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zacharyyeo
post Jun 3 2009, 12:39 AM

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QUOTE(fire_angel @ Jun 3 2009, 12:33 AM)
Im tied down by my parents but lately i gained their trust more as i don't lie to them anymore.
They used to refrain me from going out at night but now isnt a problem for me as long as im back b4 12pm. AND i intro my friends to them.

Well, i used to be super sticky to him last time. Cook for him bring to his office n find him teman him eat lunch. However after one Holiday tragedy he broked up with me for he said he cant accept who m i n etc... It hurt me so badly and since that day i tried to make my everyday busy and Meaningful. I started to spend more time with my friends( realizing how fun it is !!) , doing house chores and attending more youth activities and photoshooting. However, those shooting are decent ones and I DONT "T CLUB at all~~ I find my life more cheerful and filled up.

He proposed me back, I still love him ! but i said give me time ... This time i said yes cuz he was so nice to me back ~~ N this time is his turn bring sticky... He's sticky is controlling...
Well, Now im tied down to my bf that dont allow me to photoshoot , and if go out with friends didnt tell him he'll get pissed off and crazy.
He thinks i behave like a kid and simply go out alone with another guy (which are practically my friends and closed ones not those i simply meet)
and he thinks i just dont have the awareness of danger  and he has  to keep my eyes on u everytime (Which he doesnt always cuz he's busy working for our future~)

SHOULD I USE THE SAME WAY of how i gain trust from my parents?
I wont give up in this relationship. Break up is the lamest excuse... but i can say..Im TIRED n SAD
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healthy relationship don make u tired and sad

either u give up on it , or accept his attidude , or u can talk to him about it .

seems like a very insecure guy , try to intro ur guy friends to him , show him tht he can trust them .

zacharyyeo
post Jun 3 2009, 01:00 AM

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no , he too childish not he love you too much -.-
if he love you , he will give u chance to explain and try to understand how you feel.
arguement in relationship is not about who win , its about understand each other .
ur bf how old d ? still living inside his comfort zone cube ?
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post Jun 3 2009, 01:08 AM

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QUOTE(~WhiteChocolate~ @ Jun 3 2009, 01:04 AM)
Telling him or informing him is a kind of respect.
At the begining you will surely felt not use to it but later on, you will get use to it.
Breaking up for such a problem is not worth.
You should discuss with him and tell him about your interest. Photoshoot would not be a big problem.
Guys are always like that. You should be happy about this.
He Jelous about you with other guy is better then he just let you out with other guy just like that.
At least he care about you.
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i disagree with you . not all guys are like that . if this problem drag on , i feel in future will be harder , start working d how? this world is full of male , don tell me you wan to find a company with NO MALE ? Guy jealous is normal but got a certain degree of jealously is acceptable . i think he went overboard . just my opinion though .

QUOTE(fire_angel @ Jun 3 2009, 01:04 AM)
He's 20 turnin 21 soon ~ He started his working lilfe. More stressed i guess..mayb he just cant handle Love and Working life together
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Love is love , work is work . 2 different thing .
you wont want a husband who bring work back home .
trust me .
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post Jun 3 2009, 01:11 AM

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what has him liking another girls has to do with him being possesive ?
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post Jun 3 2009, 01:14 AM

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QUOTE(fire_angel @ Jun 3 2009, 01:12 AM)
Well, when a guy lost interest on his Gf.. he tend to less care n control her~ cuz his mind will be thinkin more on the another girl
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wow , sounds like an ******* .
btw , i think u got ur facts right , when a guy lost interest on his gf , his gf can go f*** a cow oso he wont care .
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post Jun 3 2009, 01:22 AM

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QUOTE(Ichibanichi @ Jun 3 2009, 01:14 AM)
TS seem to have some history of lack truthfulness which put a dented mark to your parents heart.
However that's another story

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If you really think your bf have transformed to be a control freak that chain your freedom, then he should be. If i'm in your bf shoes, no way I would allow my gf to do photoshoot aka modelling. You may furious to blame me being childish or immature but your bf & me know that modelling world is very dark. The glamour life, the attraction, the fame will make one life gone haywire eventhough you plea that ur willheart as strong as a nun. Don't insist telling everyone that the photoshot activities just for amateur purpose but once the photo land onto a modelling agency and at the same time it strike the jackpot, it would be nightmare for your bf.
Secondly....not every guy have a very strong and supporting will to see their love one hanging out alone with another guy. Even though going out with few frens also make them think twice.

The best point about your bf is he love and care for you more after a hiccup

Hope your tiredness will lead you the joy of happiness in future.
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I don think the problem is about modelling world dark , if her bf doesnt like shopping , i think that she wan shopping sure will make noise.

If you say modelling world dark and don allow her to try out her DREAM because of that , shows the BF lack trust in her . No trust no relationship . Tried being told off by someone to give up ur dream because it doesnt EARN MUCH or NOT GOOD before ? it sucks .

If not strong to see love one hanging out with another guy den next time when work how ? all girls company ? not strong for this shit den don paktor la .

No offense intended


QUOTE(fire_angel @ Jun 3 2009, 01:16 AM)
Well, im his 1st Gf and he thinks is he more matured than me << already wrong lol while i'm a baby~ He told me i'll forever be a baby in his eyes.
I'd prove to him i was independant to work n study and live my life without him strongly. But now we're back he still treat me like a baby.
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1st love .. no wonder so noob .
no offense intended .
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post Jun 3 2009, 01:28 AM

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QUOTE(fire_angel @ Jun 3 2009, 01:25 AM)
Well, he's super conservative even more than my MUM !!! She likes him cuz she thinks he can control me n changed me . Indeed im changed but its not bcuz of him. It's bcuz i did it for myself. Its been long i'd never declared that im back with my ex...Im afraid duno when he'll break up with me again~~ he broke up with me 3 times...hope no more number 4....
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how old are you ?
its good that you change to a better person for urself , but always remember in a relationship , alwiz keep ur own identity . never change ur identity for someone else , u might make up one day not knowing who you are anymore .

time for bed kthxbai

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