dont tell your mum, now old already, health not so good scared later she cannot take it. as everyone here say, confront your dad or just close one eye, talk to your siblings

What responsibility that a husband and a father has? For me a husband/dad has the responsibility to keep the family in order, to be there and to love them. A father's responsibility is Not to provide for the family financially and f***s around cause his wife is old. Do you know we women can earn more than our husbands? We have equal bargaining power and we can leave anytime we want. If my husband did that to me, go f*** around and have a child, i will leave.. my children will definitely follow me and that i am financially capable!

do you know we women enjoy sex as much? do you know we want varieties as well.do you know we watch porn as well.. not all women, but most of us do want to satisfy each other. I believe if my husband tells me that our sex life is dull, maybe we can work things out. We too want sex as much, so if my husband under perform, too tired from work to have sex, does this mean i can go f*** another guy and be pregnant with his child?
i dont blame your thinking, maybe its bcoz u are quite traditional guy who thinks only guys can enjoy sex and have fun. You get old too, u will underperform too... teach your wife new things, explore together.. instead of having the excuse that she is old and wrinkled and unappetizing. I believe growing old together with someone we can trust and a loving family is better than having a responsible husband but leaves the family to seek his own desire.

I dont understand you, no feelings means you wont patch things up? Not happy means no need to put effort in repairing your family? Remember, its you who ask for her hand in marriage, you take her hand means that you promise to grow old together.
Yes there is no right or wrong, thats why there is arguments but people do try to patch things up and compromise, thats what the marriage institution is all about..
and yes we can meet someone new, but if we so easily fall for someone new, why would you want to get married in the first place where we meet new people everyday.
its commitment towards rship, not happy then settle it.. if cannot then divorce, why want to make both parties miserable staying in a marriage when my husband is having an affair outside?

No, a police report cannot be made against him, u cant defame a group. i am a lawyer and i know my facts

jayqc, i dont want to debate with you cause we can go on all night. What i want to say is, a marriage is a long time commitment, i didnt say you MUST grow old together but its a promise that each of us hope to grow old together with the person who has bear u children, who has gone thru 20-30 years of ups and down.
And i am not living in a fantasy world, nobody enters into a marriage to foresee that the family will be torn apart, to be broken. we each have a role to play in how youdecide the outcome of your marriage to be. Things change, feelings fade but if you dont love her in the first place, u wouldnt have choose her to be your partner.. its how you choose the outcome.
Not all guys cheat, so i hope you dont generalise and put them in the same shoes as you.

aiyo.. then why u want get married in the first place? go cheong la, rm200 per session can satisfy for 1 hour.. can eat so many dishes.. eat till you old loh..
with your mentality, there is no reason for u to get married

what? girls dunno what is cheong? dunno market rate? pls la.. dont think girls so naive now la.. if u can prove i am a guy then prove it to me.
if you marry is for peoples perception then just put a ring on your finger, better than hurting ppl in real life

there is no reason for me to pretend to be a girl here, i think u got problem with thinking that girls know a lot more stuff than they are supposed to know. yes i know bcoz my bf have frens who goes cheong whom are single and that does not bother me one bit. i dont need to prove anything to u.

i really want to know how old are you and whether u have someone to love now or not. But somehow your defence is tad bit immature n childish.
Dating and marriage is a completely different phase, we date because we want to find the right one to be our lifetime partners. That is why it is a Big leap when someone gets married bcoz u are certain that she is the one for u. In ur previous post u say u get married is for career advancement bcoz society perceive u as being responsible and stable, basically you are selfish, who only cares about urself. nuff said

Jayqc, i dont know why in the world you think that the wife will leave the husband when the husband is bankrupt or having financial difficulties. its either u watch too much movies or you havent find true love.. You use money to use women, of couse they will leave u when u are in hot water. i doubt the girls here in this thread will leave our husbands when they having difficulties, i will instead stand by him and find ways to make things better... You dont really understand what love and commitment means do you?

ok, first of all why they want to have a mask to cover their face? to impress u?
most of our fathers had financial difficulties including my late father who was sick and jobless at one point, i dont see my mum leaving my dad and go find other richer guys. my uncle is a bankrupt till today, and yet his wife is still by his side to start up a family business. In your life there is only two words and those two words in your dictionary are combined 'happiness =pleasure".

erm.. lets say he is old enough to frequent prostitutes and sometimes give them money cause he feel pity for them and not pity for TS mum or any married women that is facing this issues. Hurray to humanity

no wonder, you are 21 years old and you do not love ur mum. u just started adulthood but acting like you know what is best and what is right. I lol when u say u will ask ur dad whether the mistress is prettier than ur mum, y ah? u also want to join in the party?

kiddo, who needs a hubby who gives me money and come home after having a happy session with the girls outside? what is the difference between this and a prostitute? how can u say he still take care, love the wife when he is outside playing around? my house is not a hotel, it is a HOME.

lol.. u very funny. the more u reply this way, the more i think that u are the illegitimate child of one prc and ur dad, tats y u dun really like ur mum and u come here rant rant rant all day long so that ppl can pity u

ps: its just my opinion

+99999 a wise man has spoken

this kiddo provide us with good entertainment for the past few days. He's just immature, at 21, i doubt he is working. flaunting money to buy him 1 hour happiness using his dad's money and telling the whole world that women are just a tool, Shame kiddo.. Duh.. no one in their right mind will think of marrying this type of men.

oh, then i should be proud of u that u are in college, but work like a dog to spend on girls to buy u happiness? oh wow... impressive! good job kiddo. great respect for women by paying them to service u?

No, of course it is not against the law. But u say u dont treat them as a tool, well to pay for service is already treating them as a tool to release ur lust. But well, continue paying for your happiness.. we all dont really care also.