The fact is i was in a similar situation with my ex, she doesnt enjoy much on sex. While i have tried various ways trying to arose her sexual desires, for some reason i am thinking it was her mentality that restricted herself from fully enjoying the tids and bits on making love. Cuz from out of a blue moon, she would feel arose and enjoyed it but that was like once in maybe a few months. Since i know that i am not the person to live a love life without sex, plus i am bound to find other alternatives which would most probably lead to disaster for our relationship. Decided to call the relationship off, while i still love her. For now, i would just be her closest friend giving her support which seems to be a better terms between me and her. I am not sure bout other men, but for me sex/making love with your loved ones do actually encourage intimacy and closeness for both.