wat r u trying to say? veli confusing lar.

omg la you... lol you help me out with the experience part and i didnt have to say anything

were you backing me up at that time or not ???

ahh never mind anways. heh

i have to agree more with temptations lo, u know quotes in chinese can be used only when the situation is right...not everytime its right u see...

yes ppl often say elder ppl eat salt more then u eat rice, but doesn't mean eat more salt is always better....

we all live in different environment and grow under different circumstances....so you cant generalize everyone for the same situation...

let me say for eg:

i have an elder brother and he's 2 years elder then me, all this while my father pamper him like hell and he gets whatever he wants...my dad bought him a car, gives him good allowance, and good college to go to....almost anything he want also can get,and me? i've been workign since i'm 15 yo, and work my ass out to get me through college, i needed to buy my own car if i wanted to drive which i did when i was 18yo and have been living hell since then........tell me in this, how can he be more matured and experienced then me?yes he did eat more salt then i eat rice since i was born 2 years later, but i dont see he's anymore mature then me?

so i dont find it fancy with any 29 or 3x or 4x years old people who said they are more experience then us....yes maybe in a way, but they are not necessary right.....if someone elder then bill gates told him that IT kenot work laa...and he listen, you wont even have microsoft today.... so we all live in different era...your parents era is old school jor....but i didn't say u must deny watever they say laa... just evaluate wats right and wats wrong...

experience doesnt label the person as a mature 1, but the person who say this quote I will definitely label that person as a narrow minded 1.

Time change, time go quick. Things that old people did last time will neva deal the fully efficiency effect in nowdays world.

chinese sayings?

That's kind of all bull shit. You don't live with it, neither you eat it.

P/S : I'm chinese btw. I don't want it later to be a racist thread.

I tot u are ang moh ?

kolek kolek they think the world is flat and Mercedes can only be driven by rich ppl.

well i should edit it wif the family background. its important how ur family raise u up. i hv the same feeling but its diff way round. i'm the eldest n my youngest sis is 6 yrs younger than me. she's always manja2 wif my parents n she got everything just onli open her mouth to ask for it. she hp, laptop n etc. i buy everything by my own. hp, pc n etc. when i'm at her age i'm adi start working but she until now not even dare to work alone. i used to accompany her to work for freelance job. i dun think she can work independently. so i think parents should hv some responsible on this.

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Added on July 6, 2008, 11:40 pmdun worry i dun think its an issue here. well its just a quote. no right no wrong but of cuz it mayb true in some ppl may not b true on some other ppl.

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Added on July 6, 2008, 11:40 pmwell ur sweating face confusing me.

This post has been edited by yen1022: Jul 6 2008, 11:40 PM

Parent is one thing.

Even if your parent did give her a good advices, the effectiveness of this impact only can be seen if the listener understand and adapt it.

Just don't end up, masuk telinga kiri, keluar telinga kanan(or the othe way around)

P/S : I'm the eldest and I understand also.. I had to start working after school when I'm around 12/13 years old.. to be exact, it's starting school holiday after UPSR.

@7chai... since when i am a ang moh pulak?

did i replied here before? argg....nvm I will reply again..lol...

i don't mind dating younger guy but not too young

Girls nowadays dont really mind the guys' age. Its all about open relationships nowadays.

be flexible, tolerance of +/- 12 would be good.

Hmmm. It seems that this topic has been going around the bush without any conclusion. Some even makes this topic sparks with fire. I strongly suggest that we should have a poll for this as this is open to all gender and race.

BTW get back to the topic. I don't mind to date with someone which is younger or older than me. Since i have both experience before. My first ex is younger than me but she is whole lot mature than me. But i dont think she eats salt more than me lol. Is just that she is being surrounded by a lot of good people that teaches her and somehow form her attitude to be much mature than others of her age. I got dump LOL. But never regret cause i really feels that the fault comes from me for being childish.

But the second 1 is the totally other way round back experience for me. But definitely i learn and made changes. This time i learn a lot from those who has already been there, did it and go through it people, succesful people. I made most of the idea, planning and decision for her. You can say that i help her made dreams realised. She trusted me with all her life. I can say if i call her strip naked she will do it LOL, joking. In the end i dump her, sad. Maybe due i see no future with her. Lovers tend to see the future of getting married etc etc. But once that is gone you have no direction anymore. This start when we always argue the same thing. Nothing has improve and the problem remains. We never go to the next step of our life.

If for girl to feel that to a guy that guy is a goner. No security, assurance and confident toward that guy. SWT. BUT THE SECOND 1 IS OLDER THAN ME LOL

This is my opinion.

Cheers



This post has been edited by barrylin: Jul 7 2008, 12:40 PM

Did you take a step forward in advance? Like trying to sit down and discuss about it?

I often have arguments with my current gf which is older than me. Yet, I took the first step to be more tolerance and listen out for her and then discuss how to solve this arguments, instead of suggesting break up just like that.

Being together is not about both of you have sharing the same comments, younger than you or older than you. Believe me. Every couple do have arguments sometimes. And if a simple arguments that leads to divorce or break up, you just could give up on your sweet love's life and continue with your own life without annoying others.

Being together is something that you must tolerance with each other, team up to solve problems such as financial crisit, family matters and so on. I think I'd mentioned this long ago. Have any of you watched Spiderman 3? Remember the parts where Aunt Mary tell Peter that "A man must put his wife before himself"?

P/S : Lao.. this topic really lari jor...

Yes we do sit down and talk about it. We have both agree to deal with it. In the end the result is still the same, we argue back. Nothing has change. I see no point being together since we are not advancing. In the end you will loose confident, trust, and faith in that person. Is just like being with her just for time to past by. Dont waste other people time and your time. There is no need to wait for a replacement then only you switch. When you give up on that person even spiderman wont come to save you. That is when you have been dissapointed for a few times.

age also is no a important matter to me..as long as she love me and i love her..that is enough..love is blind and love can close our gap although have age gap...

you seriously need to learn more than your sweet little love life.

well i just called the younger guy which previously trying to chase me. i ask him directly wat kinda ppl r u treating me as. u no wats his answer? he can said its good fren. i think he's avoiding sth. mayb he's not mature enough o he dunno tat its hurting me. well wat 2 do? life still need to goes on. mayb i just cant couple wif younger guys. o mayb my look attracts younger guy which actually immature than me.

i could be the next guy to chase a girl like you... hope it didnt hurt you... hehe

are you younger then her?