Came across this thread.....with an amusing subject title (wondering what he wanted to have removed).

From my own experience, I think it is due to the unnecessary pressure we men put on ourselves to meet our own expectation to satisfy women and perform better on the bed.

When we first started even if I were to grade my own performance, it was subpar but nevertheless I was reassured that I was doing alright. Soon I stopped creating unnecessary expectation on myself, my performance improved and leap further when I started other physical activities like weight lifting and running. My stamina improved and I could last much longer too.

I believe and personally feel that physical exercises keep my comfortable cardiovascular activity level in a higher range, as in I can go aggressive longer without having to keep up with my breathing as my body is comfortable with my higher heart beat rate. I did not read any article on this but I believe that the body only have so much amount of blood. If my heart and my breathing is comfortable, my blood will stay where it should stay rather than retracting back to my heart to provide me more oxygen. Of course, I think anxiety and stress also provide unnecessary higher heart rate.

I did consider such options like you mentioned but I fear of the harm I put my body through so I never did.

Of course, initially the unnecessary pressure mainly came from watching such materials as I compared my own performance with what I now believe to be scripted and probably edited to fulfill necessary screening hours.

Has anyone mentioned special massage that specifically focus on the male's part?

And of course the massage if to be done by the real professional.

My experience is that the massage does really help and the improvement on duration and erection after weeks of this massage treatment.

very interesting topic .............................

I didn't know guys will feel pressured to perform sex...sex is suppose to be enjoyed.
Thanks for sharing your experience! So guys should exercise more and keep fit to perform better I think exercise will help to reduce their stress level too.


Never heard about that but I'd feel uncomfortable if I were to let my boyfriend go.

hi TS , can i know u and your bf have healthy and safe sex?

wat are the precautions and usually wat condom u boyfriend use?
thanks!

First time he used condom but after that never use because I don't like the feeling..
I take morning after pills.

izzit safe to keep consuming pills?

thanks again

They are safe but may have side effects. Sometimes after taking morning after pills my breasts become more sensitive and tender, and also back pain. But the side effects will usually go away after a few days.

oh..i see..thanks man!

now i feel confident !

On the other hand, there are those whose boyfriends have problems cumming....... and the sessions are just far too long that both get exhausted

This post has been edited by jlim87: Dec 23 2012, 01:47 PM

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Please try out different setting for your sex session.
Have your session after a good night rest, to rejuvenated oneself before the vigorous thing.

Good or healthy sex, do not always have to depend on your partner's performance. You can self-help or self satisfying, relegate him to being your side-dish, with the intention to alleviate his pressure to perform whereby, both may learn to enjoy the session more.
If your situation didn't improve, ultimately, it is best that he seek professional help when he is ready.

Side note:
Inadvertently you may have piled more pressure on your bf since you have openly discussed it. Probably, masturbation is an escape route for him, with no expectation to hold it up and putting his virility to questioned.

im a man and from my view

1. your bf should exercise more for better physical maintain and can release stress somemore.

2. maybe you can try wear some sexy lingerie or cosplay to get him stimulate more.

3. try not to have sex too much, once in a few days is ok unless your bf is hardcore.

4. when having sex try bed scream so that your bf can feel more proud of himself and excited, this can help his erection longer since he feel so excite and stimulate.

anyway, try to make your bf feel better before, during and after sex so that he wont feel bad of his skills and feel more confident about his skills

defuq
mcd satu to shut me up


This post has been edited by sinister_sid: Dec 26 2012, 03:02 AM

maybe u are not pretty enough? i think its psychological problem. his mental strength not good enuf. try to take a break, dont do it so often..
can also try those tok batin. old man to massage him, so u dun have to worry.

This post has been edited by yorkhan: Dec 26 2012, 11:15 PM

Do more exercise frequently, running, jogging, cycling, as simple as that....

Nothing makes a guy limp faster than performance anxiety.

to prolong the session I have 2 choices for ur bf.
1) the fast results is to use gambir or delay spray you can brought online store.
2) this one takes time and effort without side effects is by constantly doing kegel excercise and while urinating hold the pee for 3-5sec and release the pee 2sec and hold back again, do this for a few times until the bladder is emptied.
good luck yo

This post has been edited by NeoMnemonic: Oct 19 2020, 05:15 PM

I do this type of massage. Some of the patients have too much bubbles (negative pathogens) around that parts. It needs to be clear all the bubbles using massage technique by professional of course. The energy such libido, stamina by exercise also play a big part for a great blood circulation to the male's part.