Whenever I met a girl that I like, we became really close buddies, till one day I decided to be honest and told her my hobbies: collecting robots/ vehicles/and very few anime girls (figma toys). The next day they pretended they dont even see me!

An otaku is a person who loves Japanese anime/manga and they tend to collect figures/ toys that relates to that particular manga they love.

A hentai is a person who is basically pervert. Fetish.

Hentai n Otaku not only doesnt sound the same, but they dont even share the same meaning too!! I dun really see why the girls only stay away and pretended i am invisible right after I decided to tell them this...

or am I fated to only date female otaku as well??

This post has been edited by kaizer3000: Jun 1 2012, 11:33 PM

idk....coz usually the anime girls are dressed in sexy and big boobies, that automatically translates into "ham sap".

However if u collects Transformers or Gundam then that is different coz there are no sexy element

Probably the girls that you kacao likes pervert. some girls like to talk dirty

the world is too good to be true.

I admit i am more of a Transformer fan, so yea, about 80% of my collections are transformers...lol.
But dunno why even after explaining to them they still think of me as pervert or something...

Girls in general are attracted to guys who can handle themselves in the real world. Being a so called otaku, you confine your interest in something made up or a sub-culture. Otaku, rabid gamers, star trekkies, etc ... they all fall into same category. They choose to 'live' in a made-up universe, disconnected to real life matters or worse not able to distinguish between realities. To some, this is unappealing or may be deemed as geeky.

Watching and collecting those things as hobbies are fine. Only not fine when you're too obsess with something, or really dressed like a nerd. If you look fine, dress fine, good attitude, no matter even if u collect figurines... girls don't mind you.

This.

I want a real man who watch porn rather than a boy who watch cartoon.
Also, spending money on stupid toys, this is the main reason I couldn't stand at all.

If they distance themselves from you just because of your hobbies, then they probably weren't your real "buddies" anyway.

People tend to view subculture that they don't understand in a negative light, but in the end it's every bit as normal as having a massive stamp collection or being annoyingly obsessed with the latest celebrity news or getting obsessed with the latest gizmos from tech companies.

So,I'd say just get new friends. There are many fish in the sea.

So biased...
The same goes to girls liking shiny rocks which men can never understands why its "pretty"...

Sorry, I never like shiny rocks, been with my bf for years and he only got me 1 swarovski pendant as valentine present bcuz it's doing offer, i didnt ask for it.

The problem is likely cause you've identified yourself as an otaku, and even you yourself seem to have a negative perception of "otaku". You need to change your perception of it first, if you keep thinking that women will not like you cause of your hobbies, it will subconsciously transfer to your words/actions.

Personally I know a quite a few people who are into these hobbies (i am such a person myself) and they don't have problem with women. If you have other hobbies, you might want to start with that first. Its highly likely she's not interested in such things anyway, so don't bring it up unless she talks about it. I believe the problem is that she cannot relate with your hobby rather than being disgusted by it. I would be quite turned off myself if a woman I'm talking to decides to talk to me about her hobby that I can't relate to at all and she just keeps talking about it.

There's some truth to what killdavid is saying here. Its okay to have your such hobbies, but don't lose track with the real world. If I recall your posts from around here you don't seem to be that sort of person, so its most likely you've revealed your hobbies too early or in a fashion that they deemed unappealing.


Don't be so close minded, porn in any form be it high budget, amateur, webcam, hentai, comics, erotic stories, etc all have their own merits. Its how you use such material that makes the difference whether the person is creepy or not.

As for spending money on toys, what's the problem with that? Any different from women spending money on shoes/handbags? Its what they want to spend on, as long as they can afford it why not let them do what makes them happy? Why judge them for it?

Men never really grow up, there's always a little boy in him still. That boy is necessary to keep a man happy and in a sound state of mind, and every boy in a man has their own thing that makes them happy. If a man losses that part of him, a huge part of him dies inside. Look at any man who is happy and successful, there's always some stupid boyish thing he's doing on his free time.

Please read the title itself Girls, would u date an otaku?, No, not talkin abt Hentai

First of all this has nothing to do with men and women. It's about Otaku itself, the hobbies and interests.
Second of all, TS is asking would girls date an otaku, I for as a girl giving TS my own opinion that I will not and the reason stated. Otaku is not the kind of man I want/desire as one of ex is actually an otaku, which is why he's an ex.

hmmmm most girls tat i knw of, liks mature guys,
to listen to them, talk to them, make them feel safe.
well to b frank, these girls tat i knw of, r in college.

ts, r u in college or high skool ?
mayb they think ur childish.
to the girls, we guys likin anime n manga,
is similar to a 6-10yr old watchin doraemon. XD

I like otaku~~ because i think they are cute

oh wai, i think my gf thought i was childish also when she saw my reddish handphone with chobits wallpaper on it the first time before talking much to me.

i think TS, shud have come clean b4 trying to go for any girl, if she can't accept u, no point to cont.

maby they juz dun understand.is juz a hobbies better den those go clubbing every nite.i noe a few fren of mine (girl) lik anime alot too.

otaku is pointless, ts, go and be a densha otoko, at least u meet more girls and lead to more chance this way perhaps?

btw, ts, unless u're like my ex's friend, who rather buy toys over rm500-600 than paying monthly premium for insurance and claim that his budget has to be kept for toys, have no medical cover and life insurance when he's freaking 28 already.

I myself collecting toys, play games and such and i don't see any problem with this, or maybe it's really just my sub hobby i just feel like buying when i wanna buy and that usually happen when i have freaking lots of extra cash in hand.

This post has been edited by TheEvilMan: Jun 2 2012, 06:26 AM

if ur attitude, action, everything all heavily influenced by these japanese anime and shows... no gals will ever date u, except those same species otaku gal like u...

so, TS... u most likely is gona be a forever-loner.
cant blame u oso, many gals always think collect these stuffs are childish, not mature...
TS, u shud ask the her... define what is mature!
coz, in this situation, gals will say u are not mature, u're childish! say u nvr grow up...
u better forget your whatever future with this gal.

I think if an otaku could prove himself to be a reliable and trustworthy, why not? there's also lots of otaku, still able to be successful although has a room just for his toys..

TS, mayb dat gal is Kpop fan, u shud try go that direction...