I believed traditional remedies like Gambir would help in this issue

Thanks for all your replies. Umm...there is something that I have to explain...my bf is unable to get a firm erection without constant stimulation and it does not last if stop touching it...probably only few seconds...this is the same when he watches those dirty movies...that is why we wanted to try pills

IMHO,he need doctor check up or some serious talk about past
in my fair share in expriences,this can be either physically or mentally problem
does he have bad exprience when erection occurs?
your mind can do pretty serious cover up as it expriences bad memories

just sharing thoughts

thanks for you reply

he did see the doctor for check up a few months ago (i managed to persuade him), the doctor said he was fine, the checkup included blood sugar test too. the doctor said he was probably stressed but i don't think that is the problem. there was no bad experience...he has always been like that
i really hope there is a solution to this

Is he healthy and energetic? Diet and exercise must watch also to build stamina.

Plus the stress we can't see by outside look and even he himself dint even know, sometime keeping emotion will caused him fail to get hard.

The "depression" can cause lot of mental/mind damage.

If there's nothing wrong with him physically, it may be a mental health issue.

Try looking for a psychologist to help out with his problem. It's not a normal thing so you two will have to find ways to solve it.

Try not to resort to pills so fast. Some pills have side effects and stuff. And that's the last thing anyone would want, especially when you guys are still so young.

Munkeyflo is right.
Go have a checkup if he is not too shy unless he intend to try out Gambir Sarawak.
Yah... a lot of my friend enjoy using Gambir Sarawak on this purpose.

Could also be that your boytoy has low testosterone levels or even serotonin levels.

Is he obese/fat?

i dont know if we can afford a psychologist yet. but he went for check up already. my bf spends most of the time in office, he is an accountant....so he only works out during the weekends. his height is 175cm and weight 78kg...not really obese.

i may ask him to try gambir...is it available in KL?

78kg for his height is on the high side although not obese. I have to say that weight plays a part in how long a man can last on bed as well. Lesser energy equals just that, lack of stamina to keep it up/aroused. Ask him to go for a fitness test and they will be able to say if he is fit or not, based on heartbeat rate and etc.

Always for for natural solutions before anything else.

To Make ur s*x session long lasting....always do sex everyday...sure ur long lasting...because u always taste the same thing until...the guy thing feel like a normal thing......Try ask ur bf to do so....sure long lasting.....how long do u want to long it......for me the best pationate time fore play 15 min....wrestling around 30 minit.....or if u want more power.....take gambir sarwak.....waliu...thats nice....but no feel because the guy thing only 'kebas"....
huhu

Doesn't look like it's due to obesity.

Has he gone to an endocrinologist to check his testosterone/estrogen levels? I think this can be done through blood test as well at those BP Labs.

Nah he's no where near obese.

There are government clinics that offer mental health doctors as well. But I'm not very sure about this as mental health is not very promoted over here in our country. People rather go pray to bomoh than look for a psychologist. So yea, I know there is that option but I don't know exactly how. If anyone knows how, it's a good time to share. You may wanna ask around in Health & Fitness subforum as well. People there are more knowledgeable.

Has it always been like this? Even when he masturbates himself?

he has not check his testosterone level yet, i'll ask him to see the doctor again...

he is not obese but he has a tummy umm...i don't think he will want to see a psychologist...

it has always been like that for him...there's no problem when he masturbates...but when he stop touching, it goes from 'hard' to 'soft' almost immediately...he cannot get it hard without touching...i'll try asking in the other section too...thanks!

the guy's stamina also contributes to the time
ask him to do some pc muscle training, see whether it helps or not

Well, based on what I've learnt during my abnormal psychology class on sexual disorders.
The disorder type is in the arousal stage of sex, where he's clearly unable to maintain erection - erectile disorder (ED).

Diabetes is a common cause for ED.
Is he taking any medications? It could be causing it.
Alcohol also affects the arousal stage. But I assume he's not drinking every time he's having sex.
Smoking can also lead to ED.

If its not physical, psychological factors are mostly something to do with cognitive thinking. Does he get non-sexual thoughts that affect his arousal? Is anything bugging him or troubling him?

Has he had any traumatic events when he was a child?

It could be anything affecting him. So it's still best if you look for professional help if you ask me. I think the main problem here is more to maintaining erection (ED) than duration of sex (PE).

rather him take <removed> better u find other men who are more better. there is many guy u should try before commit to one guy cos u dont know whether he will be ur husband

my advice is to get him to stop masturbating when you're not around.

This post has been edited by B@rt: Oct 20 2011, 01:21 PM

try kegel exercise.

healthy sex life doesn't mean to have longer sessions ooo! it's both feeling satisfied and fulfilling with each another...

probably you both have to communicate during XXX ? take short pause to kiss & caress each other whenever he is "cumming"...

then he won't have to take that pill that have possible side effects...