Hi, i am having dilemma this few months.

I have two guys to choose to be my future husband :-

(a) He is financially secure with 5 figure income every month with own business with age of 25. Treat me well and I can spend luxuriously . Not much worried financially. He can provide everythings such as house, car, petrol, foods, shopping, holiday, entertainment etc..
But he is not high educated, smoker, bad attitude, bad family background. He love me but I dont have d feeling.

(b) He is just an employee with age of 30. Graduated from Inti College in Civil Engineering. Salary per mth only less than rm4k. But good n polite family background, good attitude, socially smoker,treat me good. Even if no $$, also will buy gifts to make u happy. Planning to do business when have $$. He love me and i love him too.

For u guys opinion, whom should i choose? Actually i have chosen, but i just want to hear u guys opinion.
Thanks all

HE LOVES ME AND I LOVE HIM TOO: u have already answered this girl... money is good no doubt, but by the way u have written this post, i alreay know who's sede are you rooting on..
Go be happy, after married get lots of babies.. hehe Engineer? 4k can go up wan trust me...

do u need 2 ask while u already have the answer girl?
is money really tat important for u rather than ur happiness ?

good example of ada wang ada amoi

oh... its ur decision

u could go with B) but dun regret your decision on your late 30s or 40s, mayb with a few kids and barely enough tight budget every month.. this is my opinion.. hehe

does B have prospect?

for me, i wil choose B.
rich guy usually a heart-breaker, sumore wif bad attitude, think bout ur kids future, dear~

junkie, The best choice here is for you to choose guy (A). But then again, his back ground is AWFUL. I doubt you would be happy being with him. He would probably turns out to be an abusive husband. But that doesn't means you have to pick guy (B). Like SERIOUSLY, Engineering, age 30 with salary of 4K ?? Is he lazy or something? Or perhaps naive? Time to be MORE creative dawg ;_;.

Solution: I'm going to take you away from both of them and me and you are going to love each other.

B .. even tho hes slow or something (others say so).. at least well manner, nurtured by nature (of his family bground) -- good in laws .. engineer ~~ got degree lah, future doesnt seem so gloom ..
but most of the time attitude plays the important priority..

just my humble op .. =)

true love ftw

TS, you had answered yourself.

Choose it in which you will feel happy.

Good luck.

ok here its goes. how bout if that guy that have salary 5k plus plus every month. do u think he can get other girls too? got money, got many amoi!

there is smtg quite wrong wif civil engineer that is still below 4K at his age...well, with good background, he can move forward easily...dun worry...

btw, i think u already hv a decision...good luck n hv a nice life gal...

got money got alot amoi.
u r one of the amoi

pick the rich one, you can regret later.

let those more innocent girls reserved for us with true heart who wants to form a family rather than form a partnership.

If u plan to marry, "But he is not high educated, smoker, bad attitude, bad family background" is always a nono. U will have family problems later. If wan like become his gf then is ok. But u know b) is the ideal husband, y think so much. Money doesnt matter, my gf told me, even i don have work, i am poor, as long as i love her, then its ok already.

1)both parties loved you and feeling change. in terms of love, both have he same level
2)not highly educate but turned out to be a succesful businessman...This beats (b) nine streets off.
3)Both are smokers. they failed together at this point
4)bad family vs good family?

sometimes guys from bad family doesnt necessary will end up being an abusive husband. If you are lucky to hit one, and they are more mature ones, I am sure they appreciate loved more than anyone else because they didn't have one last time. same goes to someone from average family, that doesnt mean they will be a lovely husband forever and ever. anyone can changed. average family guys know taht they should give love to others but guys from very very awful family background appreciate it. subsequently...when u apprecaite it, you gave everything best to it lar.

5)salary 5 digits vs 4 digits??? but the 4 digit is 4k.....i cant really compare this because 5 digits can come from 10k to 99k...which make a whole loads of difference. income wise, (a) is having a huge ones but is quite unstble since he is an entrepreneur but he is the guy who hired (b) and if you wanna said (b)having stable income? thats not reaslly a true sttement as well. he can be fired at anytime. 4k at the age of 40 yo, he might wanna considered changing a job. I am juz sounding realistic and dont hate me for that. think of you guys' house loan, family insur, car loan, furnitures and expenses next time. 4k is never enough.

6)thats one thing I would like to highlight most. THe one and only point if I am in your position now for me to choose, I will go for (b) just because you mentioned (a) has bad attitude and (b) having good charaacter. someone who had an awful attitude showed how immature he is, and how impatient he is....

BUT

dont be so happy....reason (a) having bad attitude may come from his succesfulness. and this can also happened to (b) once he got everything and his pride shoot up to the sky.

and human can changed. (a) can also turned into a nice guy and (b) can also turned into a not-so-nice one.

Okay TS, let's say if you choose the rich one. Just like in the movies, even real life, rich guys mostly won't be loyal to YOU only after married or what. They will go find others and tell you that, it is socializing.

How expensive is happiness? How much money can you spend? Buying hotels? Cars? Cruises? When you get all, what else you want? Hire Warren Buffet as servant?

I admit that money is everything, but your (B) can earn it too, but just not now. A simple conclusion for you, you can have everything but taking the high risks that your husband will betray you in the future, AND when he does, you are doomed but asking for compensation monthly.

While (A) you also had the risk, but just a lower one. But through what you wrote there, he seems like a loyal one too me ( maybe you are the one who persisting that he is ).

This post has been edited by nicholas88: Mar 17 2009, 08:41 AM

Choose B,definitely he more suits for you ,4figures vs 5figures salary doesnt matters, the matters is B really love you,rite

It's clearly you still can't decide which is better: love or money. Choose between these two and you'll know what to decide.

Best of luck.