Confront your dad.

Take care of your mum and leave him if you guys are grown ups and financial capable.

Mistake can be forgiven. But only once, not twice.

Whaaa???

Whatever happened to "in sickness and in health, for better or for worse"?

Shit...............does that mean if you get married and touch wood, one day you lose your job or have the misfortune to go bankrupt then your wife has the right to dump you and go find someone else cos you aren't rich enough???

This... shows how much an 'animal' u r when ur gf/wife no longer satisfy ur needs... it's a disgrace to even read this :facepalm: ... so I assume ur partner should be glad that she has the choice to dump u whenever u failed.

Nothing wrong but sex driven only. Well, I believe that everyone has the right to do whatever they like to fulfill their needs but not create a mess or suffering to the closest or others innocent.

I really really hate the fact that guys who sleep around are considered 'OK' and girls who sleep around are sluts. Guys who sleep around should be called sex maniac/perverts. And i also hate the fact that females are being said useless in sex when they get older. Well, males are the same!!! When they get old, their **** gets old too!!!

China b****es are Horrible. The purpose of having baby is just to milk money from those old man.

Suggest you talk to your father first. Go and identify whose baby is his. This baby might be someone else. Dont fall into her trap.

Also, i believe she might holds temporary or holiday visa to enter malaysia. For such a short term, how your dad have affair with her. Call immigration and report her. It sounds bad, but at least u can stop her harrasing your family now.

i cant believe ppl like u still exist and still dare to post like this so openly like you're damn proud of it.

Wait till it happens to your loved one and you'll soon find out how it feels.

People like you is among the many reasons why ppl lost hope in humanity.

What responsibility that a husband and a father has? For me a husband/dad has the responsibility to keep the family in order, to be there and to love them. A father's responsibility is Not to provide for the family financially and f***s around cause his wife is old. Do you know we women can earn more than our husbands? We have equal bargaining power and we can leave anytime we want. If my husband did that to me, go f*** around and have a child, i will leave.. my children will definitely follow me and that i am financially capable!

do you know we women enjoy sex as much? do you know we want varieties as well.do you know we watch porn as well.. not all women, but most of us do want to satisfy each other. I believe if my husband tells me that our sex life is dull, maybe we can work things out. We too want sex as much, so if my husband under perform, too tired from work to have sex, does this mean i can go f*** another guy and be pregnant with his child?
i dont blame your thinking, maybe its bcoz u are quite traditional guy who thinks only guys can enjoy sex and have fun. You get old too, u will underperform too... teach your wife new things, explore together.. instead of having the excuse that she is old and wrinkled and unappetizing. I believe growing old together with someone we can trust and a loving family is better than having a responsible husband but leaves the family to seek his own desire.

Great ! 

I dont understand you, no feelings means you wont patch things up? Not happy means no need to put effort in repairing your family? Remember, its you who ask for her hand in marriage, you take her hand means that you promise to grow old together.
Yes there is no right or wrong, thats why there is arguments but people do try to patch things up and compromise, thats what the marriage institution is all about..
and yes we can meet someone new, but if we so easily fall for someone new, why would you want to get married in the first place where we meet new people everyday.
its commitment towards rship, not happy then settle it.. if cannot then divorce, why want to make both parties miserable staying in a marriage when my husband is having an affair outside?

Yes, from your opinions it shows you're a true blue selfish person that should remain unmarried so that you wont bring hurt to your family members. Be happy all you want, just dont hurt other ppl.

Thank God my father is not like you.

No, a police report cannot be made against him, u cant defame a group. i am a lawyer and i know my facts

PRC are everywhere in Singapore being insulted, why don't you go to any Singapore forum to protect them ? 

Having an affair is one thing. Resulting in an innocent child to be born into this world due to irresponsible behavior, now that brings the situation into a whole new level of sh*ttiness.

How's your dad looking into the whole situation? Does he regret it? Or he thinks he's doing nothing wrong, because he's a man who has desires to "spread his seeds as far and wide as possible"?

With the child, it makes things so much more complicated. Because the child bears your dad's share of genes, he will be attached because it's also his son.

I foresee, sooner or later, he may need to come into a situation where he has to make a choice. Be prepared when that happens, should it come to a point where your side can't accept the family of the other side, there may be a possibility that he will walk out. At this point, you have to be tough as a family without the dad. Be there for your mom, be supportive to her. Hold the family together as one.

A complete family is always ideal. But sometimes when the worst happens, you need to be prepared for it. And your lives will definitely be changed and greatly impacted by it. It may even come to a day where he doesn't even say a word to you, doesn't visit you, don't give a sh*t about what goes on in your life, and you live life like you don't have a father anymore.

For now, it's better not to tell your mom about it, if she can't handle it. Also, try to see from your dad's perspective and why he's doing this, if this can still be saved.

It's really saddening to be saying this on Father's Day. I hope he chooses to stay with you, and keep the family intact. It stinks to live without a dad.
@jayqc: Seriously, people like you shouldn't even get married or have kids at all. You don't understand the basis of keeping the family together. Ruining a complete happy family is okay, because things change? You probably don't give a sh*t about how other people feel, or the hurt you cause others, as long as you're getting things your way.

To TS,

1. Ask your mum to get a divorce, get yourself and your two brothers to take care of her. I'm pretty sure you both can.
2. Stop having hopes that he'll come back.
3. When his money runs out and his second wife ditch him, then decide whether or not it's worth anything to take him back.

The last person I knew doing something similar, died alone in a house he rented. His body wasn't discovered till a week afterward.

Know your priority on this case. Take your mum out of this. She's still in the relationship because of you and your siblings. Nothing else.
Things will become much more simpler after.

For Jay.
As for the logic of he's old and should be let do whatever he wants to. Does the same logic applies to this?
You're freaking retarded. Being old is not an excuse for acting like a horny 15 year old boy.

Jayqc, if u still think u r right and defending over something that's completely a rotten perspective, something is seriously wrong with ur upbringing. pity ur future family.

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Added on June 18, 2012, 10:54 am

Anyway TS, sorry for derailing the topic.

do stay strong, be independent, provide however much you can for your mom and family. They need you now.

As whether to inform your mom or not, you may want to weigh out all the pros and cons since you know about your family's situation the clearest.

Again, being 57 doesnt' mean he can act like 15.
Life expectancy for Malaysian in 2010 is 73.8 years.
Life Expectancy in Malaysia
He doesn't exactly expire 58.

Age is NOT an excuse.

Nope, not being able to keep his d!ck to himself is.

aiyo.. then why u want get married in the first place? go cheong la, rm200 per session can satisfy for 1 hour.. can eat so many dishes.. eat till you old loh..
with your mentality, there is no reason for u to get married

what? girls dunno what is cheong? dunno market rate? pls la.. dont think girls so naive now la.. if u can prove i am a guy then prove it to me.
if you marry is for peoples perception then just put a ring on your finger, better than hurting ppl in real life

Sounds like you can't keep your d!ck in your pants neither.

What's wrong is wrong. No matter how you justify it. It's still wrong.

people nowadays are just getting more and more complicated.

frm 'eating fish' outside of marriage is acceptable until married with purposes. what happened to the 'true love' .. and don't hav to sound me that im living in a fairy world.

jacqy, its good that u shared with us ur valuable opinions but the fact is, TS is asking for advice on how to deal with an unacceptable situation at home rather than listening to all ur theories of 'no wrong having a bigger appetite' advice.

there is no reason for me to pretend to be a girl here, i think u got problem with thinking that girls know a lot more stuff than they are supposed to know. yes i know bcoz my bf have frens who goes cheong whom are single and that does not bother me one bit. i dont need to prove anything to u.

You are right when you say you are entitled to your own opinions. I don't think anyone can dispute your rights. But it goes back to the fundamental understanding of morally right or wrong.

I read through your replies and i am really amazed on how you argued your opinions.

Wrong is wrong, having an affair is wrong no matter how you say or defend it. Having an affair plus having an extra "offspring" through other woman (be it accidently or intentionally) is wrong.

I don't understand your statement when you say, if he is happy, he can do it lah. Sorry, this is purely an irresponsible statement.

You don't make yourself happy at the expense of your family. Humans are selfish yes, but there is a limit and you clearly cross that with your thinking.

Yeah this world is evil, and that's because of people thinking like you.....People who thinks that a wrong is right because is right to him even though it is not right.
Is just as good as saying, you gonna rape a girl because you have "big" appetite and you will take responsibility afterwards. So, to you, this is not wrong isn't it?
Back to TS issue, i think is a very hard decision for you right now. But i personally think your mum will be hurt someday, is just a matter of time whether the truth is reveal now or later.

Perhaps you should speak to your father first??

TS just wanted some opinions and ideas from us and funny how I can read something really out of topic like jayqc. Are you a god, saint, king or the only man in the world? Stop telling people how logically your instincts or experiences or real life you have met doesn't mean other should agree. Yes I agree guys got their freedom to have fun outside so do women. From all of your replies, I don't see any advices but kept telling others whatever a man do is always right. ----------------> Not every man got the same thinking like you do

Recently, i discovered that my dad has a child with a china woman outside. I felt so angry but i couldnot do anything.
My dad is about 57 years old with a new born baby child! That could be even be his grandson. We are aware that my dad has been flirting around outside and my mom has been so good too him. Take caring of 3 children, we are now all grown ups and discovered this.

I couldnot tell my mom about this, but at the moment I am not sure what will be the consequence if my mom found out.
And my mom even tried to kill herself many years ago after she discovered that my dad had an affair.

Feel so helpless and I could only keep this secret and wait for the it to be revealed by itself one day. What i really worried is my mom.
What should/can i do? Do you guys think I should confront with my dad?