Yes, but was I blaming him for not choosing me? Lol this is a rant, not a finger pointing game. He has his reasons. Is it hurtful? Yes, a little. But that's life, rejection is a part of it. A part of me is still sore with myself for being taken in in such a manner, for misreading, perhaps, or not being too careful about my emotions. If there's any blame to be made, it should be on myself.
1. The possibility of that happening is there. I will not disagree with that. I like the idea of it being a guideline and not a law. Then again, for me to even FEEL attracted to anyone at all, much less men, for that matter, it requires (and so happens to be) that they are intelligent, smart and funny. So it's not so much as whether I am unwilling to compromise on those traits, but just sharing that, based on *my* experience, I have found myself to be attracted to men who possess such traits and therefore those must be rather important traits to me. Not the other way round.

2. Well, I wasn't, even though I effectively only speak English. I guess you might have it easier in a sense, since you're not bound by silly sentiments like feeling attached to the homeland, lol. There was even a point in time where I told myself that I would never migrate overseas because I wouldn't be able to bear with the assimilation and integration of a foreign culture like myself into theirs, despite not exactly being thrilled about how things work here. But these are issues I will deal with when the time comes for me to deal with. Too early to make any concrete decisions now.

3. okok. I thought you were referring to me. You lah, never say properly. 

4. Actually that kinda happened to me as well. I never thought I'd be making friends with a bunch of extremely extroverted people (who aren't exactly the brightests bulbs in the shed), but I have learnt that there are other things to friendship other than intelligence. Such as being kind, forgiving and open minded enough to accept people for who they are, no matter how 'difficult' or socially inept (people such as... myself). Sure they annoy me sometimes with their trivialities, but I think I am truly fond of them and have grown to really love them for who they are. I also really admire them for their qualities because I wish I could be like them sometimes. But still, there's this thing I felt so direly missing from my social life- an intellectually inclined friend who actually lives near me and with whom I can have great, funny conversations with. And then he arrived into the picture. Maybe in THAT sense one could say I was deprived. Meh. >_>"

Sometimes I wonder if you had actually not just read everything, but thought about the consequences of what I've written. Yes, it is true that he would have expectations of a partner. But to have such a long standing crush on a girl (whom he CLEARLY sees as a mate) and not doing *anything* about it doesn't mean it explains why he won't want to be in a relationship with me. What you're essentially doing is blurring the lines. For one, you are jumping to an absolutist standpoint where you claim that the ONLY reason why he won't want to be with me is because he has other expectations I can't fulfill. That is not necessarily true (although it could!), and that you and some others are claiming that I do not actually see that point. This will be the last time I say this- I am more than well aware of romance and attraction and relationships being a 2 way thing- I thought that it's supposed to be a given. It's an insult to my intelligence that you people keep insisting that I am not aware of that fact and I don't appreciate it. It could be that he still has feelings for his crush, or that he isn't ready to be in a relationship at the moment. Which WOULD explain why he hasn't actually done anything to pursue his crush. Yet, he still wants to engage in some fun on the side. Refer to my response to Drian about blaming. I'm beyond playing the blaming game.

Oh my, what is up with this person? Going on again and again about the world not rotating around you... So hell bent on telling people that. Must be a massive pet peeve 

As you're ranting for the most part, I won't say much as most of it has been said on both sides of the fence already.

I will have to say this though. If you think intelligent men/women don't exist in Malaysia you need to widen your circle of friends. Sure they're a little harder to find, but mix in the right circles and you'll find them easy enough. Based on my circle of friends, you'll find most of them in the science fields (scientists) or businessmen/entrepreneurs.

A prerequisite regardless of profession/passion would be reading. I've not yet met someone who can talk about philosophy, politics or any subject with any depth; without having a passion for reading.

1. Never said they don't exist. A few exist here in LYN; heck, the guy I was talking about is one of them. Cerebrally inclined individuals exist in all societies, it's just that the probability of them existing is rather low (although it fluctuates depending on what circles one is in- like you mentioned, they tend to be more prevalent in certain fields).

2. That goes without saying because while intelligence is just one factor in how one is able to process things, the knowledge has to come from somewhere too.

So if you know this, then why are you having problems finding intellectual people to talk to? I would have recommended Real World Issues several years ago, but the quality there has degraded pretty badly.

I also found out that people can be a lot more intellectual than they seem, more often than not you just need to approach them the right way at the right time. Not everyone wants a deep conversation after a tiring day or if they have something else on their mind. Just keep an open-mind and if you can connect their topic of interest to a deeper subject they're more than likely to participate.