In Islam law, people DONT need to change their name after they converted to Islam.
But i dont know if its really a Malaysian law. Actually i know some people who kept their name even after being a muslim.

But still, if a non-muslim guy/girl wants to marry a muslim guy/girl, they have to convert.
Its the law of the religion.. A muslim can't marry a non-muslim.
For muslims, the law of Islam is the TOP PRIORITY above all else.
(at least for good/real muslims. I know there's not a lot of example of good muslims here in Msia. but dont blame the religion, please)

And yeah, chinese girls are attaractive to most malay guys. that's a fact.

yeah, me too...usually the first person who greet me at class were my chinese friends.
the malay girls are all very conserve, they like to stay very quiet and only talk among themselves.
and btw, i'm a melanau (native sarawak tribe)

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Added on April 18, 2010, 2:31 amcorrect, islamic chinese in China still use chinese name, so as the American, European, and African.
not necessarily dat people convert to islam must have prefix "Abdullah"
dat only applied in Malaysia, i think

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Added on April 18, 2010, 2:40 ambro, wats your secret? any tips?

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Added on April 18, 2010, 3:25 amif neither of u or ur gf convert, then there will be two religion rite? so, in future...wat will your children be, a hybrid-new religion?
no offence, just wondering and concern...

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Added on April 18, 2010, 4:45 amwell, the rule is simple....if followed accordingly and willingly, there should be no problem
requirement....the husband must have enough resource (money, care, love) and treat his wives equally
priority.....to have another wife, the husband 1st must have the approval of the 1st wife....if the wife say ok then the husband can proceed
not like as u seen in film where the husband curi-curi kahwin or paksa his wife to sign/approve the wedding certificate...typical drama laa....

polygamy is ok wat, it prevent guys from being such as jerk....e.g. cheat on his wife and sleep with another woman, and the ratio of man:woman nowadays is 1:4. if we practice strictly monogamy, then the 3 women left with no man....so, is this the cause of lesbianism?

and wat's wrong in the world now...approve gay and lesbian marriage?!!! dats more wrong than polygamy....

anyway...this juz my thoughts, may be true, may be not

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Added on April 18, 2010, 5:15 ambigbangtheory,

all i want to say is dat u r compassionate and hav goal in u r life....dat is gud thg to do in life

but we all can only motivate and support u from the sideline, n the rest is by ur own effort

follow ur 'hati kecil' and not to be boosted by ur 'hati besar'

trust is gained from sincerity and kindness

as long as u become sincere to urself, ur words, n ur beloved+her family...they'll accept u

don't let people judge or get on ur way bcoz they r not u

juz remember ur objective, then plan 4 it, n finally solve it

there is nothing so easy or so difficult in life...the key is ur effort n desire

though life is not perfect, and there's no success b4 failure

mistake is the teacher, and mistake make people become better,

mistake make the world go round, as too love

but time waits for no one, so grab it fast b4 it's gone forever...you'll missed the boat

that's my thought.....

This post has been edited by akimisme: Apr 18 2010, 05:15 AM

Officially you are not required to change your name even if you converted to muslim. Officially speaking la.

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Added on April 18, 2010, 6:38 pmhmmm very interesting topic.

let me attempt this.

1) Yes it is true most chinese families will not agree to let their daughters marry a malay.
It is the acceptance that matters. If the family is a modern, liberal family then it really don't matter.

But Malay boy's family must also accept. Similarly to chinese girl's family.

2) Chinese girl converting to muslim does not require a name change. Though they have the option to change.

3) Issue is once a muslim, difficult to convert back should the relationship go sour.

4) Kids from the marriage, will be become baba & nyonya - isn't it? Not malay.

No matter what the facts and issues, everything will not matter... really.

These facts remain:

a) Do you love the girl? For who she is, and not what race, culture or religion?
b) Are you attracted to her just because she is chinese? Or she is more difficult to obtain - you feel challenged is it? It works the same as a Chinese boy who falls for Malay girl, or any race for that matter.
c) Does she feel the same way towards you as a person?
d) Are you both willing to go through tremendous challenges for this relationship? Because any kind of Inter-racial relationship will have challenges.

We are all humans. We all share similar feelings for ones we love. That is all that matters.

Life is too short. Watch Talentime the movie, and watch the ending... what happened? People make choices.


This post has been edited by adamantium75: Apr 18 2010, 06:38 PM

love is color blind.
what matters is the heart.
I find some indians and malays attractive too.
even better looking than some chinese guy.
but then u need to find a chinese girl that is willing to chnage her religion to malay.
or if u dun mind about changing from muslim to chiristian or buddhist.
u can chnage i guess..
but duno what malaysia government will do to u when they found out.
my friend changed from muslim to christian^^

halp

im falling in love with this ahmoi, she works at this game store that i usually go to.
i never really bothered with chinese girls before, becouse i know the chances are pretty slim for me to get one,
language barrier, looks etc. but....
she looks like Bjork, and in a HUGE fan of Bjork! And she likes video games to (duh).

how do you normally approach a chinese girl, especially in a ayam/itek satuation like this.
cant really talk to her like shes a malay girl since most of the stuff gonna get lost in trasnlation
what are chinese girl attitudes on strangers flirting, asking their phone number, going out etc

also, im a bit scared, coz i think the taukeh is her dad
and if it doesn't goes well, i cant really return to the shop to buy more games, i already got discount and all...

im malay, 24, have money, avg. looking and tall
but cant speak chinese at all...

any of u malay guys ever asked a complete stranger ahmoi out? like from the game store, hair saloon etc. i know malay girls who work at these places are usually quite "gatal" and wont mind some flirting.

This post has been edited by AlexFancypants: Apr 23 2010, 08:34 PM

Love is blind. Any human of any race can be with other human of different race. First and foremost, try to approach her casually and ask her basic questions such as about having eaten meal or not, how's the day, whether she is tired, etc. You must ask in a sincere expression that will portray your honesty at the first shot. In other circumstances, you can try to learn some history of Southern Chinese ( since she is Malaysian, she must be southern Chinese, not Northern chinese), then discuss with her about it.

For example, if she loves history, you can discuss with her about the chinese dynasty that you like, etc. If you know more than her, she will start admiring you and show some feedback. Moreover, keep yourself like a macho guy, stylish.

Try it, miracles will happen.

im mix chinese n arab=muslim.
for me la, im not malay...im chinese muslim.
but peolple always told me malay bcoz im muslim.
i love chinese girl n chinese culture.
to be muslim:-
-no need to change ur name to malay.
-no need to change ur culture to malay.
-no need to leave ur parents.
i accpt that malay is resict rite now.
coz malay is more to malay law, not muslim law.

Not to change the religion to Malay but Islam

in oversea, muslim can convert their religon easily, but oni in malaysia, melayu =muslim... this is what the governement policy, to prevent the population malay drop, as they know, malay du not like islam as well if they hav option. so, in order to increase population malay, those non islam marry v islam hav to becom a muslim...

now we are one malaysia.. no more chinese , malay others.. and what ever religion can mixed.. for get one malaysia is a Married mixed .. malay married chinese.. malay guy or girl also very good looking,, most malay girl also like chinse face and Cute smiles.. but i looking for chinese gurls.. hehehe

This post has been edited by syadlan: Sep 14 2010, 11:41 PM

but if chinese married to malay they must convert so in the end all people in malaysia are islam people..1islam perhaps?

in relationship with chinese girl too, wong min yi
but she already said she dun want to convert

I sappork Min Yi! I wan date awek Melayu but I oso dun want to convert. Can ar?

ha ha ha, what a statement, i'm a klantanese but dont eat budu >.<

This post has been edited by z_uniten: Sep 15 2010, 07:00 AM

date only okay
marry have to convert