

I have a friend who is with a guy about 10 years older than her. She's really happy because he can provide her with luxuries such as Prada, Hermes, Rolex good food, holidays etc. But I know those are in exchange for sex.

I'm not trying to put you down, but more often than not, we hear stories about how a young girl got used by older men. I find it rather distasteful for a young girl to be with a man from (almost) a different generation.

Well， i don't want to make any comment on the choices. Will focus on what would seduce the man.

I am just 33 years old, may not be a good reference but at least you have something to refer to.

I will keep a lady in mind if:
- she is pretty,
- she looks like my cup of tea.
- she looks sexy

She would come into my mind often, if:
- have frequent physical touch (grab my hand when laugh and etc)
- She care about me.
- I feel like i need to do something like protect her or so.
- She can guess my feeling.
- She always look at me with 'fire' in her eyes.

once you passed above few criteria, mating with him would be not that difficult.

Happy humping

Maybe he's a gynaelogist that he totally lose interest after seeing countless of.....

All men that has careers will be attentive to their job btw not only him.

Okay my advise will be think of the future prospect like 20-30 years after.

If you are willing to be some nurse for some 70 year old guy when you are 48 then okay la.....

Tapi sakit sendiri tanggung ya.
Problem is, dia ada minat sama you tak?

Love him, don't care about what other people will say about you two. If he loves you back why not, you 2 are the ones who have to create family, not other people. As for me, I never cared about what other people say, I live in my own world

thanks everyone. God bless you guys! I will see as it goes

if you want, go lah, buat apa asking people advice ?

unless you know you are doing something wrong....
in this case also.... buat apa asking people for advice again ?

best fact is u r a gold digger n u dont realise it. that is so ****** up. ur one worst case scenario edi.

Normal, it's normal. Young men just couldn't impress much. Talk and act like an idiot most of the time.

Here are my 2 cents worth from experience. In my 20s I dated a few older guys, most casually, 1 seriously. The 1 I dated seriously is 12 yrs older than I am. It is easy to get older guys attracted to a younger girl cos u r still well, a young sweet thing. But to develop a serious relationship is really hard. Firstly, the age gap will take its toll after some time. Dif interest, dif social groups, dif problems. It is hard to understand him cos his experiences r dif. He finds it hard to understand u cos in a lot of sense he views u as a kid.

Secondly, respect and power. U will realise that u will have very lil if any power in the relationship simply because he doesnt respect u as his equal. This leads to frustration cos no matter how young someone is, it doesn't mean they cant make decisions or have good opinions.

Thirdly, ego and perception. No matter what the reason u decided to date the guy, people will treat u abnormally. His female friends either treat me like a gold digger or a lil sister that they wanna protect constantly. His male friends either treat me like meat or that silly girl that doesn't realise what she is getting into. My ego couldnt take the drama.

Lastly, bcos he is older and more experienced, u always wonder if u r being played out.

For a man, I have no issues dating younger women as long as she can carry herself and be mature about it. Some men spend most of their younger years concentrating on their career so unlike everyone else here, I don't really think there's anything suspicious about the guy(then again,I don't know him at all).Like they say, life starts at 40. As I posted earlier, go for it but don't really rush and don't be so 'desperate' or at least act like you are not.

The only drawback probably is I would feel a bit insecure about being with you as there are always someone younger and better that would probably suit you out there.

Honestly I am younger than you let me share my views from your experience the age gap is not only the challenge mental age is as well.

I close to never mix with ppl same age with me. Most of my friends and business partners are 30+ age about 10+ years different from me. That gives me knowledge and experience I eventually need to learn with that I have a head start.

My life partneris 5 years+ younger than me but my partner mental age is about my age.

So just imagine the age gaps in between worlds.

For your case due to your physical and mental age too far apart you think negative.

Example : why must you focus on whether he plays you?
Your question should be how do I benefit, learn and can leverage from this relationship?.

Does he make you a better person?
Does he leverage with your advantages and disadvantages?
Does he share his experience with you?
Does he share his networks with you?
Does his plans have you in it?
Does he celebrate his success with you?

You understand now why mental age is important? What you focus expands.

Let explain to you your so called power and respect
Its not they dont respect you they tell you so they want you to be a better person due to your mental age is younger than your age. I do that to my life partner as well I will advice and explain.

Because we care so we teach and share but for people that are childish or young they take it as annoying and nagging. Those ppl after I try 10 times I will avoid because life is about growing and expanding. The world change regardless what you do technology advances everyday but why some human prefer stay the way they are or go backward in certain things.

Ts if you think you like him go for it but be prepared the challenges you will need to confront.

This post has been edited by aspire2oo6: Aug 19 2013, 09:35 AM

What sort of relationship are you looking for:

a) Short term - just a fling

b) Mid Term - until u find someone younger who is just as rich

c) Long Term - for Life, etc

If its (a) or (b), go for it. He's rich, you're young.

But assuming its ©, do u want to be tied down so young. How many men have u dated? Do u want kids, when? What about hin, does he want kids.

Btw, I think there is a good chance that your man may be GAY. So, do try to find out before jumping in.


Specific tips on how to seduce him / make him take notice.

1) Wear a revealing low cut blouse with a half-cup bra and pretend to drop something, pen, etc and bend down to pick it up.
2) Wear short skirt with G-String and same thing, drop something and bend down to pick it up.

After that, give him a cheeky smile and wink.

Btw, do u know how Monica Lewenski got Bill's attention. She was on the upper floor, wearing a mid-lenght skirt with no panties and Bill was at the lower floor and she called Mr President and when Bill looked up, it was the scene from Basic Instint. True Story

If he does not give you any specific look / stare, or contact u for drinks, that means, he's GAY.

This post has been edited by cfa28: Aug 19 2013, 12:22 PM

man im approaching 30, and i find that it is hard to click with girls your age. i find them too young, and we have different interests. girls your age love to go travel/club etc etc. my age we wanna save up for investments or family etc etc. different motivations.

you are actually very funny.

Your expectation is to get people to support you? come on, now is you or forumer want to get into relationship? if you have firmed up your mind to start with that guy, just go on and do not has to create a thread just to "gain unnecessary support"

When people give you -ve advice, you feel sigh and claim people not helping? Or you are just picker who only want to listen to positive response?

Be more realistic gal.

If you like him, then just hit on him. Why so many questions?

It is nice that u r positive but honestly not everyone starts relationships with such good intentions. Sometimes it is good to be suspicious of other people's intentions. And sometimes it is essential to plan for the worst. how many older guy/ younger girl relationships stem from sincere feelings?

The lesson i learned from that relationship is never doubt my instincts .

Thats my point never ever judge instincts especially having such negative perspective.

Its a skill you need to master its call fish for information/personality check.


Notice your character negative + negative = ?

Not everyone starts relationship with such bad intentions.

Lately i do trust my instinct then i decided to go against my instinct guess what it really worked. I didnt expect it to work out.

So key is knowledge what you focus expands if you focus on failing the probability is lots higher

To TS, I would like to be the perennial optimist and wish you all the best in your pursuit but the odds are stacked against you. My two cents would be for you to go out with someone your age and forget this older man if you are looking for a long-term relationship. Otherwise, for a fling, hey, you go girl!

If a player was so easy to read they wouldnt be players

of course its easy because you focus it to be hard so you are an expert in making it hard. Get it? I repeat what you focus expands? Notice at the moment you are an expert in being negative because you choose to master it. So just imagine whoever you mentor will be as good as you in being negative. Whoever mix with me will be positive because i focus on how to master that subject..

Have u heard of a saying? Who knows a thief better than a thief himself. So how to learn? Learn it from a player talk and be friend with a player.

Hope that clarify your confusion.