Hi guys...

About me...
Name: Steven
Age: 24
Height: 173CM
Weight: 76
Hair: Center part long hair.
Face: Wearing spec
Skin: normal brown
Picture: http://profiles.friendster.com/14120780


Apr 12 she broke up with me at 10:32am when i was working. she just msg me and told me its over...

(Things i did wrong)
i raise my voice when she lied to me and she told me that she cant tahan of my attitude already.

(Problem that cause)
She added 2 guys she didt tell me. after login to her acc coz i suspac something.. got 2 new guys.. no offence if only frens but why lie to me when i ask her did she added 2 new guys.. she denied. Thats my anger came in. I mean come on guys you sure angry one ma if she lie to you , its like shes hiding something. If only frens why lie?

(Next 2 days.....)

1.Told my mum i went down to stay with my frens.

2.Went down to KL and find her(She was from KL and im from PG)

3.Strait go to her house saw her house and took a pic told her im here.

4. Night she dosent wanner come back, her mum told me to buzz off coz she told me that she will go other place if i dont go back. Her mum keep crying after seeing me.(I duno)

5. So her mum offerd me a lift to the nearest LRT in Taman university.

6. After got down my fren called me. She ask me that hows everything? didt you get her back? i say no she dosent wanner see me.She says that she has a plan and i say lets hear it while standing at the LRT place.
She told me to go back and stay near her place , so i crush in hotel petaling jaya. She told me that tml wake up at 5:00am then hide and wait for her at nearby and dont let her mum see you if not your dead , then i say ok... i take it.. i will do anyting to get back my 5yrs relationship..

7.took a cab earlie in the morning at 5am.Wait for her until 8am only she came out. Her mum got out at 7am fatching her bro and sis to school. So when she was comming out i blocked her car. I told her can she fatch me to the nearest bus stand? she refuse to fatch me. after i ask a few times she let me in.. so i told her that can she forgive me and for the last chance i wont make the same mistake again i have learned my lesson and im sorry.. she refuse to forgive me.. after that she say"now its 8:15am already if you dont get down now i will be late for work and next week i sure say no chance for you if you didt get down from the car. So i get down feeling very relex abit. The worst came.

8. Got back to PG and next week i called her and msg her but no reply.
Then finally after a few times i tried she picked up. She told me that 'you know that day i told you to come and find me in next week is becoz i want you to get down from the car only , If not you wont get down the car". After hearing this... crush in to milion and millon pieces.

9. Im already comming to KL to continue my study and she knows it.. but now she called me to stay back in PG dont need to come to KL anymore. But i wanted to come. Befor the qurral she even told me that we will go buy new shirts and pants and etc when i come to KL. Now all has been broken and already 4 weeks like hell. KL samor dun have much frens. My frens called me to stay back at PG but i refuse.. coz i tot that there is still light and i can pull her back.. but now... its all gone.


Nearly NEARLY KILL myself... suiside. But thank god my mum was at home... so i didt do it. If my parents were out they would see my body.

This is my life now..

1.Everynight i cry myself to sleep.
2.Cant eat, sleep, work, study etc.
3.Lost 7kg since broke up. now (76kg) fat? see my pic lo
4.Until now still keep thinking of her i miss her so much.
5.Already 5 yrs im with her...(Far distance but got find her everyweek)
6.Studying now in APIIT and she knows.
7.Alone in there in the hostel duno do wat even i have my own laptop.
8.Play games? im a gamer myself but there is no mood to play no frens to play.
9.Have very less frens in APIIT coz only 10 ppl in that class why? i duno.
10.Sad and sad and very sad very lonely but this is what i choose i have to bare about it.

Just to express out my feelings here coz there is no fren wanner hear me out... if you all also dont wanner hear then nvm leave me alone ...its ok with me...



Cheers.... but sad.


Update 2015:

OMG!!!! All this post is vintage man!! I look back again at my post I laugh out loud at my stupidness!! I already have move forward far far away now.. Right now by looking back at what I have post... I feel like wanner slap the 6 years back of me. Bah.. How stupid I am wanner die that time. Farking stupid!!!

Update: Now I found a better one which cares for me so much.. When I'm down or she is down we help each other up. We are getting married this year.. If I have done something stupid that time I won't have this lovely wife anymore.

To the guys and gals out there, there is always someone waiting for you out there, it's only the matter of time he/she comes to you.

So my advice is don't give up on life!! Dare to take that step further in life, this is all part of learning process in life.

To the guys/gals that helped me in this forum, I thank you all for your support and help me up and be a better man.. Better man I mean new hair style and buffed up!!! Hehe.. Thank you all. Looking forward to my wedding. 😊😄

Sorry for my bad England. doh.gif sweat.gif notworthy.gif

Still trying to improve my English as we speak every now and then. rclxub.gif


Well about her.. hm.. i am not so sure actually, i have lost all contact with her. A few months after the breakup.

Maybe she also moved on and got someone? Maybe she has already learned something from our relationship and she treated her other half better?


PS: My Humble Advice To all my brothers and sisters out there with a broken heart.. please listen. Move on and the right guy/gal will come to you. You may think it wont happen now but sooner or later the right 1 will come.. unless you very picky la.. If like that wait until you die also no people come.. -.-

For the dudes/guys please grow some balls to meet girls(Yes i have no balls at all meeting up girls, but hey! i manage to get an average sweet girl who cares for me),

For the girls don't be too picky, if he is caring good and nice to you and YOU have some feel in him just go with the flow and you wont miss out the best guys out there, there is still lots of good guys out there, it's just you have to move out to the world and see it for yourself.

Just remember guys.. Important!!

God helps those who help themselves

This post has been edited by crisboy: Jun 10 2024, 11:01 AM

拿得起，放得下。。。

guy, many girls still alive on this world...

TS, ur story so familiar.. at LYN thread tat i read las time..

ai.... how to heal this sickness of mine?

use time tablets...>.<"

time will heal ur sadness. be strong.

Time will Heal...be Strong

its like when im with her im carrying 3 rocks.. after she left me im carrying 6 rocks and i lost my legs....the half of my body gone . Im crawling now with my hands on the floor with 9 rocks on my back...

take a moment only..

ceh................. she broke with u because of your anger she make few friend....i think she have the right reason to break with u....... how come u didnt allow her to make new friends?

how ar??
wait peinsama gets in here,
n he ll tells u wut to do

Outsider plz read properly .... when i ask her she denied and lie to me.. if your GF lie to you wont you be angry? and if frens only why hide about it? read carefully plz

i feel u.. i feel u..

mayb outsider trying to say tat u r a control freak??
i thk theres alot of thgs tat piles up til ur gf explode n end up break wif u..
guess not only bcos of tat FS stuff only..

control wat?? just ask only and in a good way... look if your gf meet someone and you see it with your own eyes you wont ask her??? come on man command sense.... why choose lie?? other then tell me the truth...?

Ya maybe it gathers gathers up then explode... maybe.. my bad my fault.


This post has been edited by crisboy: May 18 2008, 10:10 PM

perhaps u don trust her??
not everythg need to tell o inform u rite..
mayb she lies to avoid any unnecessary argument?
u get envy easily, don u??
anyway, its over, let it go..

brave

cheer up bro, many other girls out there for you.

time heals all pain... its the same to all of us during breakup...

have fun and enjoy life ^^ we the brotherhood of lyn will help u ^^

its like when im with her im carrying 3 rocks....

er...to be honest, when i read this statement of yours...
u've already find her as a burden, then how can u live on with it?

means that when she is with me my burden is not that much.... when she leave my burden gets alot worst...not to say depend on her too much but she helped me alot....


misayew.. its ok if avoid unnessasry argument but after i found out and you know i know it already why still lie leh??? ai.... tell the truth is better right? if your kids lie to you and you found out after that, when you asked them and they say 'no papa i didt do it' but you already know the truth... your kid lie to you, how would you feel when your kid lie 2 times to you..worst still your own GF...

This post has been edited by crisboy: May 18 2008, 11:41 PM

Sneaking into her account and look at her things is bad.
However, lying to you is bad too.

Killing yourself over a gal? I look down at guys like this. If you don't even have confidence how are you gonna take care of others?

She doesn't want you anymore. Stop being obsessive. Just continue your studies and make more friends. Show her that you're a better man and even without her you can succeed.

dude...it if she want to hide it from you means there's a possibility she's curi makan le....and even if she din curi makan....her heart change ady...there's no people can stop you from continue to love her..but you need to think whether izzit worth it or not le...u're like already half dead here and she might be enjoying her single life again...be strong, try to let go of your feeling to her...now it's no longer that if she give any chance to you, it's you who give chance for yourself to continue life and you'll meet a better girl instead.

Ever heard the phrase 'past build the future'?

If she say, she can't tahan your attitude, what does that mean? Does it mean, just because of this problem she straight away ask for break up? I tell you the truth, 5 years in your relationship, probably for about 4 years you were never 'there' for her because you know why? She is holding up against you for so long and waiting up for the right moment to tell you how she is dissatisfied about you and your attitude. She might keep all the fuss and dissatisfactions about you but refuses to tell you because she doesn't want to hurt you, well you know....because we always thought LOVE conquers all which i like to call the romeo-juliet syndrome.

Wrong my friend. No matter what, most couple nowadays will 'kira' with each other partner's bad attitudes regardless whether it is a love relationship or not. The moment when the anger burst out, all the bad things about you will spill out too. She is dissatisfied about you a long time ago. So do yourself a favor, ask yourself what and why she is not happy about me? Its not just the current situation but also past situation. This, you figure out yourself then only you will understand the whole meaning and the reason of your break up.

Lying and cheating? Well, of course its sinful and unethical? But i wonder why you want to make a big fuss about it? If people lie to you, assume the person is rationale, what do you think the reason is? Could it be maybe you're thinking too much thats why she refuses to tell you? Could it be, she wants to let you know everything is ok? Could it be also, she know you would not 'be' on her side and not hear her problems always? Maybe you thought all these while you were always on her side, but what if she thought it wasn't? Love and communication is a two way street. Remember this always. You too will lie for a greater good or simply to avoid your other find out what is it you're hiding. You too will do the same.

5 years of relationship...you have to understand its already sour. So how can you make sour turn into sweet again? First of all change yourself to a better person that suit her needs. You may thought you already be good enough but you also could be 'dreaming'. Wake up and 'improve' your self in many aspects that could benefit you in the future. For example, learn how to treat woman better. If i were you, i quit blaming her and start to change my thoughts. In other words, if she wants it that way, let her be. She is a big girl, i believe she too knows how to handle her own life. The thing that you don't know, that she also now could be still hurting inside and sometimes missing you too. Trust me. Negative feedback from her doesn't mean that she is already 'over' it. There are times she will be trying hard to forget you but its not that simple especially for woman whee they tend to rethink back the good and memories about their past relationship. Its biological proven.

No point showing in this thread how 'kasihan' are you. You will never get sympathy. Some say move on, there are many fish in the sea, but unfortunately the aquarium in your head only got one fish isn't it? 5 years man. Its not easy to throw away just like that. Starting today, stop crying and learn how to 'love' yourself better and for her own good as well. If she wants to be back with you, she wants to be with the person better than your current state now and the person who can offer to 'give' more to her but at the same time knows how to love himself better too. She will never wants to be with the person who she fed up against last time.

About adding the guy into her lists. If i am you, maybe i will ask too. But not to the extent if she don't reply me truthfully, i have to keep bugging her and ask her to tell the truth. She don't want to tell, then fine. Give her a space to indulge. The more you bugged her though no matter how nice you did, still she will think, you're 'controlling' her. It's already proven that she feels insecure about your action. Girls hate the feeling of insecure compare to guys.

sorry to hear.

old one don't go, new one can't come.

DON'T LOSE TO HER!!!

did u think over your attitude against her?
did u respect her private?
come on dude, problems happened on your side, sneaking into her friendster account
sometimes u need to give her some rooms

erm.... yea you guys are right... thanks for all the advice guys..

I know im weak... but hey if a human dosent have sadness and hurt they wont be 'human'
You think that 5 yrs feelings can trow away just like that? and almost everyweek im there with her.

Pity... self pityness...? yea maybe.. maybe miss her too much..

This post has been edited by crisboy: May 19 2008, 01:05 AM

well... remember the happy times and discard the rest... reserve a place in ur heart for her and move on... you will hold a grudge... but dont let it haunt you for the rest of your life... its not worth it

move on... find a new one....

sometimes i really like to earse it totally ... but i cant.. someone hit me to forget all .... ai.. you all are correct... but finding a new one? haha cant la.... im not handsome, im not tall im not rich etc...

yr girl changed already. no point thinking and hurting yourself. let it go and STOP thinking of all this. LOOK for new activities or friends, you'll soon forget all this SHIT

ah ha ha hahaha!!!
(not trying to hurt you but it is just like i saw myself 3 years back)

i suggest you to laugh out loud, then live your life as usual. because when a girl wants to leave you, anything can be a solid reason: from raising your voice until not enough time to watch her pet, ANY REASON.

if she cannot tahan you, for god sake please let her go,
i also cannot tahan knowing a girl suffers when she is with a guy she don't like...

if you still insist to have her back... go ahead, but now i know for sure you can only have her body not her heart.

hahaha.... laughing at myself.... too

for wat?

use super glue to fix ur heart. it works wonder. LOL

if u cant find super glue, then just give it time. time is the best healer.

if u cant give time, go have sex with any random chick. it will help.

n u welcome.

..........im not that dirty guy la...

what, u dont have superglue, u dont want to give time, u dont want sex? man ur problem is complicated for me to solve.

man im ok .....thanks for the advice thou

just chill. n start dating. u probably very rusty now. go have some single life fun.

Flaming time..

TS ur english so damn good...
Lol.. added wat? fster fren? her fster her stuff la.. u mind for wat? so kepoh... u're too over.. wat i can say 2 wordfs for u dai sei....

haha i dun have much frens in KL

well...what are you waiting for? go find them fast fast lo...

i just cant walk to a gal or guy say that hi can i be your fren???? all run away

you're studying in kl rite? start from your classmates then.

lol.......haha 7 ppl in class only LOL.... but better then nothing i guess


This post has been edited by crisboy: May 19 2008, 03:34 AM

Do me a favour try to socialize more,find more friends.
You seem to SOLO in everything.
Dont depend on a girl too much my friend. You can change,learn to learn love yourself .

Haha dunno good or not that you're laughing now

Hope you'll find someone who will melt your heart into one piece again

thanks suiteng.. and all of you guys.. still heart broken but laugh only from the mouth... but in the heart the pain is still there...

What doesn't kill u makes u stronger. Plus, everyone here would love to be your friend isn't it? Cheers!

haha... all here to chat lo LOL... hehe

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Added on May 21, 2008, 2:43 amhope... will heal faster....soon

This post has been edited by crisboy: May 21 2008, 02:43 AM

hope u be good bro..seem she also make a decision to leave u,better take it as a reality lol...anyway,penang n kl oso hv a lot of hot chicks one..no no worry.. =)

Hahhaha....TS...looking at your fs profile..i laugh just like your avatar ...lol

ahaha.. funny.. glad you all like it..

If you are new in KL, then spend more time with your classmates. Sooner or later, they’ll start to introduce you to a lot of their own kaki in KL. Try to be more of an extrovert rather than an introvert person.

dude,you will never walk alone,
i was been in your shoe since last 2 year..

if you had read my description ,you will know how suffer was i
if you had read my old topic,you will know how heartance are i?
was being dump for a girl in the pass i love the most..

even i had write myself a blog to spare out my feeling about it..
nicwei@blogspot.com
no doubt,be determinated,change to a better person,impresion,character,carreer,
give yaself a target..soon she will realise and see it somehow..
remember girl are "jelous creature"


never,never be a loser..be a real man and stand up..!
just like i did~

soon after a year later,you will realise how stupid are you to write out this topic..

cheer..mate~

almost do sumthin stupid......dont cry TOO MUCH over a girl......cry a little bit its ok i think.....time will heals everthing.....
Just relax.....have somtime alone.......dont rush into things....take it slow...and it slowly fade.......move on SLOWLY......rush on things make u fall faster.....
Yeah we know all these "move on thing","she's b**** thing","she's not worth thing",.......u're now emotionally instable compare to us(now) because of love....that's why......maybe in 2-3 years from now....u MAYBE feel that its funny/embarass/ to think about what u been through now.....maybe on that time u're emotionally stable and realise its just sumthin that happen long time ago and think it as your experience in life...!! Cheers

If you really know how to move on, then don't blame your ex gf which you loved most before. If the love is broken, then let it be and accept it. Not by saying how stupid are you in writing this topic out before. I don't think so its stupid for you to write a topic like this. Ask yourself last time, whats your emotion like at that time? Aren't you very sad? Instead of putting blame on your past and how you should act before, try to learn your mistakes and understand not to fall again. Your ex had her own reason to broke the relationship up, so just respect her regardless of what. No point of playing the blaming game and pointing fingers who is wrong.

And one thing, girls are not the only jealous creature, man too.

Guys guys chill.. haha yea penisama is correct too.. lol Anyway its been very happy and good that in here alot of ppl support each other.. I feeling better already , well yeah time heals everything. After joining classes and work comes it keeps me busy and i tent to forget my pain. BUT sometimes.. yea sometimes, she does really suddenly pop up in my brain when im free like nothing to do that time.

Well i also think befor that if that girl dosent love you or didt appriciate wat the things that i do for her.. then nvm lo. I know i had try my best to get her back and even beg from her but it dosent work. So guess its time to move on lo. Find another that i wont repeat that mistake again and love her as much as i do. I really learn the mistake that i had done.

Trying to keep it cool la. Trying my best lo. Even write a blog and express my feelings out also. But overall thanks guys you all really do help me alot and you have my thanks for everyone here which helped me alot. Thank you.

This post has been edited by crisboy: May 26 2008, 06:45 PM

okie bro..cheerz up man..tiz world stil hv a lot og gurlz..no need 2 worry..haha..take care dude.. !!!

I gotta say you are pretty bold to tell all ur troubles like that then give out exact details of who u are then on top of that post a pic of yourself , All this shows that you got balls , And do u know what is the single most thing all them super hot chicka's like in men ??? Its Balls , Cas nobody has them these days ,Gabish !

Seriously, you actually bothered about asking your girlfriend about who she adds in Friendster or whatever networking crap they have out there?

add fren oso ned 2 tel bf???

aiyoyo...

everything will be fine as the time goes...GOD be WITH u ^^

well.... i had a similar experience with you... except that she is the one that logged into my friendster... and we were together for almost 6 years... mine ended almost a month ago

I tried salvaging it with all my heart... i guess when a gal says that she doesn't love you anymore... all you can do is give up... and look forward to a brighter future...

There is always a girl that is gonna be better than her... and u just have to improve yourself to match her as well... always be a better man... =)

Everything can come all over again, my friend
Find a other gal. and give urself a goal of life~! like go to oversea study, or vacation. or anywhere far from 'the sad place'
time to cool down, and think is over now.... or to just simply self improve.. in term of education or spirit of mentality.
Lift have up and down.. learn with it down, appreciate when at up.
break with gf, doesnt mean end of life, stand up and tell her, that she will regret of choice to left me. i will be back become better person..
i know talk is easy, do is hard. but hey, we are human, have soul and mind just need some time to rest...
GAMBATE~~!!

Oh god..a nother going-to-be suicide case just bcuz of love.
Learning to let go is part of a relationship u noe?

Girl only ma.. Can find anywhere anytime..

U already know still ask summore, "hai mai lo lei chin"?

my ex of 7 years left me last year ...
so i can say i totally understand ur pain ...

but wat is past is past ,,
she left u for a reason ,
and now u got every reason to be a better person than wat u are right now ...

concnetrate on ur carrier , ur family and ur social life...

be a better man ,,,

love is NOT THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IN LIFE

Instead of NOT THE MOST, you can write COULD BE

This post has been edited by peinsama: May 30 2008, 07:22 PM

You have ' Tun' nose.

P.S - Welcome to the club.

OMG!!!! All this post is vintage man!! I look back again at my post I laugh out loud at my stupidness!! I already have move forward far far away now.. Right now by looking back at what I have post... I feel like wanner slap the 6 years back of me. Bah.. How stupid I am wanner die that time. Farking stupid!!!

Update: Now I found a better one which cares for me so much.. When I'm down or she is down we help each other up. We are getting married this year.. If I have done something stupid that time I won't have this lovely wife anymore.

To the guys and gals out there, there is always someone waiting for you out there, it's only the matter of time he/she comes to you.

So my advice is don't give up on life!! Dare to take that step further in life, this is all part of learning process in life.

To the guys/gals that helped me in this forum, I thank you all for your support and help me up and be a better man.. Better man I mean new hair style and buffed up!!! Hehe.. Thank you all. Looking forward to my wedding. 😊😄

This post has been edited by crisboy: Jan 6 2015, 10:00 PM

WhoAa! Congrats!!!! Always appreciate successful, real life story!!

Best wishes to u and wifey!

p/s: bump this topic again after married, and bump again after getting a baby!

congratz ts, hope i can come back and bump my thread like u for better life in future

This post has been edited by gundamsp01: Jan 6 2015, 10:31 PM

Sure!! Will post my wedding bump!! Lol baby ar... Maybe after honeymoon first haha definitely will post my baby.. ☺��

Ur english....never changed....difficult to read man

so what happen to your ex ?

some things never change.

fuh! grats man! everybody's feeling great~

This post has been edited by GloryKnight: Jan 7 2015, 11:15 AM

hey, wat happen to the girl back then when u were 24? hows the story?

well done bro.
gud luck in ur life and after life together.
be the best for each other

very inspiring. just believe God will give you better person once a person hurt you. you have to thank God to save your life

Sorry for my bad England.

Still trying to improve my English as we speak every now and then.


Well about her.. hm.. i am not so sure actually, i have lost all contact with her. A few months after the breakup.

Maybe she also moved on and got someone? Maybe she has already learned something from our relationship and she treated her other half better?


PS: My Humble Advice To all my brothers and sisters out there with a broken heart.. please listen. Move on and the right guy/gal will come to you. You may think it wont happen now but sooner or later the right 1 will come.. unless you very picky la.. If like that wait until you die also no people come.. -.-

For the dudes/guys please grow some balls to meet girls(Yes i have no balls at all meeting up girls, but hey! i manage to get an average sweet girl who cares for me),

For the girls don't be too picky, if he is caring good and nice to you and YOU have some feel in him just go with the flow and you wont miss out the best guys out there, there is still lots of good guys out there, it's just you have to move out to the world and see it for yourself.

Just remember guys.. Important!!

God helps those who help themselves

This post has been edited by crisboy: Jan 7 2015, 02:30 PM

amazing! Almost 7 years of tered for 5pages only!!!

shreds of light in life!!! haha

That's very inspiring. Thank you for sharing it with us.

sometimes it doesnt has to be writting 10 pages of stories to create the milestone. i am glad you found your happiness lol.

Congrats for your happiness, & wedding.

congrats

Lucky you didn't turn yourself into a beat up loser.

Congrats man! keep you heads up in the next chapter of your life, ALWAYS! =D

dei wtf

move on.. you still young.

wahhhhhhh 2008 story... who korek out?

congrats TS.

cheer up bro.. just broke up a relationship that lasted for 8 years this coming march.. thought we'll make it but it didnt happen...guess i need some cheering up myself too..

FYI from TS above why he korek his old ppost

Give it sometime for yourself and take a break man eventually you'll get over it. It's hard but trust me you'll get through it somehow

Sorry bro's for getting you guys confuse. I have updated the first page what happen to me..

i feel u bro.. not long ago i pernah wait for a girl in kL from 8pm till 4am next day.. then i back to jb at 7 am with heartbroken just like tht. she's hiding sumthn dowant me to find out.. that fcuking day i had no dinner, supper or breakfast. the power of 'love'.