Hi there. I spent the last hour and a half reading through the whole thread but am still worried about my case.

Yesterday at 10+pm, my guy and I were making out and then proceeded to remove our clothes. Guess we got caught up in the moment and I allowed him to insert into me slightly (I know I felt it did not go all the way into the cervix, just within the vaginal walls. I use tampons regularly so I can feel) and we were doing it for about a minute. Erm that was my first time but definitely not his (he's quite an experienced guy who has had sex times before) and he assured that he knew how to time it such that he would withdraw before ejaculation. I felt him hardening and it growing bigger inside me and he quickly withdrew and started masturbated himself, ejaculating outside of me about 10-15 seconds after he withdrew. We then washed up in the bathroom. About half an hour later, we did it again and likewise, he withdrew way before he ejaculated, and we immediately washed up thenafter.

I also read that studies cannot really confirm whether precum contains sperms or not, but am feeling very paranoid at the moment, mainly because we did not use a condom. Called him up today and talked about it. Got very annoyed at him cos it seems like he is shrinking responsibility. I was saying what if there really was a chance I could get pregnant, and he said then you got two options, to keep it or get rid of it, obviously without including him in anything.

As I'm living in Singapore, I think I can only obtain the ECP by visiting a GP but yes I admit I am shy about going to my nearby GP (what if they tell my parents about it, the clinic assistants know me as well).

As of now, it's been 22 hours since we first did it and it was 5 days after my period that it happened. Would appreciate some counselling :(

Thanks for your replies munkeyflo and back_howling

Definitely a lesson learnt, never knew he would turn out to be like this. I got so mad at him during that same call that I just hung up halfway while he was talking about 'me being too paranoid and that he thinks maybe we should not do any more of this'. Its proven that he's an arse as he has not called back since. I definitely do not want to be with him already.

Yes my period cycle is pretty stable, plus minus 2-3 days. Frankly I had no plans of having sex, was fine with just dry humping, I guess he had other sneaky plans on his mind, thats why I said I was in the moment and then agreed, of course regretting now. In retrospective, that makes him even more of an arse that he already planned to entice me into having sex with him when he knows I have said on previous occasions that I do not want to and yet he did not carry a condom.

Also, though I was in the moment, I was kinda conscious of the whole thing and when he tried to go deeper in, I stopped him saying I did not want to break my hymen or bleed, so he took it out a little and we continued with shallow penetration for a short while. Hence there was no pain or bleeding though it was my first time.

Hesitant about going to the GP as they'll have my records, and because of the side effects/hormonal imbalance that comes with the pills. I sometimes take some hormonal pills to delay my period cos of my sporting events and I get really bad cramps on my first day of period always. My really close friends that I confided in said I should just relax, pray hard and do a pregnancy test come January. They also said maybe my hymen could have already been broken with the sports I do, without me knowing.

Well I am certainly more paranoid than the average person but not to the extreme, where friends have said that I'm just being too paranoid about things, studies, sport races etc . However, my close friends who aren't paranoid people did say they would be as paranoid as me if they were in my situation.

I guess I try not to get too stressed up about it yet the thoughts still creep up in my mind and then the cycle of paranoia starts again, and though I already read up yesterday, I read it again. And the GP thought keeps flashing in my mind as the time ticks away. Frankly, websites like THIS scare me.

Also, the arse just called as I was typing this but I ignored the call. We do the same sport though and I will see him face to face tomorrow. Our friends don't know about the relationship also.

This post has been edited by tbsf: Dec 22 2011, 12:55 PM

Thanks again for your replies. Much appreciated