I have a question here. I've done all the 5 steps but i still feel like i'm the one initiating dinner/movie dates all the time.

I've told her last week to take some initiative too & start initiating dates. (She's my friend, so i'm very direct)

What's your opinion on that? Fair right for both sides to be contributing?

I thought of that sometimes too but then again she can always say no if she's not interested.

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Added on March 4, 2012, 9:47 pmYes, she responds well. We're colleagues actually and i've known her for almost 2 years. When i first got to know her, she was flirting a lot with me but i wasn't ready at that time. Things were kind of up and down till the last 1 and a half months where we've been going out like 1-2 times per week, sometimes right after work.

Somehow our topic tends to go towards work at some part of the date

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Added on March 4, 2012, 9:53 pmWell, over the last 1 and a half months only we've been spending more time together.

We go out daily for lunch in a group (i've known her for close to 2 years & she's my colleague) so there's less personal time together.

Reason: I did not want to rush into it because i feel we need to spend more time together. Usually we go out after work and it's like 1-2 hours only for each date. She's also my close friend so i don't want to screw things up.

Weekends she always has some family thing up, so over the last date when i was driving back i asked her, are we going out just as normal friends or smtg more than that? Or in between? She said in between and asked me. I said the same too. I also told her in order to see how things goes, we need to spend more time especially on weekends and she agreed.

This post has been edited by silverwave: Mar 4 2012, 09:53 PM