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This post has been edited by cyh03176: Feb 13 2012, 12:10 PM

wow great tips.
my hubby done all 5.
imo girls do realize if you do 1-4 but the 5th is when we are sure that you are interested.

did he show interest in your affairs instead, if someone talks a lot about him/herself only, better run

do this, it's all about conversation



This post has been edited by singdreams: Feb 19 2012, 03:56 AM

haha just spoke to my gf couple of days back

she told me she would have rejected me if I confessed earlier coz she had no feelings towards me

but she realised i was holding her hand alot and sitting close to her, thats the time she fell for me. and she told me one of the reason she likes me is because I remember stuff

now I completely believe this works

This post has been edited by tdw: Feb 19 2012, 08:59 AM

thank god i make a right move b4 i saw this thread.
i have done 1-5 but now stuck in the middle.
we still chit chat and hangout once a week.

how if i've done all the steps and she's giving the response but she just want to be ur bestfriend??

more touching

I understand wat noobie trying to say here is make her ur GF; not ask to be ur GF. So, put more effort in making her ur GF. If ur effort is good enough, she will.

just to add on..
action(meet up, put effort on her) speaks louder than words(sms,fb,staying in front pc,keyboard warrior etc...)

i hang out with a bunch of friends together with a girl i am interested in. I think she knows i am interested in her. Then yesterday we hang out she talked with me alot while sitting beside me, get topics to talk around, laugh and some interactions like trying to tease around. What kind of indicator is it? Tho i never tell her i am interested or anything, but i guess her friend might have blown it up to her.

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Added on February 28, 2012, 9:15 ambumpzzzz

This post has been edited by ben3003: Feb 28 2012, 09:15 AM

I have a question here. I've done all the 5 steps but i still feel like i'm the one initiating dinner/movie dates all the time.

I've told her last week to take some initiative too & start initiating dates. (She's my friend, so i'm very direct)

What's your opinion on that? Fair right for both sides to be contributing?

I think you must contribute a little more in the beginning, this is gamble and you are gambling... so am I

if you are always the one to initiate outings/dates with her, does it mean that she's not really into you? :/

As long as during those dates/outings she enjoys and talk/respond a lot with you and shes very real being herself(you can feel it)...it doesn't matter if you are the one who keep initiate dates..

does she responds well?

A better question would be, if you're going out regularly on dates already, why is she not your girlfriend yet?

+1

be careful~

I have a question, if you have been going out with the girl for a few times already and when you ask her out again she gives you the "not sure"/"busy" reply, what's the next step? :/

I thought of that sometimes too but then again she can always say no if she's not interested.

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Added on March 4, 2012, 9:47 pmYes, she responds well. We're colleagues actually and i've known her for almost 2 years. When i first got to know her, she was flirting a lot with me but i wasn't ready at that time. Things were kind of up and down till the last 1 and a half months where we've been going out like 1-2 times per week, sometimes right after work.

Somehow our topic tends to go towards work at some part of the date

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Added on March 4, 2012, 9:53 pmWell, over the last 1 and a half months only we've been spending more time together.

We go out daily for lunch in a group (i've known her for close to 2 years & she's my colleague) so there's less personal time together.

Reason: I did not want to rush into it because i feel we need to spend more time together. Usually we go out after work and it's like 1-2 hours only for each date. She's also my close friend so i don't want to screw things up.

Weekends she always has some family thing up, so over the last date when i was driving back i asked her, are we going out just as normal friends or smtg more than that? Or in between? She said in between and asked me. I said the same too. I also told her in order to see how things goes, we need to spend more time especially on weekends and she agreed.

This post has been edited by silverwave: Mar 4 2012, 09:53 PM

I got the exact same question. She is either really busy or rejecting uou