Nope, sorry. I have to disagree with u. If players were so easy to read, they wouldnt b players. Pls dont categorise players to be pretty boys or those with a lil bit of cash in his pocket that he uses to charm a girl. Those are amateurs. Even thieves have dif grades. U would never see a real player coming, he doesnt have to b good looking nor does he have to spend one cent on a girl.

This is nothing to do with being positive or negative. It is about being realistic about human beings. Not all older guys r players, not all pretty girls r gold diggers, but it wouldnt hurt to be cautious. Best case, it works and u run off into the sunset on his white horse. Worst case, u learn a lesson and move on stronger than b4. What's so bad about that?

I am not a negative person, if i was i would have given up on love at bf number one itself. But i am not an optimist either. I have a very strict list of criterias on what i expect from a guy. While money and good looks r not on that list, i assure u the list is harsh nevertheless. And let's get real, even when a guy fits every criteria i have, there is no guarantee he will b like that the rest of his life. People change. Enjoy the good times, but dont lose sight that it could get bad. That way u always have a worst case senario contengency plan.

Maybe u r lucky that the guys u know r sincere and all that. But not everyone is like that. Ts needs to b careful cos she is dealing with someone much more experienced than her.

Seems like you got yourself confuse what a player is so the question is even you do not know what is a player how to do you identify one?

Thats the benefit of being stubborn they never learn so they keep getting cheated and trapped. For an amateur like yourself let me give you a lesson in life if everyone is so perfect you wont need to have teacher in school then lecturer in colleges and university. So when talking about players you are the teacher of yourself? HAHAHAHA

Its up to you to believe or not. I have said what i got to say. Remember your actions reveals your character and not what you believe you are. Seems like many guys got you for you to think like that. I wont explain to you how to identify its for you to find out. Its never about looks or spending its one essential tools that always reveal the answer.

You want the honest opinion from me you are very negative and i usually avoid ppl like that.

This post has been edited by aspire2oo6: Aug 20 2013, 02:43 AM

Dif people r dif. Best to respect the differences instead of getting personal when others share dif ideologies. The ability to agree to disagree makes for interesting conversations instead of being derogatory or insulting towards some random person on the internet.

Hmm must be sad in his shoe 42 years old still single. Cant imagine how he live his life. Try hang out as a friend lo see what is his reaction if overly romantic you better beware. If lack of confident just ditch him lol.

I'm 27 this year and had a few girls below the age of 21 (but still legal lah) expressed their interest in me. But the thought of being with someone more than 5 years younger than me makes me feel pedo-ish.

So yeah, you might wants him but he might be more comfortable with someone around his age.

http://www.thestar.com.my/News/Nation/2013...rold-woman.aspx

Published: Tuesday August 20, 2013 MYT 12:00:00 AM
Updated: Tuesday August 20, 2013 MYT 7:31:02 AM

Daughter stumbles upon father in bed with 32-year-old woman

BY R.S.N. MURALI
MURALI@THESTAR.COM.MY


MALACCA: A seamstress who came back to her family home for Hari Raya earlier than scheduled had a rude shock when she stumbled upon her father in bed with his young girlfriend.

The 39-year-old woman, who works in Kuantan, had returned to her home in Felcra Lembah Kesang, Merlimau, about 23km from here, at noon last Monday.

As soon as she entered the hall, her 75-year-old father, who looked agitated, dashed out of his bedroom and questioned why she had returned earlier than expected.

The seamstress in her police report claimed that her father looked uneasy and was perspiring when he came out of the room, clad only in his sarong.

When she entered her father’s room to take something, she was taken aback by the sight of what appeared to be someone covered under a blanket on the bed.

However, when she asked her father about what she saw, he denied that there was someone in his room and told her that she must be hallucinating.

The woman became suspicious again when the father locked the room when he came out to greet a group of relatives who had come to visit the family about 20 minutes later.

Her suspicion was further fuelled when she saw a shadow moving around in her father’s locked room through the gap underneath the door.

She then forced her father to open the door but he claimed he had lost the keys and made some pretext of looking for tools in a store room to break the door.

The woman said one of her relatives, who lost patience, kicked the door open and found a 32-year-old woman cowering under the bed with her face covered in the blanket.

The man, who became angry, pushed his daughter and attempted to flee with his girlfriend, but they were overpowered by the relatives.

The man and his girlfriend were handed over to enforcement officers from the Jasin Religious Department at about 9.30pm the same day.

The man’s 69-year-old wife was not at home when the incident occurred as she was spending Hari Raya holidays in her village in Negri Sembilan.

It was understood that she rushed home the same day when told by her daughter of the father’s infidelity.

Go for it!!! Older men like MUCH younger attractive women, so your chances are bloody good. Unless you're missing the attractive part.

second that

or if he's elven like legolas i also ok

3,000 years old still looks like baligh baru sampai

Don't be silly laaaa... A thief steals, a robber robs, a player breaks hearts.

How difficult is it to spot a player? It's not like they're con men.

first of all.... do u expect the man of his age still single??? do your homework and investigate his background first....better safe than sorry....

to these replies, thanks for making me laugh.

20 years diff, too huge? but love can cross all seas climb all mountains jump all buildings. so no problem, go ahead

ha ha ha

Thanks to everyone who replied. I went on a few dates with him and things are looking up. He is amazing in EVERYTHING but a little bit picky, but i think i am up for the task hahha! I believe i will give it a try because without trying i will die regretful for sure.

A little bit picky? That's a red flag right there.

You're looking at things through a rose-tinted glass because you are infatuated with him and he's not showing all his bad traits because you two have just met not too long ago.

A little bit picky even at this stage means it will likely get worse as time goes by. Assuming he's a nice guy (not a player) and still single at 42 and just a little picky at this point could mean that he's way, way, waaaaaay picky if he's acting like his normal self. How do I know? I know of one 40 something single male who's pretty well off and not bad in the looks department. Even his own sister can't stand his picky-ness! That explains why he's still single.

ya, i will start from dating him casually. No rush, so i can observe him carefully while being with him. But seriously, being with him does direct my life to a much more interesting direction because he is so much more experienced in everything in life, and ya, the birds and the bees. I don't see myself losing anything as of right now.

Well I sincerely wish that things work out with both of u. Do let us know ya! :-)

Good start

Good luck.

That is good, a good relationship will make you happy and growing

if his machine still fully function u can consider

Thank you everyone. Haha! It's awkward to tell but his machine does function really damn well