i have been in a long thought do beauty privilege exist in relationship as in the usual handsome ,pretty individual always gets the attentions, preety ones gets the guy protecting like a bodyguard. girl following them home etc?

While those average ones we need to work hard ,get her/him attention etc. NOT pointing to fairness in the world ,i am just curious the cycle of it ?


Like if we speak of that Kelantan doctor affair with just a few visit the ladies would be wetting for him and even the wife forgave him which i find it interesting.


where else some average people just gave up because they didn't expect what they want and go single forever because why not ?

Feeling perplexed on the hopes too.

Yes beauty does give you the advantage. Actually many advantages. But beauty isn't all. And best of all, beauty doesn't last. If you are only pretty but you cannot connect with another person deeply, the relationship isn't going to last.

Do we want a shallow relationship? Or do we want a relationship built of true love? If you want to be loved, first you must be a loving person. Beauty has nothing to do with it.

so as how monetary is I suppose but how do we even we love when we are even denied to love?

i have seen plenty of pretty woman + ugly guy couple before in shopping malls. Really plenty.

Take a look at some of pretty HK actresses marrying old ugly tycoons. Those pretty actresses are not even interested in those handsome HK actors.

But on the other hand, if you are woman and your looks are below average, then that's really another story.

Of course it exist. Life is much easier for the beautiful and handsome. Its like being born to wealthy parents.

However, too beautiful/handsome have disadvantages too. Sometime prople dont look further beyond your looks to.your achievements and capabilties.

Like money situation also, looks and physique can be improved.

TS, you really think it is beauty that makes the difference?

Let me give you some hypothetical scenarios:

Beauty, but decision-making at the worst level — do you think this is desirable?

Average, but decision-making at the highest level — do you think this is desirable?

Now let me give you a real-world analogy.

A new development: the developer builds first-class infrastructure and facilities (beauty). But after handing over the keys to the buyers, what happens if the buyers carry a third-world mentality? Every day they fight, argue, and refuse accountability. They don’t want to pay maintenance fees, the common facilities are neglected, and everyone says, “not my property.” Yet the repair funds come from the JMB — which is also the buyers’ money. With this lack of awareness(brain), what do you think will happen to those first-class facilities after 5 or 10 years? Isn’t the trend predictable?

You may ask: why give this example to reflect on human beauty?
Then let me arrange the comparison in parallel for you.

If beauty — the physique granted by Heaven — is paired with a third-world mentality, where the person decides daily not to eat healthily and not to work out, what will happen to this body in 5 or 10 years? Will this beauty last? Isn’t the trend predictable?

So tell me: is it the beauty of the final product that is truly attractive, or the beauty of decision-making that creates and sustains the kind of beauty that endures?

Is privilege found in beauty, or in the brain?

Beauty without brain = not a privilege, only a passing gift.
Beauty with brain = Heaven’s blessing.
Ugly without brain = Hell’s curse.
Ugly with brain = Earth’s blessing.

If you think beauty is very important, you will always find evidence to justify your original point of view is accurate as possible.

If you think the whole word is not friendly to you based on your past experiences or family background, you will unconsciously notice the bad traits of people or things you encounter or dealing with and hence it reinforces further that your original belief is correct

That's why your original seed inside your mind, is the core of everything.

pretty girls are more open to being manipulated by the market demands. For example, among pretty girls if there's competition of who makes the best plastic surgery, some girls will unendingly spend money on those superficial and artificial enhancement just to make themselves presentable

But their core confidence, is always easily swayed
because they are being told that people choosing them not they choose their own identity.

Yes thats a fact, being pretty and handsome give u extra perks and headstart in life especially pretty girls.

Yes, pretty privilege exists. So do other privileges like higher emotional stability, intelligence, etc.

If you pinpoint one aspect that you think you don't have and make that the reason for your own failures; its just an excuse.

Tell you a secret. Looks at not that important to women. How you carry yourself has way more weight with women. The good looks only helps in 2 things

1) Gets you through the door
2) Easier to build self confidence.

These 2 points you can make up for in many different ways.

I have a pretty female friend who also works part time as model. She's introverted but well spoken and down to earth. Not sure if this is an IT field thing-- I've seen several cases of pretty ladies who know their asset and utilize it: they "recruit an army of simps", in Chinese one would say Guanyin recruiting soldiers. She's not one of them.

Ironically for her, it's totally the opposite of (1). She's almost 30 and still single. It's as if guys automatically retreat because they think they don't deserve her. Is that (1) and (2) only meant for guys? Lol.

Well, she did have several who expressed interest, but apparently it's not the way she could accept: she's slow to warm up, so the sudden confessions are always "pushed back" -- not a flat out rejection from her side, but the men would always take it as a rejection.

Thanks to her, I get to see another perspective of "it's lonely at the top" lmao. Jokes aside, yeah apparently being pretty isn't always nice -- one boss likes her very much and he's not good at hiding it at all, I know she's a capable employee but another who doesn't know her may dismiss her capability assuming she's got it easy because she's pretty and boss likes her.

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Hey, even right here we have TS assuming all them handsome men and pretty women have it easy. I'll agree: yes it's easier (pretty privilege), but it's never a zero effort. As with luck -- you can work very hard and get less rewards than another luckier person. That so called luck can be simply good timing, or in this case, good looks. Whatever it is, luck is secondary; it's a catalyst to the primary: your effort.

Yes, since I was coming from a guy perspective


If she's introverted and not hanging in social circles outside of work, then its likely she's pulling people around her. Which if based on the general iT crowd, they don't tend to be confident with women themselves. So push back / tests are easily seen as rejections.

The way I see it, pretty women get a lot of attention. She has to be wary about men who are not serious, so taking it slow is the right move. Even if she's not entirely conscious of it, she will be "testing" the men that approach her. If the men around her are not confident and masculine, they will most likely fail.

Privileges comes with cons as well, but the benefits often do outweigh them.

at least be thankful ur average
look around u, there are tonnes of people who are way below average
example those are are obese not by choice, or bald at the age of 20+, or face full of pimples and scars

And if you look around, the bar for being an average looking guy is pretty low. With some.effort, one can be above average This is more so the older one gets.

This post has been edited by Cubalagi: Sep 28 2025, 12:44 PM

the more females get approached by average-to-low quality guys, the more they will feel guarded as it can become part of their subconscious hence "auto" rejection

Its like you get approached by a random promoter at mall, you knew what's coming out from their mouth within split seconds. Therefore it's important for people to be aware and understand from other person perspective or intern experience

It's not a sudden confession if the girl already likes the guy. The matter is, most guys come from a place of neediness and desperate trying to "close" a relationship ASAP. Whether it's a kiss/sex/or a serious relationship label. And the girl immediately gets triggered and couldn't help with the response

we know personally, handsome guys do not usually being good around females. There are certain aspect of personality that requires to be trained and built inside subconscious

it could become a self entitlement when he or she ignore the fact that they still have to "do the work" even though they're already born with the privilege

idk they always the leverage over everything