My bf of one year just told me he doesn;t like to hold hands or display any physical affection in public and he asked me to accept it. and say maybe just maybe he can change...but don't put hopes on it. So this is driving me a lil crazy. I dont wanna leave my bf just because he doesnt hold my hands. But on the other hand, what couple doesnt hold hands or display public affection that show them they are a couple. Everyone knows we are a couple so it is definitey not because he's trying to appear single. He just had never had a proper gf and never hold any girls hand before. He did try for the past year..but not seldom..just occasionally he'll hold my hand.for a couple of minutes..then he'll let go. And now he completely stop. And when I grab his arm he just shove me off...and we ended up having a big argument bout tat. But anyway the question is how can I accept the fact that my bf would never hold my hands? When I asked him is it for forever? he said no..mayb after we get married we can hold hands.. i think it's just bullshit and if he can hold hands then..why cant he do it now...whenever we talk bout this we just end up arguing..and whenever we go out and see couple holding hands..i just feel really uncomfortable. and make me extremely mad at hime and also really a lil self pity on my behalf

what's ur tot on this guys? Are there any LYN-ers who is doing the same thing as my bf?? I think not.

oh poor thing lol

Me same like your bf but my gf doesn't even b**** about it...

Guy dun like to hold hand maybe he feel hot, sweating.

If he choose to be staying single in front of other ppl eyes then dun let him kiss or hug if he dun wan to hold your hand.

My bf does the same thing. I hate it too, because I like PDA. Understand exactly how you feel.. But, he wouldn't shove me away if I initiate holding his hand. Your bf abit too much to shove you off.. If I kena shove off, I would just walk the other direction. So disrespectful..

+1

Waa.. Kinda pity of u.. Myb he feel uncomfortable with it.. If nt by holding hands, try 2 do some othr thng.. Eg: put his hand on ur shoulder etc.. Perhaps could lessen ur sad feeling..

My bf only hold my hand once then he never do so anymore *sigh*

i guess u guys hv to discuss abt it.
maybe he has sweaty hands?

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Added on April 4, 2010, 8:46 pm+1

This post has been edited by vivienne85: Apr 4 2010, 08:46 PM

Ya when 2 person hands are hot, it'll get sweaty fast. That's really uncomfortable.

But, my hands are always cold, many hot-hands like my type of hand.

maybe he is having seeing someone else and scared that ppl will see that he are double or triple timing ....

From a male point of view: Yeah maybe he's not used to holding hands and all and showing public affection but he should know that his gf is different.

As a man I think he shouldn't fret much about things like this. If a girl wants you to hold her hand then damn it just hold her hand. What the hell is your big hang up?

If you're a guy and you have complex an complicated feelings about holding hands then you might as well grow a pu$$y. I'm sorry but you are dating a boy bordering on becoming a spineless baby. Find a real man. What are men becoming these days

1st yes..he said it's cos of the hot weather..but then even at night when we're out or when we're in the mall, he doesnt wanna hold anymore..anyway he claimed that "I dont like it" that's the reason so i'm like WTF is this !

you did it in the past..and then u suddenly change .and say u dun like it..and u did it cos u only wanna try it and then end up realising u dun like it and I have to accept it all.

Of course i wanna b**** about it. and then now he see everything i wrote..and hit me! he is damn cool guy

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Added on April 4, 2010, 9:09 pmcool = cold

This post has been edited by MeruChan: Apr 4 2010, 09:09 PM

wat's there not to like abt holding a gf's hand..aihh

[sarcasm]Your bf is an obvious winner [/sarcasm] You need to keep it real and leave him now.

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Added on April 4, 2010, 9:16 pmMaybe he is experimenting with homosexuality and feels icky when you hold his hand? Attitude wise he is already a retard.

This post has been edited by JeromeDubois: Apr 4 2010, 09:16 PM

i used to hate holding my ex's hand. reason is i just didn't love him truthfully and i tot holding his hand just make me very very very uncomfortable. i don't know but to me, hand is something symbolic. if i give my hand for a person to hold, means that i feel secured and belonged to him already, which in my ex's case is not like that. i even hate being seen with him. dun ask me why i got with him it's a long story. but anyway, maybe it takes time? why don't instead of being sad, make more effort to show him lots and lots of love. don't be sad and saddened by this aye? becos im sure if u shower him with plenty of love, there'll be one day which he'll feel that and eventually wants to hold ur hands forever cheers!

Marvelous job on wasting his time.

oh not dis shit again........

i'm like ur bf, dun prefer to hold hands, but not dat i dun like it, & i definitely wont shove my gf away if she holds my hand/arm.
for me, dis is ntgh to do wit not showing affectionate, not bcoz wanna appear single, & not bcoz wanna keep it cool.
is just, well, i dun think there is a need to show every1 dat v r couple....

how he treat u in a more private places pulak?
me & my girl dun hold hands in public....
put in more private places like cinema, v do hold hands/cuddle.....

the key is communication.......
i told her bout my habit of not holding hands long b4 she ask.....
she understood & cool about it.....

Grope Grope always not a problem isn't it...

It's not that we wanna show off.. But the feeling of holding hands is really something that we appreciate.. it's warm, comforting and intimate.. And yes, we do let go when it's hot and sweaty.. not like die die don't let go.

But then again, if your gf/bf hand is sweaty, you should still hold that hand. Who cares if it's sweaty? It's their sweat and it's your sweat. It's just sweat.