Im tied down by my parents but lately i gained their trust more as i don't lie to them anymore.
They used to refrain me from going out at night but now isnt a problem for me as long as im back b4 12pm. AND i intro my friends to them.

Well, i used to be super sticky to him last time. Cook for him bring to his office n find him teman him eat lunch. However after one Holiday tragedy he broked up with me for he said he cant accept who m i n etc... It hurt me so badly and since that day i tried to make my everyday busy and Meaningful. I started to spend more time with my friends( realizing how fun it is !!) , doing house chores and attending more youth activities and photoshooting. However, those shooting are decent ones and I DONT "T CLUB at all~~ I find my life more cheerful and filled up.

He proposed me back, I still love him ! but i said give me time ... This time i said yes cuz he was so nice to me back ~~ N this time is his turn bring sticky... He's sticky is controlling...


Well, Now im tied down to my bf that dont allow me to photoshoot , and if go out with friends didnt tell him he'll get pissed off and crazy.
He thinks i behave like a kid and simply go out alone with another guy (which are practically my friends and closed ones not those i simply meet)
and he thinks i just dont have the awareness of danger and he has to keep my eyes on u everytime (Which he doesnt always cuz he's busy working for our future~)

SHOULD I USE THE SAME WAY of how i gain trust from my parents?
I wont give up in this relationship. Break up is the lamest excuse... but i can say..Im TIRED n SAD

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THERE IS ONE MOMENT WHERE IS WASNT POSSESIVE N CONTROLLING
I saw his thread and now i know... At that time he was in Love with another girl and had more interest in that stranger.
And Thus, I was neglected... now i understand~

This post has been edited by fire_angel: Jun 3 2009, 01:08 AM

fireangelism.com?

healthy relationship don make u tired and sad

either u give up on it , or accept his attidude , or u can talk to him about it .

seems like a very insecure guy , try to intro ur guy friends to him , show him tht he can trust them .

LOLZ~~ im not her... she's too old for my age

Lol. I knew it.

From your pictures in your blog, you look better than her too.

communication is the problem my friend..
did u tell him wat u feel? if he still dont listen n stuff.. i think this guy is too ego..
but on the other hand, u cant blame him on getting angry when u go out with guys..
that is wat guy is! just that u need to communicate with him n let him know

erm... he's just scold me back and think he's right~
When i explain further he'll just say.. yea u win u win...
ANd he always say~~ Ur always like my MOther~~ bla bla bla..
hmmm He love me too much i can understand...

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Added on June 3, 2009, 12:59 amThx~~ pictures can be a lie...LOL~~ anyway back to the point~~

This post has been edited by fire_angel: Jun 3 2009, 12:59 AM

no , he too childish not he love you too much -.-
if he love you , he will give u chance to explain and try to understand how you feel.
arguement in relationship is not about who win , its about understand each other .
ur bf how old d ? still living inside his comfort zone cube ?

Telling him or informing him is a kind of respect.
At the begining you will surely felt not use to it but later on, you will get use to it.
Breaking up for such a problem is not worth.
You should discuss with him and tell him about your interest. Photoshoot would not be a big problem.
Guys are always like that. You should be happy about this.
He Jelous about you with other guy is better then he just let you out with other guy just like that.
At least he care about you.

He's 20 turnin 21 soon ~ He started his working lilfe. More stressed i guess..mayb he just cant handle Love and Working life together

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Added on June 3, 2009, 1:06 amI informed and it makes him crazy and moody for the most one week .
I photoshoot many times told him its my interest already.
Its just lately dont know why suddenly he became so overpossesive and started to controll me again~

This post has been edited by fire_angel: Jun 3 2009, 01:06 AM

i disagree with you . not all guys are like that . if this problem drag on , i feel in future will be harder , start working d how? this world is full of male , don tell me you wan to find a company with NO MALE ? Guy jealous is normal but got a certain degree of jealously is acceptable . i think he went overboard . just my opinion though .

Love is love , work is work . 2 different thing .
you wont want a husband who bring work back home .
trust me .

There is one moment he wasnt POSSESIVE~~ i just modified the post on top~

what has him liking another girls has to do with him being possesive ?

Well, when a guy lost interest on his Gf.. he tend to less care n control her~ cuz his mind will be thinkin more on the another girl

Hey... I had an idea. Find 1 day when he's free, you go phootoshoot with him only.
You might able to build up his intrest with you then problem solve lo.

Do what u think is rite and is ur interested... coz as a BF,the duty of BF is giving suport,care and advice and not controlling GF........
He havent learn this yet and he still an noob in love.........

wow , sounds like an ******* .
btw , i think u got ur facts right , when a guy lost interest on his gf , his gf can go f*** a cow oso he wont care .

I told him this idea~ and HE SAID a BIG "NO!!" He hates Photographers.
Even there was this event where they give free studio shots in a Mall, he refused and walked away

TS seem to have some history of lack truthfulness which put a dented mark to your parents heart.
However that's another story

TS
If you really think your bf have transformed to be a control freak that chain your freedom, then he should be. If i'm in your bf shoes, no way I would allow my gf to do photoshoot aka modelling. You may furious to blame me being childish or immature but your bf & me know that modelling world is very dark. The glamour life, the attraction, the fame will make one life gone haywire eventhough you plea that ur willheart as strong as a nun. Don't insist telling everyone that the photoshot activities just for amateur purpose but once the photo land onto a modelling agency and at the same time it strike the jackpot, it would be nightmare for your bf.
Secondly....not every guy have a very strong and supporting will to see their love one hanging out alone with another guy. Even though going out with few frens also make them think twice.

The best point about your bf is he love and care for you more after a hiccup

Hope your tiredness will lead you the joy of happiness in future.

Well, im his 1st Gf and he thinks is he more matured than me while i'm a baby~ He told me i'll forever be a baby in his eyes.
I'd prove to him i was independant to work n study and live my life without him strongly. But now we're back he still treat me like a baby.

U must learn and u will learn one day.... Controlling and stopping a person interest will only lead to negative side...



Guess all depend on u, chase and continue ur interest/hobby or sacrifice on sake of ur BF happiness

If i am on ur BF mind, i would let u go photoshoot, maybe sometimes accompany u go photoshoot if given permission...... Else, just let u be happy as long u r safe...... One thing, just scare u fall to the trap of bad guy.....

Ur BF heart is full of fear and scare, maybe he hear too much story or watch too much entertainment news

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erm~ my shots are basically taken by students ( which are my friend) not modelling agencies. Im not thinking of Fame n etc.. its just like an interest
and to help my friends to improve their skills as well. Im happy that he loves me so much but this love is like He's Hot and He's COld he's yes and He's no~ The COLD is really COLD and long. While the Hot will only be a short period.

I don think the problem is about modelling world dark , if her bf doesnt like shopping , i think that she wan shopping sure will make noise.

If you say modelling world dark and don allow her to try out her DREAM because of that , shows the BF lack trust in her . No trust no relationship . Tried being told off by someone to give up ur dream because it doesnt EARN MUCH or NOT GOOD before ? it sucks .

If not strong to see love one hanging out with another guy den next time when work how ? all girls company ? not strong for this shit den don paktor la .

No offense intended


1st love .. no wonder so noob .
no offense intended .

Well, he's super conservative even more than my MUM !!! She likes him cuz she thinks he can control me n changed me . Indeed im changed but its not bcuz of him. It's bcuz i did it for myself. Its been long i'd never declared that im back with my ex...Im afraid duno when he'll break up with me again~~ he broke up with me 3 times...hope no more number 4....

how old are you ?
its good that you change to a better person for urself , but always remember in a relationship , alwiz keep ur own identity . never change ur identity for someone else , u might make up one day not knowing who you are anymore .

time for bed kthxbai

Controlling, will strain the relationship

But i guess, it all downs to dialogue

Oh the changed way isnt the identity but Principe and goals~ im 19 but when i chose him, i know he's a good guy n i'll regret to leave him. Love is blind and for me, break up is not something to simply say . Im here just to express my feelings and sort out ways to build our hearts back together

OMG........ tell ur BF, ur love cannot simply break up than come back, then break up....

If he dont apreciate it, let other guy appreciate u more than him.......

The word "break up" is equivalent to WMD of your heart, and should never be used as a joke

It is good to see you that find ways to mend that problem

he said break up is to teach me a lesson for not obeying him~

Hot and Cold attitude is the gift from god to make opposite sex more interesting.

Make good use of it.
A correct usage bring more happiness. Wrong use.....you know i know the consequence

I laughing non stop at this statement...... It prooof that guy IQ is -100

This is no child's play, infact his word, is not productive at all

FUnny mer?? Its like mother teaching daughter a lesson~~ Hmmmm

More like a threat

You should teach him a lesson by giving him a cold shoulder. Let him panic awhile and see what will he do.

Don't let a guy take control of your life. Its yours. Do what you enjoy best.

Hmm actully now im being cold to him as im busy with things and kinda weird feeling... I Lost my heart n interest~
But all i know its just temporary and soon i'll find it back...

Okay, answer me honestly.

Do you see a yourself marrying him or at least having a long term relationship with him?

If you don't, best you end it now. Once and for all.

Hmmm~~~ I threaten him also last time.. :" If he dont let me come find him i'll go his house "
He very afraid of me comin to his house~~ he don wan let his parents know about us ma...
When He's Hot im COLD, When He's COLD, Im HOT!~ Hot seasons isnt comin....

He's 20, dislikes photographers taking pics of models?

Sounds like this guy

http://forum.lowyat.net/topic/1048057

yea, either he's your real bf, or you're trolling around.

IMHO.

he sounds so lame.
when he wanna try his chances with someone else he puts you aside.
when he PHAILED he come begging back for you like a hungry ghost.
and now is a control freak.
it is not like time stood still while you two were apart.
u have moved on and have a life.
and now getting back together doesn't mean you have to give it all up.

a relationship is supposed to make you feel good. if it isn't doing that, you need to get rid of it.

I am appalled at how many girls stay with their boyfriends for long periods of time out of 'comfort' and using the excuse 'used to him being around'. You are all lying to yourselves and that shows me how much self esteem you have.

If he's treating you like crap, LEAVE HIM. No lady should have to put up with that, and a gentleman wouldn't do that kind thing to his lady.

probably a troll like happy4ever said.

regardless, if i had a gf i would not be happy if she went on a photoshoot alone with another guy. if it was in a group i would be more trusting.

yes i am an insecure guy. u can blame my ex for making me that way by cheating on me.

what kind of statement is this......

tell your bf that, you want your gf obey you rather than love you? get a doggy then instead of gf !!!

its just like you obey your teacher but that doesnt mean that you love your teacher aint you !!! No?

if you feel tired in one relationship, its mean you are heading to a noway road but sad and heartbroken !!!

love wont tired ~~

You will tired after all those exhausting sports sex marathon sessions.

Anyway I met some guys that responded the same way as TS bf did, all I can is lol at their lack of maturity and security.

tired physically and tired emotionally is kinda different dear

I want moar moar moar.

don mess up other ppl thread

I am not laughing at u. I laughing at him...................for saying out such reason...

Sounds like your bf is insecure. Probably after he left you the first time he felt really depressed and decided that he couldn't live without you so this time around he's being extra nice and caring to u. But if u don't want him to be controlling u need to come to a compromise with him. Sit him down and talk about what he wants from you and whether you can accept it. I remember my first gf I told her that I want her to miss call me everytime she reaches home so I know she is home safe. Some ppl might intepret that as being overly controlling but at that time I felt i was looking out for her. So talk with him and find out what he wants and what you can accept and come to a compromise.

lol baby.

being possesive is not good.

you just need to do what u need to do, then his view on u will slowly change.

he sounds like your dad, not your boyfriend. Is he retarded?

At first I wanted to tell you to sit down and talk to him properly. Maybe there is a chance he doesn't even realize that he is being controlling.....

....but after I read all this, only thing I can tell you he is a piece of trash not worth your affection.
Who the %^&*( breaks up with his gf and come crying back to her and then goes on to tell her that 'he was teacher her a lesson for not obeying him'. ftw is that? Who does he think he is? You have to obey him? Are you his slave?
I'm sure he realizes how much you want to keep the relationship and he's probably using you. Sooner or later he'll find some other girl to have fun with and when you blow again, he'll come begging for forgiveness at your knee but will be off to his bad habits again when you cool off.
Have some pride left and kick this trash out of your life. You've broken up with him like what 3-4 times right. He has had enough chances already.

This is controlling behaviour. You should not tolerate it.

This is disrespectful and insulting. You should not tolerate it.

This is passive-aggressive behaviour. You should not tolerate it.

This is manipulative behaviour. You should not tolerate it.

This is disloyalty. You should not tolerate it.

This is disrespectful of your interests. You should not tolerate it.

This is arrogance. You should not tolerate it.

This is manipulative behaviour. You should not tolerate it.

This is a threat. You should not tolerate it.

I really gotta wonder... WHY are you staying with this guy?

Y'know, when you mentioned there's another girl he fell for... I think I can guess what's really happening here.

You're his 2nd choice. A distant 2nd.

He liked this other girl, but for whatever reason couldn't get her. So he's using you as his spare tyre. Only thing is, he wishes you were more like her. He wishes you were exactly like her. So all his frustration at not getting her, he's taking it out on you. He's trying to turn you into her.

Your interests, your feelings, your very personality... all of these mean nothing to him. You are not a person to him. You are only a substitute for her.


This post has been edited by n00b13: Jun 3 2009, 11:53 AM

I'm the "he" ...ok people ..come flame me

And Im your father.

http://forum.lowyat.net/index.php?showtopic=1048057&hl=

How about you respond to the flames?

Do you think the way you've been treating her is right?

yes..i was here to respond to the flame...
Em, for me... i was neglected but her busyness...and getting me crzay/ worry for her...so what is right or wrong? maybe i just need some cooling ...or maybe learn how to life without partner

This post has been edited by Doopleganger: Jun 3 2009, 02:53 PM

WHAT a coincidence.....

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Added on June 3, 2009, 2:56 pmIts not totally his fault though...... He's still nice in other ways.
He can sit few hours of train n bus to come find me.
He can make cocktail drinks for me.
He folded 520 stars in less than a week for me.
He scold me so that i can have more self control.
He dont fight back when i hit him.
He buys expensive skin care products for me when my face got many pimples.
Although he sick he will still come teman me.
He loves me a lot and cares for me more than any other guys on earth.

But, when i make his mood bad, then he'll change and be cold...

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Added on June 3, 2009, 2:59 pmI FEEL VERY HURT U ALL SAY SO MANY BAD THINGS ABOUT HIM.....

This post has been edited by fire_angel: Jun 3 2009, 02:59 PM

So I shall happy when u make me bad mood?

IM SORRY...

aiya, tok face to face and lock this thread la.

waffak you go bring out your dirty linens here in lowyat?

checkout the counselor link i gave you, Doopleganger. Go and talk to them to arbitrate. and solve this problems among the two of you face to face.

can lock this thread now. Your personal problem should remain personal ya

All the best dont forget to make love once settle.

CLOSE THIS THREAD! WE ALL HAVE FINISH GIVING THE ADVICE. LIFE IS BOTH OF URS. NON RELATED TO US

if I see a person like very suck, of course i will talk bad about him.

/close

Meanwhile, how often you guys make love ar?

got use dom dom or not? Missionary position? hehehe

youngster these days, really suck in handle their own relationship.

suck ar

how old are you?

older than u lor lol

so youngster = suck
old than youngster = more suck

are u saying ur father suck ?

as someone in SC alaways said : I will never bring gal back to mah home, coz it wont gonna be serious relationship therefore will be scary in future...

well, let me highlight some points, and u use ur BRAIN to think

1. dont acknowledge u to his parents
2. break up/hurt u to teach u a lesson?
3. control you?
4. err.. suddenly i malas liao.. other ppl kontinue k...
This post has been edited by chezzball: Jun 3 2009, 03:37 PM

I dont have one

1. common issues
2. ok
3. certainly

i guess thats why. lol

i mean you

dun mean me, ur relationship are in mess now. sucker

ok thanks for suck me..

ur welcome.

IM SORRY...

sit down and have a table talk, talk here useless 1.

good luck all the best.

IM SORRY...

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Added on June 3, 2009, 4:09 pm-----------------------CLOSED-------------------

This post has been edited by fire_angel: Jun 3 2009, 04:09 PM

All of this is what you call love?

Respect and trust and common decency - these things don't matter?

Stop being sorry and start having some pride. There are guys out there who would never dream of treating their girl this way, and will still do all the things you listed. Why must you settle for this loser?

As for the loser Doopleganger...

STOP BEING SUCH A LOSER. See how much your insecurity and ego is hurting her. You're so jealous of other guys spanar-ing her, what makes you so great?

re:
nothing...thanks for remind

This post has been edited by Doopleganger: Jun 3 2009, 04:41 PM

ROFL....
guys...she came here to seek advice and wanted to improve their relationship

those who advice and comment here...what she have reply to u all??

I'm SO HURT THAT U ALL SAYING SO MUCH TO HURT HIM...bla....bla....bla

LOL....wht a shiat....

GTFO

Moderator
~Closed the thread Pls~

Mod want u to flame me more

well good job...u just prove to everyone u think like kid and act like a kid

LOL
why are you PISS?
i m not telling you loser or whatever what....

i m just reminding those who advice for some people's good...
what they get back after advice those ppl....Sh!at

Guys....there are few others need ya guys advice and opinion...at least those ppl wont give a sh!at to you....
they accept ya guys advice with *Open Heart*

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Added on June 3, 2009, 4:51 pmflame u for??
i dun know you well...
you know yourself more than other ppl in this world....
and you know what you are doing~

This post has been edited by MystIc_sHadOw: Jun 3 2009, 04:51 PM