Buat baik berpada-pada
Means if you want to do good you must berkira la when to do it for who wanna do it how much wanna do it?
It's like saying "Ok today I'm gonna donate money but I'll donate RM2 only cause later RM5 i wanna buy coklat"
I don't understand why if wanna do good must berpada-pada.


True story this morning:
Me: I go pick up jiran jap. Bai.
Mak: Yer y u always do work for them one??
Me: Wut. I'm not doing anything now also so y not
Mak: U know onot pipul love to take advantage of pipul like you!! U know or not if jiran ask his sibling to pick him up his siblings will ask for payment and he will pay!! Now that u always help him for free so everyday he'll ask u help him!!
Me: Near only mah, tak sampai RM2 pun minyak. Lagipun not everyday.
Dad: I know it's not sampai RM2 but you think money so easy to earn meh? With his siblings he can pay but with you he dowan pay pulak.
Me: Cause I don't ask for payment.
Dad: And that's why he always ask for ur help!
Me: Hey, I'm not berkira how much fuel cost to help this and that all la, if you wanna buat baik to people why need to berkira this and that?
Dad: Buat baik berpada-pada... later people take advantage of you like now, those kind of people once they take advantage they will do more and more!
Me: If I dowan help then I say I dowan, now i feel like helping, so i go help. Other days i don't feel like helping, so I say no. I don't make stupid excuses like tengah ada kat luar la bz la because I don't want help. Plus it's not too membebankan the cost, and i decided to help, y must berkira?
Dad: *angry* kids nowadays born in luxury don't know how to appreciate parents work hard to find money!!



I kenot brain la. Explain plox.

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no roti at home

i love to take advantage and manipulate pipul
and i am muka tebal always ask for help but not be able to return the favor
and when i am berkira, i will really berkira to the last cent.

Which reminds me most of my friends are inanimate objects.
Memang betul2 membantu kehidupanku wahai bantal, selimut busuk, mp4 dan payung.

Fuel i always use my own money.

I'm not good at all, i'm far from good.
It's just that, I really don't understand. Buat baik berpada pada? What tis mean? I really kenot digest this concept in my brain.
Who came up with this thing? In english version got?

itu bukan buat baik
itu bodoh namanya

buat baik shudn't be something that mendatangkan dosa, no?
if it's like that then it is 'tolong buat jahat'
philosophy 101

No i mean, if I don't feel like helping, I will reject instantly without hesitation. Very hard for me to help pipul ekceli. It's not that when pipul ask to do something I feel the need to do it anyway. banyak kali my neighbor ask for help, teman beli buku la, beli stationery la, i decline banyak kali kot. Definitely not lurus bendul.
But I decline not because of "Oh tak boleh nak tolong sangat orang ni, nanti dia ambik kesempatan." But simply because I lazy to go out. And I tell them I'm lazy to go out.
And if I help means I really want to help, not because wanna balas jasa ke budi ke hapa.

He's 9.

I don't deny it, my brain work in complex ways
I don't understand why got parameter of being baik,
if wanna do good can't we just do good je without considering "Hm dont do this too oftenly nanti kena pijak"

Dulu I was a tiang too, whatever people ask me to do I will do, but then I learned how to change that. I decide if I want to help that person or not.
Just that recently I decide to help more than ask for help. If my mood don't really wanna help pipul, i simply don't do it because i dont feel like doing it.

because i tried to compare this concept to Rasulullah's concept, and couldn't find resemblance.

I always have a hard time understanding other people's feelings/emotions including my parents.
Most of the time I genuinely couldn't care :/

My neighbor is 9 y.o, today got sekolah tambahan, nobadi to pick him up from school.
It's not that far from my home, but couldn't risk him walking home alone since a lot of child kidnapping case in my area.

Limit like how? How you'd know you've reached the limit or not?

What I don't understand is, when you have DECIDED to help someone, why you wanna expect something like repayment ke hapa. Like the tumpang car case, already decide wanna let the fellow tumpang right, but why wanna berharap that person wanna pay duit terima kasih? Why can't you just say terus terang "Ok I can send you but pay me RMxx" or "Ok I can send you but don't take too long." instead of helping and then after that kutuk2 that fellow tak reti berterima kasih ka hapa.

If someone ask me a favor i would shamelessly ask another favor in return. Unless if I decided that one is small matter and tak kisah, I just let it go. But i think my parents think I buat tak kisah at most things and people take advantage of me.

Second part, but what if you parents are wrong? I've encountered the second one numerous times also. Curi2 bawak masuk injured cat and treat then after my mom knows she furious and chase the cat out. Second case I buy mcdonalds for myself then decide to give it away to anak2 gelandangan kat bas stop then my mom marah2 says why i gip to them.

i hardly gip money, i oweys gip food

Let's see, more than 10 years already. But although my parents help them more, they will silently complain one.

I think this is because the norm of our society yang bila dah bagi sikit nak mintak lebih2, and then because we wanna jaga air muka we pun bagi la lebih2 sebab takut bersengketa dan sebagainya.

Honestly, I don't care what people at my housing area think about me. And I don't really feel reluctant to reject someone's help ekceli.
Just that when I decide to help someone pipul kinda see this as a big deal and all.

yes yes thank u for summarizing
haha perempuan memang tak tahu nak summarize things

but i've been pijak-ed before, even worser than u pipul might think
i've been a spare tyre test drive unit for a male fren yang kena dump, i've been pushed to finish assignment for 5 pipul alone, i've became other pipul's kuli, i've been used for pipul's business/political benefit, i've been a dbkl tong sampah, etc.
But then i learn to grow out of it, and now when I say no, it means no. And I don't care if that person will hate me for refusing to help. But if I insisted to help, then I don't mind wasting my time even if pipul think i kena pijak.

exactly as u said, we ourselves decide to let ppl pijak us or not

he is tembam bulat
his nickname is bulat

not in that sense lah

No lah.

That guy bring me out for a date, mesra2 all, layan really nicely and all, while perfectly aware that I don't see him that way.
Then one day ask me to kenalkan a girl to her, turns out the girl used to be the girl i minat.
Waffarkkk.

orang yang cakap dia tak pernah buat jahat ialah penipu scammer

kau memang tak pernah baik pun