well its not me who can answer. well even high expectations but its useless when u really couple wif tat guy. mayb he had so many things tat u cant accept but since adi couple u'll need to accept it.

but one thing is the most important among couple, trust.
Without trust, wherever you go, both of you will end up argueing...

not necessarily. You DON'T have to accept it ... you need to TELL him to do something about it. That's what a relationship is all about: give and take.

good good please go spread your mindset to others

totally agree with you....
once trust is there...everything else will be easier...

lol.. didn have older gf ar.. lol...

twice -

there are good and bad as in the usual relationships (or unusual relationships ).

hm i got chase 1 gal older than me.

she said i not suitable coz i not mature and so on...

but is it man older must mature ? or got gud carrer ? not fair for me. sometimes love can prove after a certain time together and un each other.

so weird. anyway i bless her gud luck in future.

she is looking on 1 side, in other word she cant see the big picture. Consider she not mature as well.

hm i got chase 1 gal older than me.

she said i not suitable coz i not mature and so on...

but is it man older must mature ? or got gud carrer ? not fair for me. sometimes love can prove after a certain time together and un each other.

so weird. anyway i bless her gud luck in future.

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Maybe u are not mature enuf for her?
Or maybe she is just trying to make an excuse to reject u?
Maybe she thinks that both of u not compatible?

Guys and girls can come up with thousand of reason when it comes to rejection.
Older man doesn't mean being more matured or having better career of course.
Some older guys..can act like super kid,screw up with their jobs & life.
Cheers MATE!

in short, maturity does not measure in term of age. Its all about the feeling & the click factor that starts. I do know some guy with good career, moderate good looking, mature but yet still single lohhh....but some guy with low education, moderate life, somehow have partner & even better qualificaiton...

younger guy is good~~.. But fair justification needs to be conduct in order to verify the personality of each individuals. I hate to listen to this phrase " older people tend to know more and much mature than the young ones "

well yeah thats true about that quote of yours but since you dont agree to it ...

so you think younger people tend to know more and much mature then the older ones? if yes, how so?

heard the word experience my friend?

thats why older ones know more and much mature then the young ones

lol

This post has been edited by Calvin871989: Jul 3 2008, 08:30 PM

Dear friend, I did not state that the younger people tend to outnumbered the older ones in the sense of maturity and knowledge.. You can't say

that majority of the older people are much mature than the young ones either, I believed you've seen several childish minded adults? unless you

possessed a strong evidence to prove it. What I'm trying to say is the older ones need not show their egoistic value just because they are older

and looking down upon the younger ones which such irrelevant conclusions. Experiences doesn't show everything, it is the perceptions that is

concerned in every aspects..

This post has been edited by melthq: Jul 3 2008, 09:02 PM

[quote=7chai,Jul 3 2008, 12:08 PM]she is looking on 1 side, in other word she cant see the big picture. Consider she not mature as well.

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ya lor for me she oso not mature lah. just said me not mature.

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Added on July 3, 2008, 9:23 pm[quote=Cyndilai,Jul 3 2008, 02:20 PM]
hm i got chase 1 gal older than me.

she said i not suitable coz i not mature and so on...

but is it man older must mature ? or got gud carrer ? not fair for me. sometimes love can prove after a certain time together and un each other.

so weird. anyway i bless her gud luck in future.

[/quote]

Maybe u are not mature enuf for her?
Or maybe she is just trying to make an excuse to reject u?
Maybe she thinks that both of u not compatible?

Guys and girls can come up with thousand of reason when it comes to rejection.
Older man doesn't mean being more matured or having better career of course.
Some older guys..can act like super kid,screw up with their jobs & life.
Cheers MATE!

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yeah maybe lor she find out i not suitable lor. tks for your comfort.

This post has been edited by ubsacc2004: Jul 3 2008, 09:23 PM

[quote=spunkberry,Jul 2 2008, 11:37 PM]not necessarily. You DON'T have to accept it ... you need to TELL him to do something about it. That's what a relationship is all about: give and take.

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well i understand wat u trying to say. of cuz a relationship is bout gv n take but oso including respect n understanding. just like i dun like tat guy smoking but he treat me veli good. i've asked him to quit smoking but da best he can do is reduce the amount of cigarette he can smoke tats all. in this kinda scenario, normally i'll still accept it cuz its not a big issue but just 1 of the expectation from me.

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Added on July 3, 2008, 11:26 pm[quote=Cyndilai,Jul 3 2008, 02:20 PM]
hm i got chase 1 gal older than me.

she said i not suitable coz i not mature and so on...

but is it man older must mature ? or got gud carrer ? not fair for me. sometimes love can prove after a certain time together and un each other.

so weird. anyway i bless her gud luck in future.

[/quote]

Maybe u are not mature enuf for her?
Or maybe she is just trying to make an excuse to reject u?
Maybe she thinks that both of u not compatible?

Guys and girls can come up with thousand of reason when it comes to rejection.
Older man doesn't mean being more matured or having better career of course.
Some older guys..can act like super kid,screw up with their jobs & life.
Cheers MATE!

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yes yes totally agreed on ur statement. if a guy which chase u but u dun like him u'll hv thousands o millions of reason to reject him. but if a guy which u like him u wont need to find any reason to accept him.

This post has been edited by yen1022: Jul 3 2008, 11:26 PM

Well, from what I experience. Girls who is more mature will always make the guy more comfort, be in conversation or in other stuff.

And yeah, they are pretty smart as well. Rather than saying you, "You are not mature for me." Is damn big huge gap of different.

Another sorry fella who doesn't know how to differentiate between apple and orange again

Older ones have more experiences than younger one? Well, when majority agree on this, I disagreed. We live in the same world but grow up in different enviroment, thus giving us different kind of experience. And what kind of expereince does an old one have? Sleep, watch TV, eat? Well yeah, if that was the kind of experiences that you're talking about, I pity about you.

Last thing, More Experiences Doesn't mean MATURED.

yes of cuz u point out something which is true. some ppl will b mature when they get older but some ppl still staying in his/her own world. anyway there's a quote in chinese, elder ppl eat salt more than u eat rice. means tat older ppl hv more experience than younger ppl. v cant deny on the statement but of cuz oso depends on the ppl whether they learn from the past.

my hero...

oh wait it should be the other way around. lol hehe