Since when do you start help him??? i had this situation before... but as we (penumpang) want to show thank to him/her, we give money like petrol or duit kopi by the end of the month, even though they not ask for it...i think that man is kinda stingy person if he don't give something to you....its adat berjiran laa...



This post has been edited by yanouchi: Mar 3 2012, 06:03 PM

buat jahat jangan sekali, buat banyak kali
ahahahahha

Your father only fears that you would eventually find it harder and harder to decline later on, that is all. There is a saying that goes "Familiarity breeds contempt".

It means while people at the start feel segan/paiseh/shy, they will eventually start to assume you would be doing so and so just because they thought they know you well.

Eventually you would care about what they think about you and then such doubts would bring in more hesitation in refusing their next plea for help.

sm jom tgk wayang:3

Limit like how? How you'd know you've reached the limit or not?

What I don't understand is, when you have DECIDED to help someone, why you wanna expect something like repayment ke hapa. Like the tumpang car case, already decide wanna let the fellow tumpang right, but why wanna berharap that person wanna pay duit terima kasih? Why can't you just say terus terang "Ok I can send you but pay me RMxx" or "Ok I can send you but don't take too long." instead of helping and then after that kutuk2 that fellow tak reti berterima kasih ka hapa.

If someone ask me a favor i would shamelessly ask another favor in return. Unless if I decided that one is small matter and tak kisah, I just let it go. But i think my parents think I buat tak kisah at most things and people take advantage of me.

Second part, but what if you parents are wrong? I've encountered the second one numerous times also. Curi2 bawak masuk injured cat and treat then after my mom knows she furious and chase the cat out. Second case I buy mcdonalds for myself then decide to give it away to anak2 gelandangan kat bas stop then my mom marah2 says why i gip to them.

i hardly gip money, i oweys gip food

Let's see, more than 10 years already. But although my parents help them more, they will silently complain one.

I think this is because the norm of our society yang bila dah bagi sikit nak mintak lebih2, and then because we wanna jaga air muka we pun bagi la lebih2 sebab takut bersengketa dan sebagainya.

Honestly, I don't care what people at my housing area think about me. And I don't really feel reluctant to reject someone's help ekceli.
Just that when I decide to help someone pipul kinda see this as a big deal and all.

i think i understand u sm
and its much simpler,than wat other thinks

u wanna help.u help
u dont want,u dont help

tidak ada unsur keterpaksaan disitu
so,xde la unsur "kena pijak"
betul?

becoz sm doing it,becoz sm wanted to.not becoz she forced to

Help too much for sure kena pijak later.

once kena pijak, regret 9999

some of us BEEN there before

well,in sm case,she havent been pijak yet
and from what she said,she wont help,if she feel like she dont want to,
so she probably not gonna get pijak

nobody can make us do things
the choice is at our hands

we can let people pijak us,or not

dont blame others for our own weakness/indecisiveness

This post has been edited by amon_meiz: Mar 3 2012, 06:31 PM

that's one very shallow, even you won't realize it

still i like where this thread going to be

Ah, now I know... pickup 9 yo school kid uh.... that boy must be cute that you offer yourself to help...

i cant disagree with that
sometime,we did not realise what we had done

Have you guys got the circulated email that there is woman help this lost child back to his house, once she touch the doorknob, she got electocuted, then fainted. When she wokes up, there no single pie e of clothes on him, not even a strand. There was about like 15 condom scatter all over the place

What do we learn from here?
Do not help stranger
In the past many good hearted kid that try to help stranger with direction got kidnapped. Its better to play safe than sorry

Okay. But in this case, it was a neighbour, not a random stranger. Hence he (she?) can show goodwill as much as he wants, as long as it's not to the degree of obsession.

buat baik agak agak lah..some ppl gonna pijak kepala u if u too good

yes yes thank u for summarizing
haha perempuan memang tak tahu nak summarize things

but i've been pijak-ed before, even worser than u pipul might think
i've been a spare tyre test drive unit for a male fren yang kena dump, i've been pushed to finish assignment for 5 pipul alone, i've became other pipul's kuli, i've been used for pipul's business/political benefit, i've been a dbkl tong sampah, etc.
But then i learn to grow out of it, and now when I say no, it means no. And I don't care if that person will hate me for refusing to help. But if I insisted to help, then I don't mind wasting my time even if pipul think i kena pijak.

exactly as u said, we ourselves decide to let ppl pijak us or not

he is tembam bulat
his nickname is bulat

Good deeds will get good karma, you are a good girl/boy sm.

wanted to say this too...beat me to it.

bulat oh bulat......

oh my, oh why....