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 I love my husband, but I don't like sex, Should I let him have an affair?

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djcarmen
post May 4 2010, 12:29 PM

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y're u all talking bout men n women needing sex or doesn't need it. to be precise... everyone have their own flavour n unfortunately for this lady, she doesn't enjoy it (maybe the husband's too big, too long? or she feels uncomfortable having a thing in her?)

whatever it is... the fact she doesn't like sex ends it all in the terms of sexual intimacy. if she is to allow an affair running, there are many things in mind that needs to be considered...

1) affairs can ruin a marriage. what if he falls for her?
2) what would the childrens' respond be like?
3) can she accept the fact that he's out being pleasured by someone else?

when i was way way younger...i've opened the option of my boyfriends having sex with another gal. the only rule was to ensure that she's not a virgin and she's not in any relationship. i wasn't ready, n i wouldn't allow him to deprive himself because of me. i'm not gonna be selfish because of something i can't offer..n if he is to leave me, i'm ready for it one way or another.

so.. if this lady feels the same way, she have the option to let him explore. the question she've to ask n not lie to herself if she's able to accept this whole situation to the very end.
djcarmen
post May 10 2010, 02:04 PM

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QUOTE(zstan @ May 5 2010, 12:03 PM)
u surely have a big heart. biggrin.gif
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hahaha. if one can't give it, n another wants it.. its time to open an option or find a solution. wink.gif

QUOTE(egoiste @ May 5 2010, 10:14 PM)
my opinion...
For muslim, men are allowed to married more than one..this will prevent husband being cheated...in this case, the women love her husband but dont want to have sex...rather than sharing her husband to prostitute, better for her sharing with someone she willing to share with...
indeed, poligamy is not easy(really2 difficult)....men should be fair with all wives..but this is the better way compare with sharing your hubby with b**ch and prostitute...

regarding premarital sex, i'm not agree with it...some might say it is really important to know your partner...YES..but to know what?how good he/she in bed? if ur partner REALLY good in sex, doesnt mean he/she also good to be ur lifepartner...some prostitute really can satisfy you in bed...but would u marry her?and being ur children's mommy?
Some people dont mind if their partner had sex before, but deep in our heart, we will feel something missing...and sometime might ask ourself.. "How my gf had sex with her ex? He good or me?Other people already touch, lick my gf body?".....How do you feel?

sex is a wonderful time to share with ur partner.....both parties can share how they want it to be and can explore each other...there is no right or wrong in sex...seek medical attention to cure the problem....

Anyway,just my 2cents..

Demi Moore and Aston Kutcher can, Madonna also can...why u kennot? tongue.gif hehe
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1) i feel that there's more cheating going on with a marriage of 4 wives instead of having one wife n many girlfriends. after all.. legalities n etc is enough to get him fully ripped up!! frankly speaking, i'll be more than willing to share my husband with someone i don't know, knowing he'll come back each day..compared to sharing a husband with someone i am forced to know, n knowing he might nto be back that day n is satisfying someone else.

2) everyone have their points of premarital sex. n i support u in ur thoughts of it. as for me, i'd rather have someone with experience than someone that doesn't. i've tried both, n its a whole lot of difference. as for my partner.. if he can't accept me for who i am, n is going to dwell over split milk, its time for him to think whether is he being fair judging me over my previous choice n experience or the person i am now from the lessons of my past, looking forward for the future.

3) have someone come up to u n tell u that u suck in bed n imagine u keep needing pills or medication for sex. then come back n tell me how it feels like to be that person or to be the person suffering from in-completion. i rather go for a test drive... seriously.

 

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