hey, dear all zhi mui...
How do you all think about the age gap between the couple?
is 20 and 30 year-old consider a big gap?
Please share with me yours opinion. cheers..^^

For me, as long as the guy is not older than me 10 years then consider ok d.
but anyhow love thing very hard to predict.
who knows maybe next time my husband elder than me 30 years?!
hahaha...

How about younger than 10 yrs?

omg! younger than me 10 years?
i dn think i can accept...
younger 5 years ok la...

If guy older than girl more... its okay~ (range 5-10yrs old)

but if guy younger than girl more... alamak.. i think i also can't accept it also acceptable range is (younger thn me range 2-3 years enuff)

i will be headache if seem bring along a little brother / look like nai ma? lolz walking outside /faint

Yes its a big gap. Everyone will be staring at you like you're some MILF hunter. (unless its the other way around)

sorry if I offended anyone here.

I'm having an affair (not too serious tho) with a 37 year old guy (married) and I'm 24 this year. So that's a pretty huge gap there. I have a boyfriend of same age. But I think I'm happier being with this (very) older guy. BUT a big no-no is he's married. We've went out for cinema once. And it feels really awkward walking in front of the crowd with someone that old compared to me. And to make it worse, I look a bit younger than my age.

My opinion is there's nothing wrong to be with someone (very) older than you. Love is blind. But if you care about people around you, a gap of 10 years is the maximum. That's why I'm staying with my bf with the same age.

One of my ex colleague his gf elder him 7 year. Both ok what. Is jus the point of view of the person. If both live happily should b ok. But this world is full of critism so if u want to choose this way u have to prepare for this and dun regret later

my sis's fren's 12 yrs elder than his husband..
happily married wiv a 3 yr old baby boy. very cute..

well but if its for me... i thats a huge gap! ~_~
i prefer guy's who are elder than me,, but my bf a yr younger haha

Attraction is not a choice, you don't choose who you like.

That being said, a big age gap is only an issue when the couple is still young. You can't expect someone in their late twenties to be going out with a teenager right? I would say if the younger party is in the mid 20s, then there shouldn't be any problems.

is okay, i understand. the guy is 30, and the girl is 20. how do you think ?

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Added on September 19, 2008, 5:53 pmi am really agree with wat you said. I am together with a guy who is 34 year-old and i'm only 20. the age-gap is similar with you, but i really love and happy to be with him even people will say there is age gap. But as long as we can communicate well, doesn't have any problem right.

This post has been edited by IqEqSeeker: Sep 19 2008, 05:53 PM

Wah, a very difficult question to answer. It really depends on feeling. However, I prefer boy older than me but not younger than me. This is because women tend to look older than their actual age. I would like to look younger during we go out.

exactly..when you are younger than your love one right, you tend to look being protected. how nice.

well i'm going to attend my secondary school classmates wedding dinner on next mth. her husband is 16 yr older than her. i just feel shocked n gv her my warmest wishes. cant comment much as this is her choice. if me i hope my husband is 1-2 yrs older than me is enough.

~I think 10-20 years.. still can tahan la... but 30.... that one kinda scary lor... like.. imagine la... you o ly 10 years old that time.. he 40 jor..T.T~

Hi , I would agree with anyone who is love with someone much older.
Me myself i first started loving my husband when i was 16yrs and he was 36. We have a 20 yrs gap. And everything was beautiful. I was married to him and had 2 beautiful sons. Then after 10 years into marriage..the age really became a big problem. When i was younger everyone told me i will have a problem,. I defy everyone and went one because love was blind. Now i regretted so much because i am still so young and my husband is much older. We dont share the same interest no more and because i still look very good, i have men going after me and i feel my marriage is rocky.

Love is blind. So, age gap does not really play big roles there.
It should be how compatibles are the two person. Which is why, sometimes you finds couples with big age gap, but they are happily married.

and marriage needs constantly to be worked on. There is nothing like 'love last forever'. Reality of life will brings the love bird down to earth. So, that's why some marriage doesn't last. Its not the problem of age. Its how matured one person looks at situation and what they did to it.

If you think your marriage is worth saving, you will no doubt do something about it.

sumtimes a guy like to be cared by other,rather than used to care another..

this is part of the reason y some guy will look for mature and older woman..

for me +-10 shdnt be any prob

cherrs =)

This post has been edited by prs: Sep 21 2008, 06:39 PM

Gurl... seriously... married for 10 years and 2 sons... that is impressive.... nevermind the age and thinking..... you'll get along if you just try to..... other guys that chase you, they only think you're hot although may have a wonderful personality to match.... and guys same age/ around your age are still rather kiddish..... love your hubby.... things may not always seem perfect... but as you grow older together with him, then you will find that it will work^^ Ganbatte!!!

The important thing is......do you still love your husband as much as you used to?