wow. this reli is the most cruel act towards ur partner. you able to do it, not necessary he's able to do it.
anyhow, for me, i used to shop alot. from not a shopper, i shop alot. buy watever i like. never cross in my mind for 2nd if i felt like wana buy it. perhaps this is another way to show i dun care how ppl treat me.

i oso jus broken off.. wat can i do.... feel sad... messy life i got

Theres nothing anyone can teach any broken hearted person to do. Its up to that person what he/she decide to do or feel comfortable doing.

Others will tell you, go out more, go shopping, make new friends, bury yourself in work, party more, cry all you want, shout or scream, bang the wall, go drinking, find another bf, spend more time with your family, etc etc or just plain forget about him.

Which of these advice that we don't really know without any one telling us what to do?

I tried advicing people, go out more and make new friends, they will say, i really don't wanna go anywhere or see anyone (cry cry cry)

Then the busy yourself with work, the reply, i cant concentrate anymore, its just so tough (cry cry cry)

Spend more time with your family, the reply, i really don't want them to see me so sad and make them worry even more (cry cry cry)

etc.

Seriously, i am not trying to make myself look like a cold blooded animal here.

Just do what you think you are most comfortable doing now, eventually you'll feel better. Theres no ways or remedy that others could ever provide to any broken hearted to heal immediately. Its you yourself to decide whether when you wanna heal or will you ever heal or what actually would make you feel better.

in the period of sadness try to mad as possible u can...
once u found that the madness u hv done enough..
u will start to thinking that
it's impossible for u stay at sadnedd forever...
well... this world is cruel, and life still hv to going on...
no matter how hurt before
v hv to stronger to facing new challanges
and in future when the time u flips back to it
u will found that broken heart is more to memory
just be comfortable to it...
slow slow to make it feel better
nobody is forcing u and blame u
right...
ur life is belong to urs.
wat v do just giving an nicer advise
neither u wanted ur life become worst or better
than all is depend in ur hand

Make yourself really busy.
Or get to know more people.
Eventually, you will know that the world
is still there for you.

Another interesting topic to ask is, how to really gain your partner's trust? in chinese they called it 安全感 ("secure" feeling)?

well, count me in for another ride of loneliness

hmm..go find replacement ASAP..ta's the only way to temporary ease ur pain..

look for other ONS partner ?....

gain secure feeling?
meet her/him once in a month.

meet her/him once in a month? we can meet everyday every hour it wont be a problem too...

just that how to make your partner to feel you more, want you more?

girls, dont mind to speak up? guys welcome too!

Gong xi fa chai ya~

i like this topic, my situation is, i have a crush on this girl
but she's waiting for the guy that broke up with her..
at her msn, her tittle is [ 287days and still right here waiting for you]
she's been counting down since.. 300++ days.. i have no idea how long, but she seem very unhappy always.. everytime i walk pass her, i'll just tell her to smile and cheer up...
any suggestions?

Talk to her, ask what is she thinking...
understand her, this is my thought..

talking around wit friends.... coz friends will give full support to u, and wat the most important is .. v ownself have to accept and keep moving on ... and v have to know that all things had overed and past... time will show evthing... the best healing medicine for heartfelt.....

For guys , i just recommand to pick up drumming , n go n smash those extra energies on the drums , hope it helps for someone.

OK, if people suggest to find replacement to forget the broken r/ship, isn't that unfair to the new someone to be your partner just because you want to overcome your past r/ship?

To be honest, I am thinking about this because I myself have practically broken my first r/ship and am still overcoming.. sometimes I hope someone new will turn up so I can be happy again, though by this stage I don't know if I am able to love anyone else anymore.

It's ironic, I know. Sigh.