Right............. that's some complicated situation.

It was 4 years ago. Have you two started back then? If not, you really do not have any rights over what he did back then. I supposed you feel uncomfortable, but that isn't something you can change since it's already history. So long as he's not passing any disease to you, there's really nothing you can do about it. You can ask him about it but how are you going to explain that you look into his dairy? That's a breach of privacy...

Do you love your man enough to overlook his past?

If you love someone, you must be able to love his flaws too.

To me, is very normal. I always go to hooker before married. Please understand, for guys, sex and love is two different thing.

Everyone deserve a second chance. Unless he goes for hooker when you are in a relationship with him, if not I don't see any problem for a man to look for hooker when they are single.

Ofcoz ask him to go for body check for god sake

i have to agree with u. maybe deep down i'm just feeling insecure that he profession requires him to be surrounded by females and people who willingly to become a mistress/having extra marital affairs/going to hooker while on business trip, etc.

I dare say la, all the NORMAL guys has visited hooker in thier life, dun talk about the abnormal ones or those pretending to be saints. So if this is a problem for you to accept then you should be a lesbian ehehehe...

sorry dun mean to be rude but just want you to know the reality only.

This post has been edited by moorish: Apr 8 2008, 05:14 PM

I'm a normal guy, horny as usual but I will never go for hooker. I rather have one night stand than pay for sex. And I'm not pretend to be Saint, I'm just sked of AIDS.

This post has been edited by kockroach: Apr 8 2008, 05:18 PM

how old are you?

he used to go? that sick *******! ask him pm me the phone number but you should check for stds and stuff's :/

it depends on how much u love him~
if u find it hard to accept his deed, perhaps u nid to have a talk wif him~

i'm 32, old liao la

Be confidence of your own and him as well. Trust him like you trust your own. Is hard to start a relationship, since you both are fated to be together. Forgive him. Everyone had his/her own pass. The most important is your future with him.

My 2 cents, hope it helps

what's the difference if instead of a hooker, it's his ex-GF? What's the difference? He paid the hooker directly for sex as opposed to he pay the gf indirectly (dates, flower, meals, gifts) for sex?

What about, you? What if you told him you had sex with your ex-BF? What will he think?

Sex is part of human that need to be satisfied. Nothing wrong wanting it. Having said that, no...I never being with hooker.

OMG. If you plan to go on, make sure he goes for a full body check up. But for real sex and love is a different thing for guys? I'm kinda afraid now.*___*

Thanks Peppy! Glad that i'm still with him

Maybe the problem is, my social circle consists of innocent people and surely he's from a more complicated and real circle so it's a cultural conflict

i also got this type of male fren ... where they claim they wont go again (this is true when they have gf or sex partner) ...if they don have then paying oney for sex is better choice ,,,,

First get yourself tested. Then get him tested. If he USED to go then just let it go. It's in the past and most men would have gone to a hooker, at least one. Question is, is he addicted to going to hookers, will he do it in the future? I think you would be able to know the answer by now. But if it's a one off thing then learn to forget it.

Stress is just such a lame excuse to go paying for sex. Bleah.

Anyway, if thats the past i think probably you should learn how to let go.

Whether he is having sex with hookers or with gf's, he had sex with people before he met you. But of cos, do make sure he is clean and not infected with STD.

Unless he is still doing it still, then you have to let him go because you are putting yourself in the risk for STDs.

hmm... let's put it at another point of view. Treat it as if he has an ex gf whom he has sex with. I believe you probably had an ex bf and have sex with him b4.

And I think you are lucky that he told you about it and stop having sex with those "ex gf"

i think so called hookers are fine.. ask sufiah yusof... ask the NY mayor... ask FIA's boss...

as long he quit already it should be fine... no one is perfect..

going to a hooker a long time ago is okay. You need to get him tested for STDs now.