im married for 1 year plus, has a 1-year old baby boy

i guess im just being sensitive, but you know what, you cant tell someone how to feel

how do i feel when i ask for a kiss from him & he makes a tired face?

how do i feel when we sleep next to each other but he turns the other way? and when i ask him to turn & hug me, he always says he's not comfy sleeping on his sides?

how do i feel when he keeps saying no? even though it has been 2 weeks..

how do i feel when i tell him that im embarrased even to ask for it, and more when he says no..and he gets angry & cover his face with his pillow

how do i feel when i do everything around the house & he just sits and watch tv and tells me how tired his day has been..

how do i feel when i cry & he..simply ignores. even turn his back on me & sleep..

after so long, he keeps getting angry at me because of the way i feel, i think finally im feeling..numb

please comfort me...since he does not..anymore

This post has been edited by celestra: Mar 27 2009, 08:42 PM

hey don't let him decide how you feel.

pls be strong.okay? if you married him..he is worth it.

find out why he is worth it.ok? be strong

if i marry him..he's worth it

thanx, i need this kind of support

coz i cant live without him, i only..need assurance

girls eh?

are you still there?

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This post has been edited by yeosh!: Mar 24 2009, 02:01 AM

aww girl, be strong! A woman doesn't need a guy to survive! =)
Think at the positive side, he's just reallyyyyyyyyy tired I guess. Or he faced some problems during his work? Cook a niceeeee meal and maybe massage him a lil will help.

this situation sometimes makes us give up and thinks negative way...i think u must ask him for a outside dinner and talk to him nicely...why he behave like that...that my 2cent..

so are oyu okay now?

yeah r u ok now?

I am something happened i think contributes to him behaving this way... maybe you might want to find out what is that, probably job/financial issues?

or worst other girl?

i dont know just some wild guesses

Time to get pretty and groom urself.

Arrange for a physology doctor, both of u discuss what happened and what both wants.

can i ask your age and is it you marry him bcz of you pregnant?

agreed but its more suitable to go look for a marriage counselor, pm me if u want i can recommend you a course, and its not for malay only.

Erm quite the same la i think..
malay also can actually...as long they dont mind, coz its the same principal in marraige

hey girl.. if my boy treat me like that, sure i will think that he don't love me anymore..

but pls go and ask ur boy, what happen? is it he really so tired? having problem at work or what?

u need an explanation from him.. not just let urself getting hurt day by day...

dont be too sad, sometimes it's not just the mother suffers from post natal depression.
it seems like the a number of fathers are also affected, that explains the reduced sexual activity.
Don worry, as time pas,s this will get better. In my opinion, instead of crying and get angry, do the opposite thing.
Make him happy, cheer him up, prepare some of his favourite.

Hey ts , stop guessing , go ask him straight forward

I read your case and this is what comes to mind:

Hey ts
just ask him what the hack is wrong. Most men are like this. Taking things for granted and shows no interest after some time, particularly after marriage! So, dont bother so much abt him and how he MADE you feel. Live your life each day happily and be strong!

In addition, dont suffer in silence. ASK him what is wrong. If he insists nothing, then BE IT. Dont be desperate. Just let him be.
Another thing is, a woman CAN live without a man. If a man is being a jerk, cared 0 about your feelings, then you dont need him and being alone WILL be much more comforting and blissful.

You only have one life. Live it for yourself (since u hv a baby now, well, for yr baby as well) and NEVER ever think or make him feel that u can't live without him. Never be dependent on a man. We r no longer in those days whereby we have to cling to our man for support.

Be strong and independent. Dont be bullied by him. And oh, forget those tears in front of him. He doesn't bother, so no point wasting yr tears for a man who doesn't care coz he feels nothing hearing / seeing u cry.

Since he is not interested, then dont bother initiating intimacy. Do not make him feel that he is the main priority in yr life coz the truth is, he is not. If a man treats you badly or emotionally abuses you, he is no longer worth your attention and lifetime.

i think u should talk to him, tell him ur feeling, instead of guessing, complaining, condemning, etc.

oh sorry i went offline after i replied ur msg

mm i guess we can just talk here, im afraid he can check my inbox

would upset him if ke knows i talk to others about us

thx for your concern..