Just broken up with my 7 yrs gf. Live in my house for 5-6 yrs, seldom hlp with house work (I think only help less than 20 times in 7 yrs), we ware planning to get marry this yr, thus I've spent around 130K to upgrade our hse and she doesn't spend anything. Moreover after arrive home always ask me to do misc task (sitting there ask me go down stairs take water, etc...), and I always pick up her mess. She just went HK, said want to look for our wedding ring as its cheaper there, I'm not rich so I told her you can get anything 2000 and below, whereas for mine, just around 100+ enough (as I don't really care about jewelry), but she didn't manage to find it. Just came home frm HK yesterday, and today as usual she left her things everywhere after using it, I just said 'haiyo why you so 'mou sau mei' (always didn't put back things after you use it), she replied 'why you always complain me, best we seperate',then she packed her stuff and went home today.....funny though I don't feel that sad, infact thinking if I ended up marrying her it may not be good for me also (a person who live in my hse for free and never contribute anything, still complaining regularly, and never supported anything I do), well it's ok if she goes........but nd to find new g/f again also sien, well better focus on my job, nowadays girls all 'ada wang, ada amoi', you wanna get girls like in the movie, that'll be with you during sunny and rainy day and support whatever you do? forget it i guess....

This post has been edited by tempxyz: Mar 30 2011, 10:28 PM

no need gf so lazy...

good job..right move

uh okey

agreed with TS. they will only support u if u go as their wish. others than that no way

This is why i always say ... best way to know if u compatible ... live together. Better to live together than to divorce later. Somermore i think ur gf sot sot one ... go HK buy ring ... well cheaper ... say 10-20% .. but if u plan to buy diamond then its ok .. if u say 2k worth of ring .... then u spent 1k on flight 1k on acco ... so no point liao. cuz u wont get back the investment

you are lucky u know b4 marry this kind person. this kind person is waste. better you focus to yr work may find good girl in the future.

good for u for doing the rite thing..lucky u not married yet.. if married, dunno wat to say lor..pokai

maybe she is tired and bad mood after back from HongKong?
7 years, your both qing chun wor... try discuss nicely lor

if u can't stand her even before marriage, what about after married? you don't have to worry about what other's say or feel about this. do what makes you happy, even if it means leaving her. no point marrying someone you don't see yourself being happy with. and why is she so fussy? like those chinese ah ma and ah lians.

already spent a bit loh, buy car I sponsor 4K, her birtday presents (laptop - 2K, psp - can't remember how much I bought 2 yrs ago, jewelry-few K, paying for her misc debt she owe to friend, etc....), the most expensive gift she bought for me for my b'day is a box of ferrero roche chocolate (guess its my fault,as i'm not a materialistic person, every time she ask I just say no need lah, save money...), too much pampering end up up like that.. hai...

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Added on March 30, 2011, 10:52 pmmmm... dunno woh, she seems happy, moreover she's the 1 that have the opportunity to travel everywhere (but mostly on her own expense), I never have the opportunity to travel at all due to commitment not to her only but also to my own family....

This post has been edited by tempxyz: Mar 30 2011, 10:52 PM

zapris - who lazy ?? the girl lazy eh ..... ts is doing the rite thing ..hehehe

craw - Yup

wsrulez - yeah loh ..... this is bored ... damn

cala99 n jujubi - thats rite

Mind if i ask .. how young r u?

TS, you're better off without her.
Money can earn back, don't feel so sad about the money spent on her.

This post has been edited by munkeyflo: Mar 30 2011, 10:55 PM

ya...i guess i know what you mean, in actual fact I didn't say anything at all, she's the one who say wanna break up, i just keep quite but said well if you wanna go home, just drive carefully.mmm.....too much pampering i guess....right now I just wanna stay single for awhile and focus on my job 1st....

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Added on March 30, 2011, 10:57 pmnot young lo my friend, I'm 30 already...

This post has been edited by tempxyz: Mar 30 2011, 10:57 PM

Tired and bad mood doesn't give her the right to say break up, pack up her things and leave the next day.
If you are in a serious relationship and planning to get married, you would know that doing this is a very immature move. If there was any conflicts or dissatisfaction, the couple should discuss about it and not straight away say break up and leave. TS's gf doesn't seem to value their relationship. 7 years isn't that long. It's better to let her go now than after 20 years of marriage, she bo song and just pack up, leave and divorce.

Her loss ...

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Added on March 30, 2011, 10:52 pm
mmm... dunno woh, she seems happy, moreover she's the 1 that have the opportunity to travel everywhere (but mostly on her own expense), I never have the opportunity to travel at all due to commitment not to her only but also to my own family....

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OK, understood. Is she a pretty girl?
Anyway you can just go ahead to focus your career.

u r lucky that u see her real face before u marry her. better to move on and find a better one who really appreciate you

[quote=munkeyflo,Mar 30 2011, 10:55 PM]TS, you're better off without her.
Money can earn back, don't feel so sad about the money spent on her.

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yeah, i guess you're right, not too sad on the money though, also not too sad that she left, but sad and wondering why on earth that you've saved everything and mostly buy things for ppl around you, treat you nice, never ask you spend anything on the house, never ask you do house chores (but did highlight to her that since she's living here, pls hlp abit if can), hlp her out when she needed hlp, and after 7 yrs and ended up like that. Make me feel that most girls are just with you when you are doing ok, but just leave you when are doing not ok.....

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Added on March 30, 2011, 11:05 pm[quote=leo_gaga,Mar 30 2011, 10:58 PM]

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Added on March 30, 2011, 10:52 pm
mmm... dunno woh, she seems happy, moreover she's the 1 that have the opportunity to travel everywhere (but mostly on her own expense), I never have the opportunity to travel at all due to commitment not to her only but also to my own family....

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OK, understood. Is she a pretty girl?
Anyway you can just go ahead to focus your career.

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not very pretty, just regular cute type...

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Added on March 30, 2011, 11:14 pmBut tks to all on your support, it really helps, hope every 1 is living their life to the fullest!

This post has been edited by tempxyz: Mar 30 2011, 11:14 PM

huhuhu..... after i read yr TS, luckily not happening in plan after marriged life but now she treating u like this? that worthless...... if don't, u are in very difficultive life togather with her.

Just do whatever u want......

ts, imo, 7 years is a long time for a relationship
so if u ask me its quite sayang ended this way
how come only after 7 years then u realized this?
could have seen it earlier, no?

I cried after reading your post TS... All i can say is " she deserve it!"

is your investment worth it after all?

ya it is quite long. I'm a very chin chai person, alot of things I can accomodate, as long its not anything too major. Did highlight to her a few times about that, I guess that's why she says why I always complain, did hope that she'll help out abit as I'm feeling I'm in a 1 man show in this relationship....oh well....

I smell the cougars creeping up here.

But on a serious note, you definitely deserve better. This time try your luck with a person as competitive as you, perhaps that would work out with your compatibility.

I don't see having a gf/wife as an investment, they're not listed in my balance sheet. I'm mean this is suppose to be for life, everyone's gonna die 1 day, but it's a wonderful thing that you'll have someone with you throughout the journey (good and bad times) before the day comes, really make your life worthwhile...

Good move there TS.

ya....this I really need to leave it to a powerful cupid, it'll be difficult for me to meet new girls, work work work.....

You really deserve a better one after all you have done and she never appreciate and take thing for granted. Respect you for enduring her attitude for the past 7 years, it's give and take.

Hopefully your "don't feel sad" feeling is not temporary ... sudden release burden but when time goes, you will feel she is somehow important because the 7 years relationship there is sweet and happiness in between will appear in your mind.

So waste leh, 7 years of relationship.
If she realize what she did is wrong and willing to change and find you back, I guess she deserve another chance.
But if she's still like that, waiting you to come back, begging her to stay, just forget about her, hope she will be lou gu po for treating such a nice man like this.

Even if you buy a wife from Vietname, she will appreciate you more like my relative's friend.
He bought a wife from Vietname, very kind and good, take care of the man and family very well.

Lol... good choice... even she beg you dont ever get back to her,

girls = car (Depreciate every day) i believe she not young also now... so good luck for her
boy = property ( Revenue increase everyday )
for you, age 30 get a GF younger than you 3 years very easy only

yeah, i know, hopefully when it comes, it wouldn't be too painful....

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Added on March 31, 2011, 12:40 amWow, I don't really post alot, but god never thought even strangers in low yat forum can give such great support! it does really helps you guys, thank you thank you and thank you. Hope all of you all have someone that you hold dear, someone that you'll work your heart out and push yourself over the limit just to see that person smile, that my friends is one of the sweetest thing you can get....

This post has been edited by tempxyz: Mar 31 2011, 12:40 AM

Since u suffer in yr life...... "不如脱离苦海,短痛不如长痛"

ya, honestly I do feel that its a bit pity, but as I said I'm not too sad, thus I don't really hate her for leaving....well think on the bright side, now everything lunch dinner I don't need to pay double.

But but... you wont feel lonely at night meh ?
Sleeping with the girl you loved for so long, every morning wake up the first you see is her sleeping beside you, that's just so sweet.

Really waste lar, why those girls 身在福中不知福 !!

It's better to cut parasites like this off, short term pain; long term gain.

Don't ever flinch and let her come back to you. She will ONLY GET WORSE. Trust me on that. I've seen too many times the girl crying and begging and all that, ends up still the same.

To be honest though; i must say you need to be more careful also. All relationships need balance of both side giving sacrifices. If one side provides $$$, the other side must do other things; like taking up the burden of doing more physical work or things like that.

If you're doing both, then what is the other partner doing? Sex is meant to be a mutual act of love, and should never be used as a bargaining chip.

This post has been edited by glozz: Mar 31 2011, 02:19 AM

why dont you marry me then, sayang.

i gerenttee to wash your taifu for you, cook for you, massage you and hug you to sleep every night

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Added on March 31, 2011, 2:27 ami bet the first thing he does after waking up is to clean the toilet, clean kitchen, make breakfast and coffee, do laundry etc.

now he is free, no need to do all those shit!

This post has been edited by happy4ever: Mar 31 2011, 02:27 AM

+999

when she comes beggin for you, i bet ur gonna take her back.

Wah, TS you can stand her attitude for 7 yrs?! salute

he still have to do it.. but its for himself la

she left u bro.
u forget one thing, she let u fvck for 7 years.

how come sound like my story (but not the end part that she chaos....)?!!!!

So u r envious of TS?

move on TS...girls are not everything.
u might think that 7 years of relationship end up like this might be a waste,everything,money,time spend with her all gone.
but hey,if those thing could ex-change with your own happy life...why not rite?

p/s: sorry for my poor england

You don't feel sad or anything because deep inside, you KNOW you made the right choice.

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Added on March 31, 2011, 10:45 amThis one I agree 100%. I also wanna get a Vietnamese hawt wife actually, but I dunno where to find.

This post has been edited by spanker: Mar 31 2011, 10:45 AM

hahahaha, this you no need say. That's why TS no feel sad.

btw, that girl not worth la. So ignorant, a lot prob sure will come sooner.
Later your parents also sad because of her attitude then your headache some more.


Now you are busy with work & house work, later got kids how? I scare you'll go 14th floor.

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Added on March 31, 2011, 11:06 amfrom agent.

This post has been edited by shinkawa: Mar 31 2011, 11:06 AM

congratulation and good luck !

These days gals think life is theirs,where as it should be "OURS" .. always must compromise .. compromise...

U will realise one day and say to urself "Thank God I didnt marry her".

hahaha not to that extend, I only do them on weakends. Anyway with or without gf still nd to do is't it??

you make it sound like she gets not fun out of it at all. its a 2 way thing. not 1 way.

btw, TS,

Its good to know that you are looking at the positive side of things. And you are right. Its definitely better to breakup that get a divorce. A breakup, however bad it is, is still just a breakup. But a divorce is a completely different story, however peaceful it may be.

wishing you the best in your future.

*although ada wang ada amoi is definitely true, don't look for one who is just after you wang.

It's a good decision but it took you 7 years to make that happen?



This post has been edited by Drian: Mar 31 2011, 11:42 AM

me too want hot wifey.

lol, search pinoy then. see "elly trans ha"

@tempxyz

same ending with me...different storyline though....for me its 11 yrs...not 7 yrs....and u know what....many blame it on coz we dated too long n didn't get married....shouldn't date too long.....i somewhat agree to this point coz i also observe some of my buddies reaching the same conclusion...but they're better off...they found a new one n tied the knot...now live happily...

for 7 yrs and u could tolerate is coz TS only mentioned the negative part....omitted the positive part or good points of her...sure have some good points wan otherwise won't wait for 7yrs....no matter how tolerant a person u are...

maybe not now...for now u feel free...happy due to good riddance...give u few months down the road...u will feel empty, sad, lonely..the thought of missing her comes back to haunt u....prolly by then u open up another thread here with different topic

but then like u and me...at this age, with work commitments and all...is kinda hard to start going thru all the courting, dating stuffs.....for me, it's kinda tiring or lazy d....too bad this is not something that can buy off the shelf......is the thinking that ocassionally comes to mind lol....

good luck in finding a better one soon....i sincerely hope so.


@spanker
best place is to search in the origin which is in vietnam itself....could arrange a trip for 3 of us eh....if TS also interested....i'd like an opportunity to..urm...observe...if the claims of many are true.

ayam intrigued

yes it's true..vietnam girls are cute. My ex-company, they boss went to vietnam for business but end up got a mistress. The boss is married and looks like a decent guy. But I guess all men can't stand the temptation of a cutie Vietnamese girl.

If what you said about her is true, then I'm happy for you.

ts should take some rest

gud luck finding new gf bro...

Hey should I said congra to you? 7 years, not too long and not too short. Besides, she kept taking advantages on you, but I'm sure there must be something that can keep you two together for these 7 years. When we end up a long relationship, we always feel hesitate to start a new one. It's like everything is gone and need to start being single again, do things alone again. It didn't sound too bad. Start our own life, doing things we like to do, watching movies we like, hang out with your friends..things go normally. Later on, feeling better, and here we start to look for new relationship again. It's life!

It's not every girls like that, like money only. Well, I can't deny, many of them, yes. But most of them just want to have a comfortable living style. I 'm sure one day you will find the one for you or maybe "she" finds you. Good luck

it's all not about maths in a relationship in a relationship.

it's not like how much u should get from how much u contributed to the relationship. during the years, the contribution that u mentioned is given willingly, right? if so, should there be any ground to blame at?

and if there's a formula for the "equivalent contribution in a relationship", then we're owing a lot of debts with our parents already ;-)

fully committing urself into work may be a good choice for u now, but mind u about the emptiness that u may encounter. after all u have been living with ur ex for years, so it takes time for u to adapt urself

what's urs will be urs, relationship breakup is generally caused by the difference of personalities or the conflict in the lifestyle or Because of one does not fulfill one's expectation.

just make sure u'll live ur life with no regret, then u'll have my support, TS

your gf like that also can together so long ....... geng

great move, focus on ur job better.
btw, how old are u and her?

move on, like i did.

hahaha FINALLY a tred in cupid corner that has a fuking happy ending n less depressing 2 read too btw right move dude...this biatch aint worth your lifetime 2 fondle with...so big kudos 4 this happy break up hahaha

neways here we got single club...come over n post your introductions 2 the single kakis ya

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Added on April 1, 2011, 12:05 amhe already mention in the first page lor



lemme guess the gf age





This post has been edited by skylinelover: Apr 1 2011, 12:05 AM

lucky guy..

wah, really gt such person? hermmm....ok...

My house under reno too... so now... stay alone. To laugh or to cry?

TS, really wise move.. 10 pok u!!!

Yup I believe u can

now u got more money for urself, ur own house and ur own career

no worries girls will come easily geh have fun!!!

All I can say is You've met the wrong gal.You deserve someone much better than her. If she loves you, she's willing to compromise. If she treasures the 7-year-relationship, she wont pack and leave u behind. Move on !

wa you psychic, it's 25 (you're damn close)

hahaha damm i cant bliv i really can bcum psychic hohoho

nah...neways how i can guess almost correct is actually like this...from my observations n other frends break up stories,,,most immature girls with attitude problems that causes so many break ups r known 2 happen in the stage between early n mid 20s...girls will only understand the real true love cycle by the late 20s bcoz they dy experience enough painful break up in the past that they r not willing 2 take risk again jumping around random boys just 2 ride on big monster koks

n that creates another issue 4 the insecure guys dy which is y most career driven girls older than 26 prefer 2 stay single 4 ever hahaha

http://forum.lowyat.net/topic/1792493

cheers

This post has been edited by skylinelover: Apr 1 2011, 01:51 PM

yup, nothing much I could do anyway, plus its not that I don't have other stuff do. so far feeling ok, only at night time abit lonely, just watch some comedy to cheer me up and before you know it, I'll get sleepy and just go to sleep, but she still kept appearing in my dream, hm...hopefully when time comes I'll be able to get her out of mind forever...

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Added on April 1, 2011, 5:36 pmyup, nothing much I could do anyway, plus its not that I don't have other stuff do. so far feeling ok, only at night time abit lonely, just watch some comedy to cheer me up and before you know it, I'll get sleepy and just go to sleep, but she still kept appearing in my dream, hm...hopefully when time comes I'll be able to get her out of mind forever...

This post has been edited by tempxyz: Apr 1 2011, 05:36 PM

Skipping all the replies, congratulations!

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Added on April 1, 2011, 6:30 pmGone through the replies, so......
Just because you are a loser doesn't mean TS is a loser.

But then again, he should have kicked her out years ago, not waiting for her to break up with him.

This post has been edited by xecton: Apr 1 2011, 06:30 PM

+100

Good luck TS. It will take awhile to forget her. Concentrate on your work and hang out with your friends.

Good move and lucky you TS!

not all girls are like that..

there are still girls who will be with you be it sunny or rainy days one lar!

o'reilly? ? ?
i tot those kind of girls edi extinct jor~

wah.. sounded insulting.. well, my ex bf was very pampering also.. for every meal, every spending.. he insist to spend for me.. I pulak insist to pay myself.. I would say not all the girls out there is as bad as what you think.. so, Good luck in your "new phase" of life..

u mean u leh? muahahahahaha

You did a wise thing there, TS.

One thing though.. You hooked up with her when you were 23 and she was 16?

haha.. no wo... things are getting better now... ^^

Not all, most. Just accept lah, women are materialistic manipulators. I don't know why you women so sepakat always see a need to defend the entire female species even though the statement is true. It's been taught from generation to generation from mothers to daughters to "find a rich husband". Just because 5% of women aren't materialistic you want to disprove that statement meh?

This post has been edited by spanker: Apr 6 2011, 02:03 PM

LOL.. Apa marah-marah.. we go to date.. then i can prove not all is like that..

got money, even its snowy, she will stick to you like superGlue la

I am sad reading your story.

Somehow i just wonder how come nice people fails in relationship? Why god never let 2 good people love each other, then there won't be so much hurts and tears and time wasting.... sigh...

TS your situation almost like me. I share mine with u later cos now need to complete my work. I break off for 1 and half month d.

Thank god TS you managed to save yourself from eternal doom.Good job bro.

marriage is about to spend the rest of your life with her...

if even there is a single thing that u think ur partner dun want to change and u dun like it

u better leave her coz u r going to sufer the rest of your life.

true story

It's not that I don't believe you. You can prove YOU are not like that, but you can't prove that NOT ALL are like that. And just because you are not like that, doesn't mean most are not. Wanna confirm, then after I date you, you can intro more of your girl friends to me lor, see whether they want me or my $$$

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Added on April 7, 2011, 4:29 pmoh shit... did I just tell the internet i'm loaded? crap....

This post has been edited by spanker: Apr 7 2011, 04:29 PM

TS u sounds like 1 of my friend, is your sir name TAN?

btw i am sad to heard that 7 years relation just end up like that.... so sayang.. but if u think you did the right thing, just do it, you will find a better one

This post has been edited by davve: Apr 7 2011, 05:30 PM

I guess it ain't that bad after all! Good luck in your search for a new gal! All da best!

First, im agree with you. 7 years arent a short period, it takes time, look forward to your career first! When time comes, u will meet the girl.
Second, i do believe there are girls which don't put money at the first place. All i can say is, u haven't met the right one. all the best