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TSpigglet
post Nov 9 2010, 11:11 PM, updated 16y ago

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hi,all.i have a 5 month old daughter recently she's being so super manja with my parents inlaw n my parents.since my daughter is their 1st grandchild they really pampered alot,they really sheltered her with all their till they spoil..when my daughter was younger around 1-3 months she hardly cry till she scream but lately due to my mother inlaw who really loves her alot alwaiz carry her whenever she cries.then i think she got used to and now everything when i'm at home with her she does that too,but im busy i cant alwaiz attend to her..i need advise how to train to be more good.. sad.gif
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post Nov 10 2010, 01:57 PM

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QUOTE(pigglet @ Nov 9 2010, 11:11 PM)
hi,all.i have a 5 month old daughter recently she's being so super manja with my parents inlaw n my parents.since my daughter is their 1st grandchild they really pampered alot,they really sheltered her with all their till they spoil..when my daughter was younger around 1-3 months she hardly cry till she scream but lately due to my mother inlaw who really loves her alot alwaiz carry her whenever she cries.then i think she got used to and now everything when i'm at home with her she does that too,but im busy i cant alwaiz attend to her..i need advise how to train to be more good.. sad.gif
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She is still too young to understand. You have to slowly train her as she grows so that she realizes that she won't get her way by crying. Babies are very smart; give in to them once and they know that they could get their way. Maybe when she reaches 12 months she could understand better then you have to be firm with her.

It is never easy to train and reprimand your kids with grandparents around. They always feel that we are not doing it the right way and theirs is always better. Maybe you could place her somewhere near you so that you could talk to her as you perform your chores or play some music and sing to her.
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post Nov 10 2010, 06:16 PM

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the parents and grandparents should try to come to an agreement on how to care for the baby. at first the baby will cry a lot, maybe because she is not carried around as much any more, but it should clear up.

have to tahan for the first few days...

or keep carrying until arms fall off. same thing happening to me!
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post Nov 11 2010, 04:41 PM

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QUOTE(TinyPumpkin @ Nov 10 2010, 02:57 PM)
She is still too young to understand.  You have to slowly train her as she grows so that she realizes that she won't get her way by crying.  Babies are very smart; give in to them once and they know that they could get their way.  Maybe when she reaches 12 months she could understand better then you have to be firm with her.

It is never easy to train and reprimand your kids with grandparents around.  They always feel that we are not doing it the right way and theirs is always better.  Maybe you could place her somewhere near you so that you could talk to her as you perform your chores or play some music and sing to her.
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okay i will try,lately she's not that bad.i think what u said is rite..i been telling her many times sometimes i scold or i dun simply carry..althou she doesnt understand what im saying but i tink she some how knows what im talking about..

QUOTE(patchris @ Nov 10 2010, 07:16 PM)
the parents and grandparents should try to come to an agreement on how to care for the baby. at first the baby will cry a lot, maybe because she is not carried around as much any more, but it should clear up.

have to tahan for the first few days...

or keep carrying until arms fall off. same thing happening to me!
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LoL..that happen to me sometimes i feel like im gonna cry along with her rclxub.gif
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post Nov 11 2010, 04:50 PM

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QUOTE(pigglet @ Nov 11 2010, 04:41 PM)
LoL..that happen to me sometimes i feel like im gonna cry along with her rclxub.gif
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same thing happened on me rclxub.gif rclxub.gif
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post Nov 12 2010, 09:05 AM

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5 months is much too young to be "training" a baby. Now is the time to care and love her, you train your child once she can understand and comprehend.

Try and work your schedule around your baby and more importantly try and get help from your husband if at all possible.

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post Nov 12 2010, 10:16 AM

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QUOTE(pigglet @ Nov 9 2010, 11:11 PM)
hi,all.i have a 5 month old daughter recently she's being so super manja with my parents inlaw n my parents.since my daughter is their 1st grandchild they really pampered alot,they really sheltered her with all their till they spoil..when my daughter was younger around 1-3 months she hardly cry till she scream but lately due to my mother inlaw who really loves her alot alwaiz carry her whenever she cries.then i think she got used to and now everything when i'm at home with her she does that too,but im busy i cant alwaiz attend to her..i need advise how to train to be more good.. sad.gif
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You not to be train, just there will be an instinct relation between mother and daughter/son.. Trust me, i seen it from my wife.. slowly, patience..


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post Nov 12 2010, 10:47 AM

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its take times, so be patient
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post Nov 16 2010, 11:09 AM

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for my baby, when ever he wants to start cry, i will chat with him, at least i can delay the cry like 5 minutes... hehehehe
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post Nov 19 2010, 02:25 AM

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QUOTE(akrami @ Nov 16 2010, 11:09 AM)
for my baby, when ever he wants to start cry, i will chat with him, at least i can delay the cry like 5 minutes... hehehehe
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post Nov 23 2010, 12:17 AM

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this happened to my 4 mths+ doter, my mom used to carry her till she slept during 1st 2 mths. Then my mom left my house, i only tahan that 2 wks then i surrendered, i lost 2kg in 2 wks just bcoz i was carrying her n couldn't do anything.

Regardless of her age, this was not correct way, at least, as parent, we shd teach the bb properly.

SO, i used "cry-it-out" method i found in net. It took a wk n me+hb corporation n we made it! At least, our doter, in fact, sleeps better n more happy now bcoz we taught her how to sleep by herself n she now learning rolling.

Imagine, if the bb being carried all times, they will rather choose to be cuddled comfortably instead of learning essential skills. I did not say they would not learn it, in fact, they will learn it, but may delay the development.

bbs are very smart, they know who can be bullied n who cant be. It might not be applicable for everyone as every bb is unique, but at least that what i discovered from my doter.
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post Nov 23 2010, 10:20 AM

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I would say distraction is the key. When daughter start to cry, try to distract with toys, books or songs.

Delay carrying her, not as soon as she starts to cry, such as, kissing her, talking to her, sing to her, whatever you can think of.

But of course, babies cry for a reason, whether they are hungry, wet, uncomfortable and such. So make sure that it's not because one of those reason, then you can try the method above.

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