yup exactly.. honesty can sometimes ruin a relationships too. 

I disagree. To me, sometimes, ignorance is bliss. I told my fiance that if he somehow slept with another girl during the course of our relationship, either drugged or drunk or whatever, if he still wants to be with me, he would keep it from me. To think that my man has been with another woman while we're together..... is just simply too hurtful to me. And I would never be able to trust him again like I do now. Constant suspicion, always fearing that he's cheating on me if he were late, THAT would certainly ruin any relationship. All my previous relationships ended up with my ex dumping me for another girl whom they had an affair with, so I am extra sensitive to these kinda things.

So, no, no matter the circumstances, if he slept with someone else but regretted it and still want to be with me, LIE and NEVER let me find out!