Hi gal, dont make urself sad...just try to be cheerful and find a day to talk to him. usually guys wont talk out their problems unless u asked. talk to him nicely, but dont push the blame on him. he will get more mad...mayb try give him massage after he bk from work...cook something sweet dessert for him to drink ( ppl say eat sweet things can be happier, dunno how true) n sit down to chat...

try to make things work. be independent gal and dont ever make him feel u are too dependent or u are emotionally unstabled...if u do dat, he will just avoid talking to u about his problems...

Talk everything out with him then only decide what the next step should be..

your baby is still small..probably he's feeling as stressed as you too.

Seek councelling if needed.

well he cant be tired for 1 year right ..ive tried that oledi but hmm maybe my cooking & massaging not so good hehe..anyway thanx smacky

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Added on March 25, 2009, 9:06 pmhaha you make me laugh..what a direct answer..thx king

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Added on March 25, 2009, 9:12 pmyeah u got my meaning..we have sit down & talk for 1001 times..usuallu ok for a while, then happen again

today i havent been well since i woke up, then he sent me off to work, i waited for him to call to check how i was doing. but he never did. so finally i lost it and sent him an sms saying 'yes im fine, dont worry'...he immediately called and sounded so guilty...you know what i mean??

i think he loves me but have you ever heard about 'guys in comfort zone'??

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Added on March 25, 2009, 9:13 pmim okay today. better since ive written the first msg. thanks to all of you.

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Added on March 25, 2009, 9:14 pmi think he's in comfort zone..like he knows ill never leave him so he takes me for granted. this is the most normal problem, but until now, no cure in the world grrrrr!!

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Added on March 25, 2009, 9:17 pmim 28, we both are. and nope, we didnt get married because of that. i was still a virgin on our first nite...oohh too much info haha!

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Added on March 25, 2009, 9:19 pmvinlu, wacky angel, thx for the suggestion of going to physiology/counsellor..but i prefer to settle it between us, guided by advises from others

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Added on March 25, 2009, 9:21 pmyup we did that a lot, ok for a while then not

im also like a roller coaster, sometimes in a bliss, sometimes feel like screaming as loud as i can

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Added on March 25, 2009, 9:23 pmyou know what, thats a good idea. stop depending on him like that. thanks!

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Added on March 25, 2009, 9:29 pmand to others, thanks for your advises. i really feel better now that ive read all your messages

i love him, and ill do everything to win him back! (even that means id have to stop clinging like i always do)

wish me luck!

This post has been edited by celestra: Mar 25 2009, 09:29 PM

awww...so sad...
how about trying to tell him your feelings (sad, angry) and then continue with your fear of not receiving his love anymore and your regret of having to tell him all these..
and then end your conversation with how much you actually love him and your wish that the both of you can work this out?

Good luck

Same thing is happening in my relationship and it's only been 4.5 yrs we were both together. I'm starting to feel that my heart's getting numb too. I think he's taking forgranted too because he always say I will never leave him, and yeah, i don't know why I will never leave him. Probably because I've not met that "someone else" yet. I hope i will meet that someone else when i start to work and ditch him ..

That's so sad...please be strong Celestra.
I'll be sure to remind myself over and over again not to do any of that to my love.

Erm...

I think have to be patient..
Try to have more communication with each other.

thank you all for your advises..its good to finally speak things out, it cleared my head!

we are going along better now, and this sunday my baby will turn 1. we are both ecstatic about it.

bye now