QUOTE(ayamkambing @ Jun 17 2010, 12:39 PM)
erm, how does syariah defines what is good husband?
if the husband is being unfaithful behind her, thats not fulfilling his duties as a husband.
And in cases where the husband seeks a 2nd wife, prior to that he would have had committed unfaithfulness by courting a woman not his wife, while still being married. Can the wife then seek injunction to nullify the marriage on such grounds?
Like in Bung Mokhtar, the wife can ask for divorce from him too.
But i feel that this isn't so fair to the woman la
Man that screws around behind her back seems ok. But if the woman goes court another man, than its haram
It's up to the judge to determine what is a 'good husband'.
Technically if husband provides nafkah zahir (money to spend, house, transportation, maid etc.) and nafkah batin (consensual sex, loving children), wife has no 'real' reason to ask divorce even if he's being unfaithful.
If husband is courting other women and eventually marries a 2nd wife, technically 1st wife cannot object because Muslim man can have 4 wives. She can even be considered as a 'bad wife' if she does not consent to the 2nd wife if the husband goes through all the proper channels.
In actual Islamic law, husband doesn't actually need 1st wife's permission, only in syariah law written in Malaysia that you have to get permission from 1st wife and go to court with the permission in order to properly document the marriage.
She can ask for divorce, but it is up to her to prove that the reasons for divorce are valid as written before. The power to divorce is still with the husband.
I think Bung Mokhtar's 1st wife want a divorce, but then she has to pay compenstaion, and which woman who depend on her husband for her wealth would want that? All she can hope for is karma, in the form that Bung would soon get bored with Zizie and marry another sexy actress so Zizie can feel the same way she did.
yeah, it sounds unfair. I believe this is what Sisters in ISlam are actually fighting for, but unfortunately the Islamic law is written in stone (metaphorically), to go against it means you are against Islam itself.