hi gals, hv u experienced any guy which is younger than u is asking for a date or trying to chase u b4? i hv quite a no of experience. 2 out of 5 my ex is actually younger than me. i think mostly younger guys prefer to date/chase me is because i look younger than my actual age. so how do u think so?

Well I do have some experience dating younger guys but at most, they are 2 years younger and are quite mature for their age. My fiance is 1 year younger than me. I also an experience whereby a guy 6 years younger than me tried to ask me out but of course I did not agree because.... it just feels wrong when I'm working already and he's still in high school.

Personally I have no problems with couples who have significant age difference, but for myself, I don't think that I can date someone significantly younger than myself.

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i always wanna date older lady because their thinking more mature and they can be a good GF ....

not like young lady which they still cant think properly and they demand a lot

It's so weird that, girls prefer to look for guys who r older and more mature...
but opposite, guys also looks for older ladies and mature...
so what will happen to all the young guys n girls...

younger lady and guy.....study hard at school lor....what else they can do...

only for those old folks like us can enjoy pat toh hehee

Dating a guy younger than the gurl could feel very awkward

but the guys is think differently, they thinks the bigger the better.

This post has been edited by JonSpark: Jun 25 2008, 05:56 PM

My boyfriend is 3 years younger than me. We are doing very well together ^__^ Most times however alot of people think that he is actually 3 years older than me ^^;;

After 18(for both parties) age is not really an issue. It all boils down to whether or not both are on the same maturity level and are able to communicate with each other. Love knows no bounderies. So don't make age one ^__^

Plus, my mum is also older than my dad by 3 years ^^ He spent about 4-5 years to 'kao' her before she said yes to marriage XD

date younger ppl so that easy to customize later

my dad is 13 years older than my mom...i still not yet figure out how he manage to cheat my mom to marry him.....

i think its not about the age its about the level of maturity.
even a guy who is 3 years older can act like he's 3 years younger and vice versa.

haha i think diff cuz i used to think younger guys is not really mature enough to take k of me.

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Added on June 25, 2008, 9:35 pmhv the same scenario like u r having. my mum is 2 yrs older than my dad. well i actually hope to hv a bf older than me even though i did actually accepted guys younger than me b4. mayb i'm just too worried guys younger than me doesnt think more mature than me.

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Added on June 25, 2008, 9:36 pmbigger in terms of age o wat???

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Added on June 25, 2008, 9:38 pmdunno whether izzit my fate o wat. i used to met guys which is younger than me but doesnt think more mature than me leh.

This post has been edited by yen1022: Jun 25 2008, 09:38 PM

I dated a guy a year younger and although he's my best friend, I thought he was still a whole lot too immature.

It depends on what age you are at when he wanna date you lor... I went out with a guy who is 1 year younger than me when I was about 20... He was a bit immature than me... It was still fine... But if the girl is about 28 and the guy is like 20, maybe the problems occur due to different maturity level... If the woman is about 45 and the man is 40... I dont see any problem there... cuz most likely the man is matured enough for the woman... So... up to fate la...

dating a younger guy can feel myself young again (im getting old )

most of my dates were either my age or older hehe
some of them seem to mind really - and they call me "little brother", WTF?

Ur still old, that's the fact and accept it lah.

U wanna feel young again, lets date then

Been there, done that, never again!

I like gals who older than me, so far go out with them few times. Really enjoy the good time.

Well... age is not really a matter. To me is... how mature that fellow is. I date a women older than me 7 years for almost a year. To me ... we are so perfect in terms of knowing each other needs and what we want in life. Unfortunately we don't last till now due to some reason that usually most couples go thru. "Misunderstanding". But we are still fren till now. Most of my fren saying I am dating my sister or aunty but to me.. she is as sweet as pure honey.

Age is not a matter.. to me dating an older person is much better cos they are more mature and not tat demanding. And most older lady have aims... they want family and love not like the young 1... enjoyment and fun which of course spending money. my 6cent tho.

This post has been edited by SadGuy2: Jun 26 2008, 01:49 PM

All my ex is 5 years, 3 years & 2 years. The maturity does not measure in age, its very subjective & depends the individual. The most important is comes to compatibilities of both couples.
But pls take note that gals are tends to be more mature faster than guys.

7 years that's a big gap.. anyway the most important is compatibility.. age is a figure only..

forgot to mention...looks is one of the considerations...

my aunt used to date a younger guy. and they are happily married now with 3 kids. and the age differences never been an issue to them or both their family. there are some cases younger guys "love" older women because of their money. and younger girls with older guys too. i dont think age really matters as long as the love for each other is sincere....

hehe tats becos u look younger than them.

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Added on June 26, 2008, 9:14 pmgot the same feeling too. but now there's another guy 2 yrs younger than me is dating me but i still observing whether to accept.

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Added on June 26, 2008, 9:15 pmcuz gals really mind when the guy they r dating look younger than them. if onli the age is younger still ok but when comes to look hardly gals dun mind lor. cuz me oso mind if the guy i'm dating look younger than me. looks like bringing my didi out.

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Added on June 26, 2008, 9:17 pmwell perhaps its due to case to case basis. more often v used to accept guys older than gals compare gals older than guys lor.

This post has been edited by yen1022: Jun 26 2008, 09:17 PM

i have a frenz..guy...he always dating wif de lady dat older den he..haiz...duno wat magic he use..haha..by the..love really is blind..haha

i am MIND..that if my bf is younger than me...the fact is i cant take it...ppl will gossip..so not good lor..after the guy also no face..so i nv accept guys that is younger than me...

i think u need to hang out with right type of people.

Sien lor.. later even u find an older than u and ppl still gossip something, then what? Break up?

U find ur own life why need people comment? So when u having sex, do you need to ask your relatives, friend, stranger?

Then,
PPL gossip, guy no face = that guy no guts at all.

PPL believe in Gossip never successful one.

Good, Im strongly agree with you. hehe

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Added on June 27, 2008, 5:41 pmThe most important thing to keep a relationship last long is feeling and thinking. Age is just a figure..
We are date with our gf but not date with our friends.
Why so care about people comment.
For me i just will follow my feeling, as long as im happy, i wont care what ppl gossip.


This post has been edited by uno: Jun 27 2008, 05:41 PM

i was like "together-not together" with this classmate of mine who was a year younger than me.

but we didnt get into the stage of formal relationship for many reasons. he talked to me when he feels like it, ignored me when he has something better to do. he expected me to appreciate everything he did for me. he wanted me to confess first. i felt that i need to give a lot of care and love in this relationship and no way it will last, because one day i will be exhausted by it. once he didnt talk to me for 2 weeks, just a few sms. then one night he called me at 1130pm when i have already slept to ask me to bring some food to his birthday party, which was a few days later. i got annoyed and then i decided i cant carry on anymore. i acted as if nothing has ever happened between us. he then only confessed that he likes me (well, we never confess to each other before. its sort of like guessing all the while. to be honest, at that time, i sometimes wonder if he actually like me). it was too late and i already give up. i didnt bother to explain. i just replied "i dont know what to say".

recently i noticed that he wrote on his friend's facebook that i am harrassing his friend! (well, he intro his friend to me last time). that was so @#$@%

younger guys = lots of trouble.

^ another wrong kind of thinking

younger guys not = lots of trouble

Un-matured person, give it male of female, give him either 30years old or 40years old only have this kind of trouble.

Which means, you still have long way to go

hihi i hv a similar scenario like u hv but this guy is not tat bad like ur classmate. he did confess to me for the 2nd time v meet. v go clubbing n after tat they went to hv supper. he did it in front of his frens when everyone is eating. this is the first time i met a guy which is so direct. i'm too shocked n surprised as i dun used to meet such guys which is so direct. i told him u r drunk o watever excuses i can find tat time. even his fren is trying to promote him as well. even since then v used to chat via sms n on off he'll b calling me. in btw he'll ignored me sometimes then will call o sms me back. i felt really uncertain. just dun understand wat can help to break this situation. just like yesterday me n him went to mamak stall yum cha. just 2 of us onli n he sent me back home. v r just walking back from the mamak stall to my house which is 15 mins apart. i think i did gv him some hints but he's not really getting it o trying to avoid. is there any recommendations here?

dont need u to teach me what type of guys i need to mixed with..

no offence!!

just that as long i am confortable mixing around then its fine...

i just close to guys...

well, i guess thats abit generalize. But again, I guess the kid got problem at the 1st place.

yeelin04> I wont teach people that I neva saw their face b4.

nevermind lar 7chai...

stubborness to accept good advices is not rare case also...

We'll see ok?

looking for old ladies

oh...i juz found out gal looking forward for the "older" guys (or mature in another word).

I tot gals r always looking for those young young 1,very fashion de,always bring them go out play(wet) de,very leng zai 1 and also always joke wit gal 1(u can say playboy type).

From the fren i saw,all of them r like dat...r they too "young"??Haha

other said if wife older than husband, the husband will become prosperity??????

my gf is 5 years older then me and i dun mind lol

who said that ? No offence but that's the stupidest thing i've ever heard

well, I got no eyes to see.

wow can i no the age diff btw ur fren n those younger guys? mayb they r trying to recall their sweet memories when they r in the age. just feel tat if really big diff i cant really accept.

yen..
1) improve your english
2) how old are you? you seems to be living in fantasy. not only in this post, but others as well

Chill people, i think she is still too young to understand .....although i dun agree with yen at some point, but i think she is free to express herself....back to the topic, personally, i wouldn't mind to date with youger guys. But i think guys usually look for younger girls.

he might be playing mouse and cat game with u?

so would you count those boy that date older gal had an outstanding personality ?

i prefer older girl too

i feel like more and more guy prefer older girl same goes to my friend ... lol

But the majority of women do not prefer younger men despite your desires.

infact me to my gf is also 5 years older then me , but we are happy till so far , as n when quarrel may be due to the age gap i think .
My point of view is not mind or don mind , but whether can get along or not

if u count in Malaysia, then it is. But if you looks global, is not.

ya lor my 2 gf oso older than me.

Hmmm. We are all somewhat missing the point here.
What do we really mean by 'dating' younger/older man/women?
Or do we mean 'having relationship' with younger/older man/women?

The reason i ask is that how many of us would first ask a person's age then pop the question of asking them out on a date?
Example 1:
Boy : Hi miss, how old are you?
Girl : I'm 25 years old (Why the hell is he asking about my age?)
Boy : (Damn, she's older than me by 5 years) Never mind.
Example 2:
Boy : Hi miss, would want to go out on a date with me?
Girl : Hmmm, first tell me how old are you? (I'm 25 years old btw)
Boy : I'm turning 21 in a couple of months.
Girl : Sorry! You're too young. (But nevertheless good looking tho).

I think most of us would go out on a date regardless of whether we know the age of the opposite sex. It all comes down to looks and how comfortable are we during the initial stage of getting to know the opposite sex. We could tell whether that person is mature, has developed a good sense of responsibility, trustworthy, kind and caring from the the first few times we meet them (at work, during fellowship, meetings, business/work discussion etc) then only we could decide whether to date him/her.

And i believe in MOST CASES, it is only after dating them do we really how old are they.

Anyway, i'm a man, so if the question is WOULD I DATE OLDER WOMEN? I'd say, dont really care as long as good looking. Next, WOULD I HAVE RELATIONSHIP WITH OLDER WOMEN? Why not! If she is my type and presents herself maturely, responsible, caring and lovingly submissive.

By the way, I'm 30 years old and now happily married with my wife who will be celebrating her 35th birthday in 2 days time.

I met her 12 years ago. Asked her out on a date just after twice casually seeing her at a friends house party. I didn't even bother to ask her about her age and neither did she. We only came to know about each other's age after the 3rd date. During the 4th date, i asked what she thought about the entire dating thing now that she knows i'm 5 years younger than her, and she said,

"younger boys are often naughty, which helps spice up the relationship. However, it takes an older woman to teach him how to be a man. On the other hand, younger woman tends to nag too much and often immature, and after telling you all this, I think we're simply made for each other".

The End.

This post has been edited by stanislaustendahal: Jun 30 2008, 11:25 AM

Yea I had 2 younger guys chased me before but I rejected... even guys at my age (24) are still childish or too ego for me... I prefer older and mature men with proper career background! *Don't have to be rich lah.. hardworking enough*

well, again I guess you shud mix with right type of people.

Your thoughts are probably the same for the vast majority of women after the age of 25.

maybe he's drunk when he confessed that time?

I think it's unfair that most girls on here wouldn't even give a younger guy a chance. I didn't think I'd ever go for younger guys, but I realize now that age is really just a number.

my half-bf is 1 year younger than me but he treated me like i am 2 years younger than him. heheh

That become ur slogan recently?

What is half-bf??

not really slogan, just that I saw people complain so just give them a choice.

actually something like scandal..but i found it rude and kinda disrespect to him since i know that he really2 sayang me..so i came out with the term half-bf..hehehe

Yeah, it's just a number with error tolerance +/- n years. For me, n = 5.

Dated a guy 3 years younger than me..
lasted 1 year 6months++...were still best friends till today..
no regrets... he was a good first boyfriend..

at the begining was hard for me to accept...
coz of the age difference & what ppl would think..
but then after being with him...realised that age does not matter..
Most important for me is, similar interests,values,etc...

he is just "good" not wonderful, and got dumped by you

i dont mind dating with elder girl

well elephant, mayb v r not in the right channel. diff ppl hv diff thinking. if u think i'm living in fantasy then i can tell u tat i'm not. anyway thanks for ur feedback.

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Added on June 30, 2008, 9:08 pmhaha jeans_owner so happy to no tat u tot i'm veli young. the true is i'm not as young as wat u think. well looks n age doesnt matter. the most important is how u feel when u wif the guy. in the deep side of my heart if i can choose i rather choose a guy which is older but mature than me. but when it comes to luv, i can say luv is just blind. tats y i got 2 ex is younger than me.

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Added on June 30, 2008, 9:10 pmyup tot so.

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Added on June 30, 2008, 9:15 pmwow really respect ur courage n so glad to no tat u hv a great family.

This post has been edited by yen1022: Jun 30 2008, 09:15 PM

This seems to look like a personal attack to me.

1. Her grammar may not be perfect, but you too made a very obvious grammar mistake in your second point.
2. After viewing yen's posts, I would say she does not seem to be living in fantasy. I think it is just a matter of opinion

agreed...give him a warning or vacation for a week

yeelin04> I wont teach people that I neva saw their face b4.

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Thanks for your comment n commitments...bye

ok ok..he is great...cant say wonderful..coz my expectations very high..hhehe...
hehe...no one got dumped...
just decided to break up coz of other factors...difficult family..
what to do? haih...

[quote=yeelin04,Jul 1 2008, 09:20 AM]
yeelin04> I wont teach people that I neva saw their face b4.

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Thanks for your comment n commitments...bye

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not only me, there are few forummer u need to thanks as well.

This post has been edited by 7chai: Jul 1 2008, 07:25 PM

haha same here. my expectations is very high oso.

ngek ngek ngek, older girls ftw

but then again, i think its just the matter of mentality, age doesn't really matter, i for one would prefer to have someone who has a more mature thinking and actions.....dont want a girl who comes telling me she'll commit suicide if we were to break up or something like that ! LMAO

and i actually met a girl who says she doesn't like younger guys....and so happen i'm younger then her by a few months.....sigh....isn't mentality the one that matters? a 29years old guy can also be immature right? so why cant a 22yo be mature?

come and think of it, alot of gals told me their expectation very high. Look at their face then I ask the same question to you.

Do you have the quality that as par as those high quality man ?

haha 7 chai..well said..i just wana ask those gal said that they have high expectation. Pls bare in mind if you know how to choose ppl, ppl also know how to choose you.

^^I agree.

Undeniably there are people whose maturity is parallel to their age. Not only guys, but girls too, especially those who refuse to expose themselves to the real world and prefer to shove themselves into comfort zones where they either live in the bliss of ignorance or indulge themselves in tales of tragedy.

It's understandable that girls prefer older guys, because of the mentality that they believe older people can teach them more and are more stable, but many girls don't realize that some people never grow beyond a certain age. I have met 30 year olds who still behave immaturely as if they never reached puberty, and I have met young teenagers whose views are sometimes shockingly matured.

Judging a person's suitability by age seems to be a good general indicator, but my gut feeling is that if girls resort to that as the ultimate criteria for choosing partners (e.g. MUST have an older guy as a partner), then they will be missing out the best of the crop.

I think it's fine to date younger guys as long as they are mature enough & not looking like a little brother (pretty sure that no girls like to look older than their other half).

Last but not least....
I think younger guys can be cool and hot! ^^

well its not me who can answer. well even high expectations but its useless when u really couple wif tat guy. mayb he had so many things tat u cant accept but since adi couple u'll need to accept it.

but one thing is the most important among couple, trust.
Without trust, wherever you go, both of you will end up argueing...

not necessarily. You DON'T have to accept it ... you need to TELL him to do something about it. That's what a relationship is all about: give and take.

good good please go spread your mindset to others

totally agree with you....
once trust is there...everything else will be easier...

lol.. didn have older gf ar.. lol...

twice -

there are good and bad as in the usual relationships (or unusual relationships ).

hm i got chase 1 gal older than me.

she said i not suitable coz i not mature and so on...

but is it man older must mature ? or got gud carrer ? not fair for me. sometimes love can prove after a certain time together and un each other.

so weird. anyway i bless her gud luck in future.

she is looking on 1 side, in other word she cant see the big picture. Consider she not mature as well.

hm i got chase 1 gal older than me.

she said i not suitable coz i not mature and so on...

but is it man older must mature ? or got gud carrer ? not fair for me. sometimes love can prove after a certain time together and un each other.

so weird. anyway i bless her gud luck in future.

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Maybe u are not mature enuf for her?
Or maybe she is just trying to make an excuse to reject u?
Maybe she thinks that both of u not compatible?

Guys and girls can come up with thousand of reason when it comes to rejection.
Older man doesn't mean being more matured or having better career of course.
Some older guys..can act like super kid,screw up with their jobs & life.
Cheers MATE!

in short, maturity does not measure in term of age. Its all about the feeling & the click factor that starts. I do know some guy with good career, moderate good looking, mature but yet still single lohhh....but some guy with low education, moderate life, somehow have partner & even better qualificaiton...

younger guy is good~~.. But fair justification needs to be conduct in order to verify the personality of each individuals. I hate to listen to this phrase " older people tend to know more and much mature than the young ones "

well yeah thats true about that quote of yours but since you dont agree to it ...

so you think younger people tend to know more and much mature then the older ones? if yes, how so?

heard the word experience my friend?

thats why older ones know more and much mature then the young ones

lol

This post has been edited by Calvin871989: Jul 3 2008, 08:30 PM

Dear friend, I did not state that the younger people tend to outnumbered the older ones in the sense of maturity and knowledge.. You can't say

that majority of the older people are much mature than the young ones either, I believed you've seen several childish minded adults? unless you

possessed a strong evidence to prove it. What I'm trying to say is the older ones need not show their egoistic value just because they are older

and looking down upon the younger ones which such irrelevant conclusions. Experiences doesn't show everything, it is the perceptions that is

concerned in every aspects..

This post has been edited by melthq: Jul 3 2008, 09:02 PM

[quote=7chai,Jul 3 2008, 12:08 PM]she is looking on 1 side, in other word she cant see the big picture. Consider she not mature as well.

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ya lor for me she oso not mature lah. just said me not mature.

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Added on July 3, 2008, 9:23 pm[quote=Cyndilai,Jul 3 2008, 02:20 PM]
hm i got chase 1 gal older than me.

she said i not suitable coz i not mature and so on...

but is it man older must mature ? or got gud carrer ? not fair for me. sometimes love can prove after a certain time together and un each other.

so weird. anyway i bless her gud luck in future.

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Maybe u are not mature enuf for her?
Or maybe she is just trying to make an excuse to reject u?
Maybe she thinks that both of u not compatible?

Guys and girls can come up with thousand of reason when it comes to rejection.
Older man doesn't mean being more matured or having better career of course.
Some older guys..can act like super kid,screw up with their jobs & life.
Cheers MATE!

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yeah maybe lor she find out i not suitable lor. tks for your comfort.

This post has been edited by ubsacc2004: Jul 3 2008, 09:23 PM