Recently, i discovered that my dad has a child with a china woman outside. I felt so angry but i couldnot do anything.
My dad is about 57 years old with a new born baby child! That could be even be his grandson. We are aware that my dad has been flirting around outside and my mom has been so good too him. Take caring of 3 children, we are now all grown ups and discovered this.

I couldnot tell my mom about this, but at the moment I am not sure what will be the consequence if my mom found out.
And my mom even tried to kill herself many years ago after she discovered that my dad had an affair.

Feel so helpless and I could only keep this secret and wait for the it to be revealed by itself one day. What i really worried is my mom.
What should/can i do? Do you guys think I should confront with my dad?

as long as ur dad still fulfills his responsibilities to your family, close 1 eye only lah.

Really, come ask your mum consult with me after she find out.... i will brainwash her...... Tell her death will never solve a problem.....

Talk to your father with your other siblings but without your mother's presence. Speak up and carefully deal with the situation without hurting your mother.

Confront your dad. Don't tell your mom.

Tell your dad you're aware of the affair. Ask him to think about you, his wife and his other children. If your dad still doesn't want to change, you probably need to take more serious measures.

stay out of your dad's business. your mom doesnt need to know. u're not a baby anymore and u should be more mature in accepting human failings. forgive your dad.

dont tell your mum, now old already, health not so good scared later she cannot take it. as everyone here say, confront your dad or just close one eye, talk to your siblings

hmm
ok this too

I dont think this issue is black and white. It's hard to understand ur dad's perspective unlesd you already do in which case i think you can easily forgive him.

I would just try my best to make sure everyone involved gets along with the situation as best as they can with the greatest understanding they can.

Confront your dad.

Take care of your mum and leave him if you guys are grown ups and financial capable.

Mistake can be forgiven. But only once, not twice.

What's wrong with men having an affair? I believe all these years yr dad has fulfil his responsibilities as a dad and a husband. so let him have all the sex he wants now since I believe yr mom cant satisfy him any longer. It would be silly for yr mom to leave the house or divorces yr dad bcoz of his woman.

Leave your dad alone.
Tell your mom to accept it. Your dad has done most of his responsibilities since all of you are grown up. Take care of your mom and shower her with love and affection. Get your dad to set his priorities right as to the distribution of his assets, if he has any. Get him to transfer the matrimonial home to your mom.

Whaaa???

Whatever happened to "in sickness and in health, for better or for worse"?

Shit...............does that mean if you get married and touch wood, one day you lose your job or have the misfortune to go bankrupt then your wife has the right to dump you and go find someone else cos you aren't rich enough???

1. You can't ask your dad to leave his mistress anymore as they have a child already. Asking him to leave his mistress is not much difference than causing another kid to live without a father

2. Is your dad still working and have his fixed income source? if yes then probably nothing much you can do as he have his right on how to spend his own money. If not, then just cut off his source of money and i'm sure the mistress will leave your dad in no time. I believe the mistress will leave if your dad can no longer provide her money

3. Regardless of what's happening, please inform your mum about this and do monitor her closely to prevent her from taking silly action. She definitely have the rights to know about this

A mother reaction towards certain issue changes throughout time. Hopefully now when she is older and maybe wiser, she could take this with calm

Stupid mistress! Having a child with such an old man! Obviously she didn't do the maths.

Anyway dont tell your mom or if possible send her away to live with one if your siblings. Leave your father be; it's his loss if he wants to go thru all those nappies changing and sleepless nights.

Good luck my dear

Kill the child and the China mother, burn them.

Before they lay more eggs.

Your father's affair is his business, leave it alone and stay out of it.

If you're really 'grown up', you'll know that this sort of thing happens a lot and as a loved one, you have to love them accept them for who they are. Breaking the news will probably break up your whole family, think properly and choose the wise decision.

Exactly. I think some guys are just ridiculous trying to justify their acts of infidelity just because they claim that it's purely "biological desire".
What differentiates us from animals which just f*cks around then?

Wow, just wow. I came across this topic and i just have to post. First of all, im sorry that u have to go through this, please stay strong. Second, im just disgusted and flabbergasted at some of the comments here. So what, a father and husbands duty is not only confined to providing money. Oh, so he has done his "job" that does not justify him for sleeping around. Ts, i have gone through family issues myself and a few of my friends come from broken families too. Let me tell u, they are doing just fine even without a father. My advice is not to let your mother know about this first, and discuss this with one of your more emotionally stronger sibling coz u need all the support that u can get. About confronting yr dad, is he a violent or abusive person? If he is dont even think abt confronting him or discussing this issue as it will not work out. But even if u choose to close one eye, will it be good for u and your mother in the long run? If all of yr siblings including u are financially stable and grown up, i dont see why u have to put up with your fathers betrayal and bull****.

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Added on June 16, 2012, 10:52 pmShock munkeyflo, not u too? To each his own i guess...

This post has been edited by SereneAshley: Jun 16 2012, 10:52 PM

This... shows how much an 'animal' u r when ur gf/wife no longer satisfy ur needs... it's a disgrace to even read this :facepalm: ... so I assume ur partner should be glad that she has the choice to dump u whenever u failed.