i feel that nowadays, almost everyone judges people by their appearance. so what if they are ugly/fat/imperfect? they never allow these people to show their inner beauty and they shun them just like that.

for instance, online meeting new people.
"do you have a picture?" , "can i see your picture?", "do you have a photo of yourself?"
the first thing some people ask is to see the picture of the person their chatting with.

their reason?
"i just wanna know who am i chatting with so i don't feel like i'm talking to a stranger."

ok fine. if this is the case. its kinda acceptable.

but once the picture is being shown, the person who requested for the picture will stop talking to the other person if he/she is not good looking.

i admit it happened to me a couple of times, (yes, i'm not PRETTY, BUT AT LEAST I'M NOT EVIL!) . and it happened to a few of my friends too.

i have a friend who liked a guy, and she kinda hinted to him that she has feelings for him. the guy got the message but he told his friend that he will never accept her as his girlfriend just because she is fat and ugly! and she is one of the sweetest girl i've ever met.

WTF?

why why why is this happening?? why are people so realistic?

does it mean that only people with good looks are able to make new friends?

how bout those that are NOT pretty/handsome/cute/PERFECT/WHATEVER?

OPINIONS PLEASE!

This post has been edited by mizzvee: Jan 19 2008, 12:01 AM

i believe in beauty in the eyes of beholder. but tht doesn't mean looks are not important at all. it would be tad too fake to say tht one's look doesn't play a part in them attracting others. it does play a part but to a certain extend(up to your own preference). but if they choose someone based solely on looks, then they are the shallow ones. you should be happy tht you got rid of those shallow people. don't be mad over those that think way too much or way too great bout themselves. it's definitely not worth it as they are still thinking in nutshells.

This post has been edited by andrienne: Jan 19 2008, 12:12 AM

if you don't like yourself.. how do you expect others to like you?

this how world works.. it's is called first impression. whether you sink or swim, it all depends on you to live through this world.

once a person realise, by the time one age 70, everyone will be the same, wrinkly old prune. beauty or perfectionist doesn't matter then, personality does. so if your "perfect" guy is a jerk, would you like to live with a jerk for the rest of your life>? once you seen through this, this thread will not matter much.

I think appearance matters when u ask a girl out on a date, cause i have been rejected 3 times with the reasons :

your skinny lar >.>
your an indian & i chinese cannot go out together

And regarding the "making new friends thingy", friends dont come frm the way u look or anything.

The best formula to make friends which works for me "Be yourself + Have fun", you will get friends in no time.

This post has been edited by GeNieXD: Jan 19 2008, 01:07 AM

Somehow, it does matter how a person look.
personally i wouldn't want to spend my entire life marrying a person to only see their face on the wedding night (as in the case of arabians).

Mainly, it is based on comfortable we are with another person. Though i am familiar with the term "don't judge the book by its cover", however, the cover does give a first impression of the personality of the person. Based on looks, we can assume or guess some characteristics of the person before we understand them better as in conversation.

It is unacceptably rude however to ignore or end a conversation just because the person is ugly or not the his/her preferences.

oh yes it does!!!!

appearance look is important to humans.. Especially the face.. What if i say, your face become like the "Phantom of the Opera", will you stil go out? if frens of cuz we dont mind being frens wit you, but saying about relationship, who dont wan to have a beautiful gurlfren or handsome boyfren.. Everybody want la of cuz..

But the guy which ur fren admire is over the limit by calling her fat and ugly.. although he duwan to be together wit her, but by calling her like this is really vry rude..

Anyway, u cant blame guys la.. They only hunt for slim ladies.. although the face dont look nice, but they are attracted to females body part.. I have see gals teasing some nerdy guy until scold him right infront of his face.. Super Duper Malu man!! i oso pity the guy.. if he was my fren, i will slap the gal for him..

Anyway, Is nobody fault.. Like they say, Love is Blind..

i think in a relationship, looks doesn't matter (can always have makeover ma), but there has to be a Physical Attraction between the boy and girl.

need to have confidence too. sarah jessica parker not pretty also (imho), but she can carry off fashion very well.

Ahhh internet. I think the one who didnt use internet dun have this problem.

yes looks come 1st, its reality, if u saw lengzai sure u atleast wan to know some info about them. unless u wan make friend with person hu dun comb hair or smelly shit wif cloth not iron b4

apparently, appearance more or less does affect how a person reacts to you

first impression is important...... if da guy so yongsui i oso no mood talk to him liao

actually i dun find the guy cruel at all he is just being honest and not sugarcoatign becuz if he sugarcoat he knows that she is going to eat that too

They are not looking for friends but gf, hence why they rejected you after seeing your picture. If you are looking for bf, pm me ya?

TS, im just curious, in your fren's case, was the dude she happened to like handsome or 'ugly and fat ' as well?

If the answer is the former, I guess well thats your answer..appearance matters too..

If its the latter (which would be rather weird i suppose), then err i have no comment..that guy muka tebal

I alwiz believe that although we generally like nicer looking ppl, but if we find a person who is on par with ur looks ie if u think u are 3/10, the chances of u getting a bf/gf is higher if that person's looks is also 3/10...of course its just a theory and there are loads of cases where the partner is 10/10 n the other half 1/10 but i still think more often than not that looking for a partner which is on the same level is generally easier.. err i hope u guys get wat i meant..

This post has been edited by GrIM: Jan 19 2008, 06:58 AM

PPL WHO JUDGE OTHERS ARE IMPERFECT THEMSELVES.

This post has been edited by lil`pumpkinz: Jan 19 2008, 07:52 AM

ugly and fat girls should just settle with another fat and yongsui guy as their lifetime partner and no need to think so much about miracle of getting prince charming like in the moves or dramas these days. They can only pray hard that their son/daughter will be goodlooking and not fat in order to deserve a better looking partners.

Also, the guy who didnt talk to her anymore after seeing the picture are just being honest. An indirect avoid is better than saying it out loud and make your girl friend lose face right? Never heard of the saying 'ol toad trying to eat the swan meat?'

Ok, this is my take
Nowadays ppl are exposed to a lot of variety of ppl thru internet and TV...so the perception on potential mate's appearance is different from last 20 years or so...
Malaysians now prefer japanese looking girls....or korean looking guys....just as an example...

Unlike last 50 years...... no such exposure, so no special demands...

It's okay to have our own preferences/requirements for our future mates. But, I believe in this saying, you choose people, people choose you.

face the world gal. This the reality =) I'm fat last time + dam yong sui also =.=" what to do keep fit lo. Put more money into yr beauty Sorry to say this but this is the reality of world and the fact. U have to face it or let it be.

i wonder how pretty is the imaginary gf that youre always talking about...the one that the ah beng trying to flirt with

as for TS, yes, appearance does matter...at least he/she dresses neatly and not all messy and stuff....i think it'll be more pleasant....but nothing beats the inner beauty within....i must say that it is rude when a person who requested for the picture will stop talking to the other person if he/she is not good looking...thats just so mean IMO...