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TSfire_angel
post Jun 3 2009, 12:33 AM, updated 17y ago

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Im tied down by my parents but lately i gained their trust more as i don't lie to them anymore.
They used to refrain me from going out at night but now isnt a problem for me as long as im back b4 12pm. AND i intro my friends to them.

Well, i used to be super sticky to him last time. Cook for him bring to his office n find him teman him eat lunch. However after one Holiday tragedy he broked up with me for he said he cant accept who m i n etc... It hurt me so badly and since that day i tried to make my everyday busy and Meaningful. I started to spend more time with my friends( realizing how fun it is !!) , doing house chores and attending more youth activities and photoshooting. However, those shooting are decent ones and I DONT "T CLUB at all~~ I find my life more cheerful and filled up.

He proposed me back, I still love him ! but i said give me time ... This time i said yes cuz he was so nice to me back ~~ N this time is his turn bring sticky... He's sticky is controlling...


Well, Now im tied down to my bf that dont allow me to photoshoot , and if go out with friends didnt tell him he'll get pissed off and crazy.
He thinks i behave like a kid and simply go out alone with another guy (which are practically my friends and closed ones not those i simply meet)
and he thinks i just dont have the awareness of danger and he has to keep my eyes on u everytime (Which he doesnt always cuz he's busy working for our future~)

SHOULD I USE THE SAME WAY of how i gain trust from my parents?
I wont give up in this relationship. Break up is the lamest excuse... but i can say..Im TIRED n SAD

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THERE IS ONE MOMENT WHERE IS WASNT POSSESIVE N CONTROLLING

I saw his thread and now i know... At that time he was in Love with another girl and had more interest in that stranger.
And Thus, I was neglected... now i understand~

This post has been edited by fire_angel: Jun 3 2009, 01:08 AM
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post Jun 3 2009, 12:41 AM

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QUOTE(Siilver @ Jun 3 2009, 12:36 AM)
fireangelism.com?

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LOLZ~~ im not her... she's too old for my age
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post Jun 3 2009, 12:58 AM

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erm... he's just scold me back and think he's right~
When i explain further he'll just say.. yea u win u win...
ANd he always say~~ Ur always like my MOther~~ bla bla bla..
hmmm He love me too much i can understand...


Added on June 3, 2009, 12:59 am
QUOTE(Siilver @ Jun 3 2009, 12:42 AM)
Lol. I knew it.

From your pictures in your blog, you look better than her too. blush.gif
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Thx~~ pictures can be a lie...LOL~~ anyway back to the point~~

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post Jun 3 2009, 01:04 AM

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QUOTE(zacharyyeo @ Jun 3 2009, 01:00 AM)
no , he too childish not he love you too much -.-
if he love you , he will give u chance to explain and try to understand how you feel.
arguement in relationship is not about who win , its about understand each other .
ur bf how old d ? still living inside his comfort zone cube ?
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He's 20 turnin 21 soon ~ He started his working lilfe. More stressed i guess..mayb he just cant handle Love and Working life together


Added on June 3, 2009, 1:06 am
QUOTE(~WhiteChocolate~ @ Jun 3 2009, 01:04 AM)
Telling him or informing him is a kind of respect.
At the begining you will surely felt not use to it but later on, you will get use to it.
Breaking up for such a problem is not worth.
You should discuss with him and tell him about your interest. Photoshoot would not be a big problem.
Guys are always like that. You should be happy about this.
He Jelous about you with other guy is better then he just let you out with other guy just like that.
At least he care about you.
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I informed and it makes him crazy and moody for the most one week .
I photoshoot many times told him its my interest already.
Its just lately dont know why suddenly he became so overpossesive and started to controll me again~

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post Jun 3 2009, 01:10 AM

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There is one moment he wasnt POSSESIVE~~ i just modified the post on top~
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post Jun 3 2009, 01:12 AM

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QUOTE(zacharyyeo @ Jun 3 2009, 01:11 AM)
what has him liking another girls has to do with him being possesive ?
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Well, when a guy lost interest on his Gf.. he tend to less care n control her~ cuz his mind will be thinkin more on the another girl
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post Jun 3 2009, 01:14 AM

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QUOTE(~WhiteChocolate~ @ Jun 3 2009, 01:12 AM)
Hey... I had an idea. Find 1 day when he's free, you go phootoshoot with him only.
You might able to build up his intrest with you then problem solve lo.
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I told him this idea~ and HE SAID a BIG "NO!!" He hates Photographers.
Even there was this event where they give free studio shots in a Mall, he refused and walked away
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post Jun 3 2009, 01:16 AM

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QUOTE(wangpr @ Jun 3 2009, 01:12 AM)
Do what u think is rite and is ur interested... coz as a BF,the duty of BF is giving suport,care and advice and not controlling GF........
He havent learn this yet and he still an noob in love.........
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Well, im his 1st Gf and he thinks is he more matured than me while i'm a baby~ He told me i'll forever be a baby in his eyes.
I'd prove to him i was independant to work n study and live my life without him strongly. But now we're back he still treat me like a baby.
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post Jun 3 2009, 01:21 AM

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QUOTE(Ichibanichi @ Jun 3 2009, 01:14 AM)
TS seem to have some history of lack truthfulness which put a dented mark to your parents heart.
However that's another story

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If you really think your bf have transformed to be a control freak that chain your freedom, then he should be. If i'm in your bf shoes, no way I would allow my gf to do photoshoot aka modelling. You may furious to blame me being childish or immature but your bf & me know that modelling world is very dark. The glamour life, the attraction, the fame will make one life gone haywire eventhough you plea that ur willheart as strong as a nun. Don't insist telling everyone that the photoshot activities just for amateur purpose but once the photo land onto a modelling agency and at the same time it strike the jackpot, it would be nightmare for your bf.
Secondly....not every guy have a very strong and supporting will to see their love one hanging out alone with another guy. Even though going out with few frens also make them think twice.

The best point about your bf is he love and care for you more after a hiccup

Hope your tiredness will lead you the joy of happiness in future.
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erm~ my shots are basically taken by students ( which are my friend) not modelling agencies. Im not thinking of Fame n etc.. its just like an interest
and to help my friends to improve their skills as well. Im happy that he loves me so much but this love is like He's Hot and He's COld he's yes and He's no~ The COLD is really COLD and long. While the Hot will only be a short period.

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post Jun 3 2009, 01:25 AM

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QUOTE(wangpr @ Jun 3 2009, 01:21 AM)
U must learn and u will learn one day.... Controlling and stopping a person interest will only lead to negative side...

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Guess all depend on u, chase and continue ur interest/hobby or sacrifice on sake of ur BF happiness

If i am on ur BF mind, i would let u go photoshoot, maybe sometimes accompany u go photoshoot if given permission...... Else, just let u be happy as long u r safe...... One thing, just scare u fall to the trap of bad guy.....

Ur BF heart is full of fear and scare, maybe he hear too much story or watch too much entertainment news
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Well, he's super conservative even more than my MUM !!! She likes him cuz she thinks he can control me n changed me . Indeed im changed but its not bcuz of him. It's bcuz i did it for myself. Its been long i'd never declared that im back with my ex...Im afraid duno when he'll break up with me again~~ he broke up with me 3 times...hope no more number 4....
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post Jun 3 2009, 01:33 AM

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QUOTE(zacharyyeo @ Jun 3 2009, 01:28 AM)
how old are you ?
its good that you change to a better person for urself , but always remember in a relationship , alwiz keep ur own identity . never change ur identity for someone else , u might make up one day not knowing who you are anymore .

time for bed kthxbai
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Oh the changed way isnt the identity but Principe and goals~ im 19 but when i chose him, i know he's a good guy n i'll regret to leave him. Love is blind and for me, break up is not something to simply say . Im here just to express my feelings and sort out ways to build our hearts back together
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post Jun 3 2009, 01:52 AM

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he said break up is to teach me a lesson for not obeying him~
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post Jun 3 2009, 02:16 AM

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QUOTE(wangpr @ Jun 3 2009, 02:13 AM)
I laughing non stop at this statement...... It prooof  that guy IQ is -100

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FUnny mer?? Its like mother teaching daughter a lesson~~ Hmmmm

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post Jun 3 2009, 02:37 AM

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QUOTE(Siilver @ Jun 3 2009, 02:22 AM)
You should teach him a lesson by giving him a cold shoulder. Let him panic awhile and see what will he do.

Don't let a guy take control of your life. Its yours. Do what you enjoy best.
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Hmm actully now im being cold to him as im busy with things and kinda weird feeling... I Lost my heart n interest~
But all i know its just temporary and soon i'll find it back...

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post Jun 3 2009, 02:40 AM

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QUOTE(Kampung2005 @ Jun 3 2009, 02:20 AM)
More like a threat
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Hmmm~~~ I threaten him also last time.. :" If he dont let me come find him i'll go his house "
He very afraid of me comin to his house~~ he don wan let his parents know about us ma...
When He's Hot im COLD, When He's COLD, Im HOT!~ Hot seasons isnt comin....


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post Jun 3 2009, 02:46 PM

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WHAT a coincidence.....


Added on June 3, 2009, 2:56 pmIts not totally his fault though...... He's still nice in other ways.
He can sit few hours of train n bus to come find me.
He can make cocktail drinks for me.
He folded 520 stars in less than a week for me.
He scold me so that i can have more self control.
He dont fight back when i hit him.
He buys expensive skin care products for me when my face got many pimples.
Although he sick he will still come teman me.
He loves me a lot and cares for me more than any other guys on earth.

But, when i make his mood bad, then he'll change and be cold...


Added on June 3, 2009, 2:59 pmI FEEL VERY HURT U ALL SAY SO MANY BAD THINGS ABOUT HIM.....

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post Jun 3 2009, 03:07 PM

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IM SORRY...
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post Jun 3 2009, 03:41 PM

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IM SORRY...
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post Jun 3 2009, 03:43 PM

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IM SORRY...


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