Hi , I'am curious about this . But I use to be 100% no lying to my girl friend . Know what , to me and her , we discuss everything , including girls & guy which attracted us in life , cool huh ? . It's was like kinda weird sometimes for being so , but still , i feel more released & no worried in what I've done which worried she might get angry with .

In another hand , what I know from others ( my close friend which is male ) said that , Guy should lie with a minimum sentence due to long last the relationship ( i feel like craps cut out my ear in my brain == ) and some said Guy should lie , don't tell her ( your girlfriend ) everything , she might feel unhappy if you tells her .

For girl , do you think you want to hear a happy tale with a fake story line ? or you would like to know the true story which hurts your heart by a Angel Lover Arrow ? ==

Wondering , why still I have full confidence with my soul mate as still others says wont be forever ? Am i doing the correct thing ? Please state you vote "YES" ( should lie to make your partner happy ) or "NO" ( should be generous ) , and of course your sex ( e.g : male or female ) before commenting . thx guys , hope comment below of forumers may help others out there too

Edited : Info added-in that I'm Male & our relationship has gone as far as 19 months now

This post has been edited by EX-tremE: Feb 18 2009, 03:31 PM

female

i wont tell everything unless he asks.
my background's too shoddy. might freak him out

i dun like to lie to my bf... i know also that he doesnt lie to me (he sucks at it haha). why is there a need to lie to the person ur spending the rest of ur life with?

Hurmx , how come ? isn't like it's weird if your friends suddenly pop out and talks back bout when you all were enjoying at somewhere with someone ? It's not fair for him to be standing there knowing nothing but still listen with patient ?

True words freak no ones out bahx , perhaps lie may slip him off ==

i lie for goods...

I like your words , you're so generous . btw , you said your boyfriend doesn't good in lying to you ? You're one of the lucky ones except for my girlfriend ( future wife ) . But still , there's ppl lying each other for life . Who knows ?

well, i can't be giving him a blow by blow detail of my life before him, can i?
even if he's not bored, my mouth also will be tired.

like i said, if he ask, i'll tell. i dun tink some things like how many guys u slept with, whom was the best in bed, wat tactic they did to turn u on is something he would want to know.
probably he would like to learn it himself.
if i go to a certain place where my x n i used to hang out, if i tell him that when we are there, wont it give him the impression that i am still not over the ex?

As your profile shows , you're a Male . Actually , you're the one I wanna chat with . How come you said so ? Is it that our girlfriend is too sensitive in every matter or what makes you lie to her ? Mind to share what " for goods " you mean as above ?

As ussual , if your girlfriend knows it , you might get thrown to the deep sea as her heart needle is there . Lolx , get what i mean ?

Girls Heart , Sea Deep Needle

"generous"?

perhaps coz we understand each other that well? i can somehow tell if he's making up a story. he stutters a whole bunch of nonsense, its obvious. thats why he never tries lol.

This make sense too huh ? aiyukx ! This is life . The idea of this topic blows my white hair out sia .

But as what i mean wasn't those sensitive sentence / words that your soul mate / boyfriend doesn't mean to know

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Added on April 29, 2008, 11:50 pmCongrats firstly , You're the lucky one who picked-up the stone with jade inside it ! Appreciate and share others comment here but still , i hope couples out there get to learn others experience here xD

This post has been edited by EX-tremE: Apr 29 2008, 11:50 PM

haha thanks... well.. me and my bf... i mean fiance (whatever lol)... we do share stories about our exs. minus the intimate details of course. but we do talk about where we've been, what we've done, what funny thing they said... past is past, its all cool la... we got no skeletons in the closet

Jyezze , I agree with you about past is a past thats why me and my gf share about our transparent background

lol our background is so transparent that he has met one of my exs, and i even say in front of him "he was my 1st bf, u know. long time ago when we were 16".... and he also chatted on the phone with his ex in front of me too.

he knows about my nerdy past, my gothic fashion interests, .. things that will usually put a guy off.

i also know about his daily clubbing past, his flings... things that i will disagree to.

but all these things are the past, why dwell in it now? focus on the present and the future~!

My background too cham..she will cry =-,-

Jyezze , I'm standing on the side of yours STILL . lolx . same thinking good to have the mine !!

i lied to my ex on how much i earn
he earns less than i do. i dont want him to feel sad or something la.
so i lied for good

This post has been edited by lil`pumpkinz: Apr 30 2008, 09:45 AM

a white lie is good.

lie for happyness... unless she/he has ur hasben or wife...

Lolx , your sex is ? should be female huh ? though it's not good to lie for thay if you plan to be with him for long-term or marriage issue >< don't be naughty since tht was a past ( your ex ) so with this 1 , be more generous ya !

what do you mean by white lie ? can't get you

huh ? what you mean by he/she does have a busband or wife ? seems complicated ouhx

Refering above , it's like , 50% of couples doesn't have a clean background and 50% does . How come !

u can't aspect male/female to be 100% truthful with their partner de...
both parties surely have something to hide from each other de...

Honesty is a nice thing to have in a relationship, but to think that you will NEVER LIE? That's naive. There are times you must lie for the greater good. White lies, aren't always bad, and it all depends on what you're lying about. Some lies are really minor.

So to answer the question, yes I would lie, but its not something I would want to do if I can help it.

love that start with a lie, will have to lie forever

I always believe when 2 persons together they should not lie to each other no matter past, current n future n should not keep anything from each other.. but after being together wif my bf for more than 4years n keep on hurt by his lies.. now i start to lie n keep secret too.. we need two hands to clap.. if one side is always lie n keeping thing from other.. i not think how long the another 1 can tahan it..

lie is a must in order for better relationship. especially when she ask you " do you love me?"..

human lies all the time...
sometimes we need to lie for the sake of goodness

love starts with lies and ends with separation

This post has been edited by lil`pumpkinz: Apr 30 2008, 04:18 PM

Means actually u r not love her at all.. only for lust maybe?

yes.....

no... becoz when u say fast fast "i lap u"... she think u not serious...
u reply after think awhile, she say u tipu...

its better lie with flowery words... at least she will silent awhile..



i dun go for lust... but maybe night time

Nah, I don't have to lie.

You like\love me, u stay.
You don't? Then just gtfo my face.

Hahax , this i respect your answer is true is true .. at least there is a try on it

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Added on April 30, 2008, 6:27 pmerx >< you started lying him after you known that he lied you for more then 4 years already ? Lolx ! It's not short as in listed for 4 years . Why didn't you try talking with him instead of lying back to him . But , if you 're in love , theres no way to say out something that you worried it would effect the relationship * understand-ed *

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Added on April 30, 2008, 6:29 pmI don't agree , it might be end with lie perhaps

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Added on April 30, 2008, 6:29 pmLolx , this means that you're not planning for the future of both of you sia

This post has been edited by EX-tremE: Apr 30 2008, 06:29 PM

yau meh

tis.. no comment..
black o white??
there r too many grey area in our life..
do o say something rite according situation..
lies can be white lies..
sometimes unavoidable..
treat ur partner sincerely, tats d key..

duh

i can't be with someone who can't accept me for who i am.

Tell all the truth to her la, if she can't accept the whole of you, then she's not the one.

Don't ask, don't tell.

yup exactly.. honesty can sometimes ruin a relationships too.

But don't you think that a relationship that can be ruin by honesty is just not good enough?

I disagree. To me, sometimes, ignorance is bliss. I told my fiance that if he somehow slept with another girl during the course of our relationship, either drugged or drunk or whatever, if he still wants to be with me, he would keep it from me. To think that my man has been with another woman while we're together..... is just simply too hurtful to me. And I would never be able to trust him again like I do now. Constant suspicion, always fearing that he's cheating on me if he were late, THAT would certainly ruin any relationship. All my previous relationships ended up with my ex dumping me for another girl whom they had an affair with, so I am extra sensitive to these kinda things.

So, no, no matter the circumstances, if he slept with someone else but regretted it and still want to be with me, LIE and NEVER let me find out!

I think 1 type of practise doesnt suit everyone. Just see what kinda of person he/she is then do it according to what your heart truly desire. If u think u need to lie so that u can still maintain then lie for it. if u think u need to be honest with ur partner then go ahead.
Still i do think that there are always things that your partner doesnt wan to know.

The way man say i love you is different than woman say i love you. Women wants to hear it everytime and man occasionally will seriously say i love you. Its their nature and there is no use asking them why like that. So you guys see the difference? Sometimes when a guy say i love you, seriously they want it to be meaningful at a special time maybe, so to all ladies make sure you are at their side at that moment. To them, saying it too many time will only make the three words less spicier. Thats why to me thats not lies. Its just that its not that serious but the meaning is still there, thats all. Y even bother to think whether if he is not serious in saying i love you means he lies which also indirectly say 'i dont love you'. Blasphemy.

When you find out he slept with another girl "accidentally", that time you're gonna go crazy. Plus if your man don't drug, don't drink too much and have self control, he won't sleep with other woman, then no lie will occur.

This post has been edited by Goliath764: May 2 2008, 09:25 PM

How sure you are that confident enough to know that your man will not tell you? I believe you yourself know your man, right? But if you would allow me to say this. Secrets can never last. Though as much you believe ignorance is bliss but you have to understand that its not easy your bf to hold the guilt if he did what you mention and yet still be together with you. I can tell you, its really gonna eat him alive. Sometimes its just not about you, its about him also. Take your time, thinking about his part. Maybe he will syiok sleep other woman, but you have to understand the complexity of human nature. To be with you while cheating behind your back is kinda hard so i believe a loving bf will definitely tell the truth even though he will risk losing you. Constant suspicion = insecurity and you are right, it will only lead towards break up. Though past builds what you are today but i believe you shouldnt use your past as precaution to the future. I understand if you're being 'risk-averse' but still i believe for what you and your bf have now, let it be you and your bf for now. How it will end, it is still going to be the reason why 'you' and 'your bf' end it at the moment. I don't think so using past as an excuse or a reminder to what happen in your past is going to help you judging how it is going to be. Still its a very rare case that secrets can be keep till forever. Maybe your bf could lie to you, but imagine if you hear other ppl talk about it. Wouldn't you be suspicious? You can't prevent ppl from gossip. Your heart will be uneasy.

It's actually quite true with your words . No secret will kept forever . No words will bring along with death . this is true . No matter what , don't ever hope that your relationship will end as you're still with him/her . due to your self confidence might lost . anyhow , risking to lost her had been decrease as what peinsama said , you would like to hear that your man with another woman outside from your friends or 3 ku 6 po ? Perhaps , this will bring your relationship end worst think about your past , count for your future my girl .

YES!!!!
everyone has their skeleton in their closet

Wait....let me find eminem song...'Cleaning up my closet'.....

Its good to have a small secret that only keep inside ur heart.
Sometimes its no good to let other people know everything out of u

everyone lies, whether in the relationship or not, cause human is always being in the state of judgmental, we lies so we can avoid not to being judge by the wrong way, it's actually depends on individual on how big their lies is, if you can keep as clean as possible with out lies then good for you, but not all people are having a great life, that's why lies is needed to gain back their confidences or perhaps ego.

for me i'll won't tell big lies, cause i prefer much to honesty, even if i have big secret i'll wait for the right time to tell, cheers

YES!! but i wouldn't call it lies... i would call it secrets

yes..secret itz better den lie lolz...

Maybe she/he is blind.......how can a person can't see your background........unless a long-sighted person with color blind........