>ask my mum where to she want to eat dinner when she arrive at sentral, she say no need
>she say got bread from her relative and she also eat lot of dinner and lunch from her relative few day ago
>tell me to dinner with father, which i reply okay
>both of us eat mcdonald due to close to our place and save time no need go restaurant hawker wait long long
>then after eat, drive to fetch her from sentral
>then come back home and direct blame me where is the dinner for her

i was like wtf , now the whole house black face each other

got anyone mum like this ? sometime i wonder whether my mum is really fit to be a mother or not

Don't worry, got worse ones than urs plentiful. Outright gila....

It could be a sign of alzheimer

Women's logic mah, mana ada logic?

Owaiii

Ur wife is training u how to have a wife
Basically u can do whatever right, and still be scolded like u did wrong.

U should thank her.

this one quite ok. u wanna know my mum logic?

I invited my mum for dinner. She say ok. Told her my car only fit 5 people, my fam sudah 4 people including me. cannot fit her and my stepfather. So i told her i will send my driver to pick her up, send her to the makan place, then send her back. She say ok. Night went well, dinner as usual. sudah send home, she rant to my sisters that i send stranger to pick her up. My sister belip her and now all hitam face.

Another one :
For my son birthday, we rented a villa for 2 nights. I flew her from sarawak, then asked my sister to pick her up and terus go villa. everything ok, until we went back. Later she complaint to my sisters my wife jahat, i jahat, we dont want to layan her. Just because my wife asked her to rest while she is cooking. My wife already brought 2 friends to help her to cook. All my mum have to do is sit and play with grandchildren, but she so busy with her phone.

A lot more incident. Also, she favored my son than my daughter. She always complaint to my sisters i did not give her money monthly. Yes true, I did not give her monthly, but i give her huge amount of money during christmas, usually five figure. Much more than my sisters gave her monthly.

She also complaint I am a failure, because i am a contractor while my sister is engineer and another one is a specialist doctor.

She also complaint I have too much tattoo.

She also complaint I am heathen for not donating to her church.

All of these, she never complaint to me but to my sisters. I still meet my mum for the sake of meeting her, maybe once in two months. But it had been years since i met my sisters, because they believe her.

We cant choose our parents, but we can choose to distant ourselves from there.

So in your case, your mum is way better than mine.

Oh also, she failed to mentioned that in her 30s, she gila clubbing and drinking like crazy, I am the one carry her to toilet and hold her hair while she vomitted

Wtf i just read, okay make sense my mum is okay....

now you know where her money goes to

She's using 1% of her hidden narcissist power.

Damn

At least she clubbing but still come home alone vomit not bring strange men home...

Btw thanks for sharing....

Anyway, contractor make more money than specialist doctor what
Ur sister is what specialist? Bet she don't even make 20k to qualify to be here ...

how old your mum had you that you are strong enough to carry her in her 30s?

it's not mum or wife problem.
it's woman problem.
live with it lul ~

She always like that or only happened recently? Early signs of dementia maybe?

guy mau makan apa
girl apa apa saja
gy makan mana
gl makan mana mana saja
gy makan bila
gl makan bila bila saja

malam go makan mcd

girl marah napa tgh hari tk makan kat expensive seafood and wagyu kobe

guy 😵🤯

this is not a yoh mum problem, this a global wimmin problem, you cant fix it, you just have to cope better

why no buy 11 seater and dump ur mom char siew jai

women no logic.

My mom get real mad if buy big toy figure and hifi. Then complain why no gomen job.
But gamen job how to have these hobbies at this backwater area my house at unless I’m bro with sanusi…
And every month I’m supposed to give 4k. I give 3k still get scold all the time. How many of the kids in her immediate family that didn’t go overseas give this amount…

Whatever. Just enjoy the moment while parents still around.

womans expecting mens can read their mind.

ya luckily she did not bring guy home. we live at such conservative neighbourhood. And the speed of people gossiping at church is wild.

Donno what specialist, dont care to ask. I know she is a doctor, my mum say she sambung master becum specialist. I dont care to ask also.

Carry by shoulder lah. u never carry drunk people?

char siew sedap. apa salahan char siew.

Any attempt to understand women using logic will be futile.

dunno ask the chinese philosopher why such word

ok replace tor sui ka

tanggang better.

Anyway is it really chinese thing or only in malaysia? singapore or china people will say the same, charsiew kids?

can sometime happen, as i say before, misandry and narcissistic, same with sister

It's all your fault! Most women are like that mah.

You don't know meh?

Mother, wife etc...they say one thing...then they wish for another.

It's like they are thinking...you don't know meh?

Still need to ask?

This post has been edited by tekkaus: Nov 30 2025, 09:36 PM

true but i cant wait for them to migrate, especially my mother and sister if possible. can create problem out from thin air

i noob in such women mind game, maybe i am fault. But mark my word, i will never want to stick around with such women.

TS maybe your mom has multiple personalities syndrome...

got go bring her for checkup?

She tersinggung you no think of her. If you did tapao she will scold you already say no need. Woman are like that need you to put her needs above your own without her directly tell you. 8 to 88 pun same pattern one.

Consider lucky if its not particularly old age sickness. They can walk, and take care themselves is a blessing.

For the rest, just rant here... Release stress mah.

is not mom logic
is wimminz logic
ingrained in their brain and DNA for XX chromosoms carriers

Dafaq… how old is your mom now? During those days got clubbing meh

One day u might need her help like connection... This is not kepohchi

>logic 404 lettew topkek
Nearlee

Char siew

Majority of parents, yes. You will be grateful for them but some parents really cannot differentiate with devil.
Some even worst like let their bf or husband rape their child.

my mum is 62 now. it was in 2003-2004 i think.

She is tired and hungry, hence emo

half right as tired but as for now she didnt eat anything, drink water only. So she is right she is not that hungry....

This will be nearly...impossible...

just buy her food and let it go bro. not worth the headache, trust me. U buy saja food, she eat or dont eat, its her problem now.

I dealt with my mum shenanigan for so long I dont give shit anymore.

Maybe this, will get worst as aging continues, more weird actions outside logic will emerge, only syukur normal everyday function no need oversee.

Some brain benefit foods only will slow down the deterioration rate.

Weirdly what TS said reminded me of my own mom, and yes she later on had Alzheimer. TS please love your mom when you still can

edit: eh Salah quote... Trying quote comment about Alzheimer

This post has been edited by ornehx: Nov 30 2025, 11:11 PM

u bodo, i can understand that ur still young, cant understand wiminz, but ur dad? lol, padan muka.

glad my mom simple mind no drama

princess disease works on all age group lol

This. But buy also might still be a problem.

Bought coffee for mum but I warn her "we are 5mins walk from zoo we going. High chance cannot bring in so need finish before masuk". She say ok.
Reached entrance guard ask to buang, she bitch about it for next 10mins. I just walked fast fast ahead go see cute animal instead of listening to that shit.

Another time ask if ok to walk 10mins to restaurant parking paid here, if not ok we drive over so no need walk. She say ok. After 2mins walking keep bitching about so far.
This was overseas and I wanted to walk to enjoy the weather and surroundings on a fine day.

Those with toxic family members will understand no matter what you do, they will find shit to give you headache about. Just need to grow thick skin and ignore or sendiri will go gila.

Give her allowance, stable of assurance i foot the house bill, provide groceries and say not enough and want go overseas every year like those t20 family …

Sometime her greed is bottomless, want love her genuine also cant , not to mention my father is kampung mentality

Dad is kampung mentality one, not easy to handle, i am there to keep him in check and make sure he dont go out of control .

Princess disease easy, deal before , need sayang and pamper , lucky i understand, i deal in diploma , just give solution to problem and it will clinging on you for a long while, not girl boss attitude type

But my mum whole new level one.

Okay i take your advice

I am about to walk your path, my skin super thick now.

Sometimes need to make hard choices for self preservation. If you go gila you might bring your other relationships down the longkang with you.

I found myself getting easily triggered at 1 point (mum fighting cancer years ago), at work and towards gf. Seriously not worth it. Lucky gf pointed out and helped me grow thicker skin.

u r adopted

No wonder nowadays got so many ghey ppl

call foodpanda lo

next time go out to eat, take away something for those at home.... dun eat, put in fridge for next day....

classic case of want face....
cannot say leg pain walk so far or sweaty, or become wasteful as make you pay for parking near near

next time you decide for them, drop everyone off at the front, then you go park whatever location you like, free or paid.
after eat, pay bill and say you drive the car around, and call them to come out when you reach.

like got relative, old cannot walk but dunwan to use tongkat, want to wobble wobble, if fall susah, but still dont want to use tongakt, dunno what face they want to show

yea quite normal when reach certain ages..summore with outsiders puji melambong

according my experience,

when ask, answer sure is don't want

if really got heart, don't ask, terus do it (buy or whatever)

for example, if during dinner time, if ask, want to go eat? answer sure is no. then lepas tu will marah, already dinner time d, tak tau sure is want eat eh meh? why want to ask?

yea. thats how they're wired.

my personal experience. there are 2 routes to reach destination.

When I use route A, wifey sometimes ask why dunt use route B, jam a bit only
When I use route B and jam a bit, wifey asked why I use route A... looks less jam.

Walhal both also jam in different part and time taken are similar ( -/+ few minutes)


This post has been edited by alanyuppie: Yesterday, 10:22 AM

mum is like that lo..

challenge for everyone lucky enuf to take care of her during her golden age

cukur ayam time ady passed..

Bahahaha, indeed you have experience.

seems all mum like that one no matter the race.

Your mum could be going into the initial stage of menopause already...

She born a charsiew, at least boi

toxic parents are real, and it takes time to notice. Some people just either dont notice it or just ignore it.

Read my comment, donno which post#. same shit.

We went to Japan, she wanna follow. Told her there will be a lot of walking. She say ok. We flew first class, inside plane already start kampung people attitude demanding this and that. Sampai japan, belum keluar aiport already complaint. End up the whole trip wasted. everyday complaint.

Even worst, come back malaysia, bitching about it to my sisters. My mum is a mum from hell.

She once told me I will not get anything when she die. Told her my asset is worth more than her. I immediately called my lawyer and asked my lawyer to draft surat akuan sumpah that i will not take anything from her when she die. Got the letter, asked her to sign. She signed, then later bitch about it to my sisters.

Forgot to ask, if u have such mother…. How your gf accept it and if u dont mind me asking, are u married ? If married how u maintain the entire relationship, i think i can learn 1 or 2 from you

no matter how crazy she is, you will miss her when she is gone.

Dont ask how unker know.....

I've noticed a lot of these old couple who behave like this not ngam with each other one, it's like resentment etc.

I can feel you bro.... and i think it is very common. It happened to my mom as well, even more obvious after my father's passing.


But look at generally fact- .... many people have some mental issue ( i am not say crazy that type). Anxiety, depression, schizo, OCD, ADHD there are many type- then demintia, alzemer in older stage All affect many healthy adults male and female.
It is just that - in elderly female it is more obvious. one of the key reason is that they are housewife, they dont work and their world is small.
their circle is other housewife in the neightbourhood, or their relative of which are like to gossip

These are few common traits.....
> never admit that they are wrong
> always find something to blame ( eg when drop a cup of water, will say the cup is slippery and water is too hot)
> dont appreciate what you give then... like bring to a nice restaurant, got 5-6 dishes is nice, but they want to compare just one dish and say other restaurant is nicer
> or say far, expensive etc... never want to give credit.
> like to say bad things, and gossip about others.
If some one got a new house- will say loan only, owe to bank a lot need to installment many year.
if people buy new car- then say must be doing illegal business
if people go travel, then say... haiya- so cold go there for what... or japan there got radiation.
> and more ever.... Schadenfreude i “pleasure derived from another person’s misfortune.”


if this happen to you mother... then just act chill. Dont get too emotionally affected especially when you see the above explaination. Let her be, she will life in her own world. It is very hard to explain, and justify with proper logic and expect it to change.
just do our part, thing what is needed will be fine. at time- we cant and wont do more- coz wont be appreciated.

Also to add.... this type of people, will always wanna find a villan.
- this week is this neighbour, next week is that relative, then it is that shopkeeper.
- they always see thing in their own perspective. they are always right, and others condition, situation they dont care. but in short, they need a villian to justify or make her feel better.

u may also see, this week she is good with these few people, then next week, that complain that people go issue, but be good with other group of people. and same things happen, rinse and repeat.
i can only ask and let her say. dont even bother to explain or understand in depth. all got their own perspective.


This post has been edited by Clueless07: Yesterday, 11:46 AM

wah, this one so drastic....
as i said... dont need to over react. No matter what you do, how u try- you will never able to please her.

because such people- just wanna find a torn in egg.

true. everyone has their nuances and weird quirks. When thinking back old memories and think of why they/we behaved the way they did .... it also make us more human.

This post has been edited by alanyuppie: Yesterday, 11:48 AM

100% true and lived thru every single point in this post .

Women said don't want = want. Trust me

Yep. Learn it the hard way. The more i lawan, it will be another bullet for her to give to my sisters to shot to me.

So now i just dont care. She want something, she have to ask for it. If i can give, i give. If kenot, then ask from someone else.

Heheh..first time?

ts mum is green?

How is your sister responding? they listen and trust all her words?

at anyway- yeah- do what you could, and do what you feel right.


u need to know what even if you give up everything, do every thing- she might appreiate at time., but at other time will complain about this you did not do, that you din do right.
and if she marked you already... she will continue to spread negative things to the friends and relative. you are the villian and easy target.

the thing is- you dont even know what she says ( or twist) or how her friends interprete, or judge. and you will never have a chance to explain, defend.

then we realize- there is not point to please the world, to win others heart. Like wise you and me should not judge other coz everyone walking with their own pair of shoe.

just do what you can, do what you feel right.

Yes they do. 100%. I am always the black sheep since last time. My exam grade not as good as theirs, I am not active as them, I dont have any scholarship, just PTPTN. So whatever shit my mum say about me, it aligned with their expectation of me.

At this point I just dont care. I even put distance between my family (wife and kids) with them. No point being close to people that are toxic, even own family.

No it wont, she leave a lasting not just bad impression but i can whole heartedly say other mother are way better than her…


Even at taiwan, i dont miss her that much, only show photo to her that i am safe in taiwan.

You will cry urself silly looking at this comment when the day come.

she prepping you for her future daughter-in-law

but most of the time guys with toxic mothers prefer to stay single. go figure.

This post has been edited by Penamer: Yesterday, 01:36 PM

move away from toxic family

live your life to the fullest. remember to be fair to your own family as well in the future

festival time, wire in some money for them
if can afford it send more la....
dont care what your other family says or do, do whatever you feel right

my mom something like this as well but she doesnt scold people. she just merajuk only.
women tend to get weirder as they grow older. sometimes they will get upset about the weirdest things. they tell you the dont want any food so you dont buy food then they get upset coz you didnt get food for them because "by right, a good son should understand that you need to get her food anyway just in case she gets hungry because you love her".

Oh, that time you didn’t accidentally let her fall asleep in sink ?

Suddenly my mum's logic sounds absolutely fine

She's really strict though, like when drying certain thicker clothes must use longer hangers and die die all must double clip...if sidai outside from morning till noon also dry lor...

I was in form 2 i think. That time still love my mum with all my heart. but if she come home drunk now, i will just leave her outside.

If Puan Sri ajak go hiking in our jungle can hike 3-4 hours no problemo. I jio walk to restaurant on nice spring day overseas for 10mins also bising like no tomorrow.

Really

The tongkat part also can relate exactly the same

Can't accept deswai she also try to stay way and help me grow thicker skin. Keeping a distance but not cut off since attitude wise no issue. Siblings still in the fighting stage, I gave up long ago. Not worth to keep arguing and stress ownself, just save my breath.