hahah stress lol...i dun dare to ask her coz i dun wan to remind her of this case anymore, but i m still currently waitin for her period to come....so the answer is tat it cant enter huh?? o.0

Haha. You're still very new to this.
It does not enter that easily. As I've mentioned earlier, you don't have to worry so much about your sperm entering her vagina unless you ejaculate INSIDE HER.

You should also read up on menstrual cycles. When is her safe period, fertile period.. How long is your sperm stay alive inside of her.. How long does her egg survives.. Other methods of birth control.. How does a pregnancy occur.. There are many things you'll need to learn. You should not be afraid to ask her regarding this type of topic. It's something both of you will learn and grow together. Couples that are able to talk openly and comfortably about this are the ones that enjoy sex the most. Think about it.

I agree with that statement. Since you are slowly learning and venturing into each other, your should be able to talk freely about this and learn more about this.
Dont think that asking her question will remind her of that incident. Tell her wat you learnt and found out, then she knows that you actually care. Most gals will be happy knowing that her partner cares and looks out for her.

well you cant wait forever for her period rite? as you said, her period is not fixed. So still continue comforting her, you want to play around also go ahead. Takes then tension off.

haha well i will try on tat but i may still wanna b safe, maybe i will bring her to get some blood test to check whether she is pregnant??but around how much is it usually for the blood test??

Well i dont know bro. you need to check with the clinics then. But let it rest for another week. It is still too early for you to worry now.

Hi there. I spent the last hour and a half reading through the whole thread but am still worried about my case.

Yesterday at 10+pm, my guy and I were making out and then proceeded to remove our clothes. Guess we got caught up in the moment and I allowed him to insert into me slightly (I know I felt it did not go all the way into the cervix, just within the vaginal walls. I use tampons regularly so I can feel) and we were doing it for about a minute. Erm that was my first time but definitely not his (he's quite an experienced guy who has had sex times before) and he assured that he knew how to time it such that he would withdraw before ejaculation. I felt him hardening and it growing bigger inside me and he quickly withdrew and started masturbated himself, ejaculating outside of me about 10-15 seconds after he withdrew. We then washed up in the bathroom. About half an hour later, we did it again and likewise, he withdrew way before he ejaculated, and we immediately washed up thenafter.

I also read that studies cannot really confirm whether precum contains sperms or not, but am feeling very paranoid at the moment, mainly because we did not use a condom. Called him up today and talked about it. Got very annoyed at him cos it seems like he is shrinking responsibility. I was saying what if there really was a chance I could get pregnant, and he said then you got two options, to keep it or get rid of it, obviously without including him in anything.

As I'm living in Singapore, I think I can only obtain the ECP by visiting a GP but yes I admit I am shy about going to my nearby GP (what if they tell my parents about it, the clinic assistants know me as well).

As of now, it's been 22 hours since we first did it and it was 5 days after my period that it happened. Would appreciate some counselling :(

I think the chances of getting pregnant isn't that high.

First, you're most likely not in your fertile period. Second, he didn't ejaculate inside you. Third, I believe, precum doesn't contain sperm unless the guy ejaculated before having sex with you and didn't pee after that.

Then again, the precum thing, it's up to what you wanna believe. There's so far only one published study (not sure if there's more now) done with I think 5 men which came out to show that there were no sperm cells in precum. But the sample size was one of the limitations to the study.

Why not you go to a GP which is further away and doesn't know who you are or your parents are?
And also probably get a new bf who will be more responsible and response to your feelings/worries.

Well wat an arse of a guy!!.

Anyhow, there is not much research on precum containing sperms unless ur going for round 2 and 3, then that is different.
But just to ask you, is your period stable or do you have inconsistency in your period cycle? 5th day is normally unsafe already for unprotected sex on a stable period cycle.
well since u were "into" the moment, you might have miss calculated his depth.

again, it is hard to say if you will need ECP cause u went several times as well. But like how monkeyflo said, go to the other side of the island and meet the GP. .
Being paranoid will just worsen the situation. If u plan not to take ECP, then you can monitor ur period and after 3 weeks, you can try to do a pregnancy test.
well now u have another 24 hrs to decide if you want to go to the GP or let it be.

lesson learnt:
1. WEAR A FREAKING CONDOM!! Standard up for your rights to that else no SEX. Dont care if you are in the moment or soo.
2. Stop dating idiots like that.

Hi guys,

I knw what im asking may be alil off topic.But i dont know where to ask my question.

so heres the story,my gf had her period on 4th november and we tried to have sex 2 weeks later(not proper 1 really since it was her first time and she cant bare the pain,and i didnt penetrate fully so i withdraw my ****).But the next day after having sex,she had her period again.Now it has been 1 month since the last time she had period.is there by any chance she's pregnant?

Hope you guys can ans me.sorry for my bad english.

Thanks.

This post has been edited by simpleguy: Dec 22 2011, 10:17 AM

well maybe she is having irregular period cycle. There are people who have that or suffers from that.
But if u didn't ejaculate in her, then you are fine. Dont worry about that.

you can advise her to go to the clinic to check on her period cycle. If she wants she can opt for BCP to help balance her period cycle.

Yea,she have a very irregular period cycle.Sometime its late sometimes its early.

Im just alil worried.Just having a thought if there's precum went in.But i didnt insert my d*** properly into the vagina also.

well read the previous posting on precum.

if you did not shoot in then you are fine.

Thanks for your replies munkeyflo and back_howling

Definitely a lesson learnt, never knew he would turn out to be like this. I got so mad at him during that same call that I just hung up halfway while he was talking about 'me being too paranoid and that he thinks maybe we should not do any more of this'. Its proven that he's an arse as he has not called back since. I definitely do not want to be with him already.

Yes my period cycle is pretty stable, plus minus 2-3 days. Frankly I had no plans of having sex, was fine with just dry humping, I guess he had other sneaky plans on his mind, thats why I said I was in the moment and then agreed, of course regretting now. In retrospective, that makes him even more of an arse that he already planned to entice me into having sex with him when he knows I have said on previous occasions that I do not want to and yet he did not carry a condom.

Also, though I was in the moment, I was kinda conscious of the whole thing and when he tried to go deeper in, I stopped him saying I did not want to break my hymen or bleed, so he took it out a little and we continued with shallow penetration for a short while. Hence there was no pain or bleeding though it was my first time.

Hesitant about going to the GP as they'll have my records, and because of the side effects/hormonal imbalance that comes with the pills. I sometimes take some hormonal pills to delay my period cos of my sporting events and I get really bad cramps on my first day of period always. My really close friends that I confided in said I should just relax, pray hard and do a pregnancy test come January. They also said maybe my hymen could have already been broken with the sports I do, without me knowing.

Didn't see your post here about your gf period cycle.
Since she has very irregular period cycle then I don't think you have much to worry about. You didn't go all the way and have sex anyway.

So relax, high chance that there's nothing to worry about.

It's not that easy for liquid to magically find their way into the vagina without being ejaculated inside it.

Glad to know that you have part of your problems figured out.

Females have all types of hymens. Some of us do sports and break our hymens while some of us don't do any sports yet doesn't bleed during the first time. It's different for everyone so don't worry about it. What matters most is your mental preparation for it.

If I were you, I still think it would be best to get ECP just to be sure. It's easy to say we will keep our cool and not get all paranoid about being pregnant but it's not something we can control easily. Often we don't even know that we are under stress and I'm sure you know very well that stress messes up our hormones and menstrual cycle. Anyhow, think about your choices then make your decision.

Well I am certainly more paranoid than the average person but not to the extreme, where friends have said that I'm just being too paranoid about things, studies, sport races etc . However, my close friends who aren't paranoid people did say they would be as paranoid as me if they were in my situation.

I guess I try not to get too stressed up about it yet the thoughts still creep up in my mind and then the cycle of paranoia starts again, and though I already read up yesterday, I read it again. And the GP thought keeps flashing in my mind as the time ticks away. Frankly, websites like THIS scare me.

Also, the arse just called as I was typing this but I ignored the call. We do the same sport though and I will see him face to face tomorrow. Our friends don't know about the relationship also.

This post has been edited by tbsf: Dec 22 2011, 12:55 PM

There are lots of websites out there that has all sorts of opinions. It's up to us to believe what we think is reasonable and right. Take in the advices but don't take it as it's the only advice and correct advice available.

I believe all sorts of medication/pills have its own side effects. It can be associated with this and that but I don't think there has been any direct cause-and-effect link between them. ECP are widely used and if it has been known to cause so much trouble, it would not be easily available OTC already. Just be sure to go for yearly pap smear test and take note of changes in your own body.

well reads like tat are alwiz there to avoid people from misusing ECP as a birth control solution. The long term effect is something we dont know as we are not doctors.
That is the reason this is called Emergency CP.

Well i knew gals who had sex for the first time felt no pain and didn't even bleed. And there were those who bled and tot it was period blood.
So your hymen might have torn even with those foreplay and you might have not known it as well.
Good to hear ur taking control of things know. Be safe, be wise, have fun...and most of you..take control of it.

Thanks again for your replies. Much appreciated

Since there is a topic here about these stuff already, I'll just ask here. May I know what kind of ECP and OC can I get from pharmacists? Well I'm not currently in a situation where I'm needing it but just wanted to know in case of an emergency. Help would be much appreciated and oh ya what about the prices and stuff? Thanks in advance

This post has been edited by ssassassa9: Jan 5 2012, 03:40 AM

not sure what is your OC definition is. but for ECP the most common one that you can get is postinor 2. prices varies from different pharmacies from RM 3 to rm 6 per box.