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silverhawk
post Sep 25 2025, 11:45 PM

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QUOTE(yungkit14 @ Sep 24 2025, 08:41 PM)
i have been in a long thought do beauty privilege exist in relationship as in the usual handsome ,pretty individual always gets the attentions, preety ones gets the guy protecting like a bodyguard. girl following them home etc?

While those average ones we need to work hard ,get her/him attention etc. NOT pointing to fairness in the world ,i am just curious the cycle of it ?
Like if we speak of that Kelantan doctor affair with just a few visit the ladies would be wetting for him and even the wife forgave him which i find it interesting.
where else some average people just gave up because they didn't expect what they want and go single forever because why not ?

Feeling perplexed on the hopes too.
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Yes, pretty privilege exists. So do other privileges like higher emotional stability, intelligence, etc.

If you pinpoint one aspect that you think you don't have and make that the reason for your own failures; its just an excuse.

Tell you a secret. Looks at not that important to women. How you carry yourself has way more weight with women. The good looks only helps in 2 things

1) Gets you through the door
2) Easier to build self confidence.

These 2 points you can make up for in many different ways.
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post Sep 26 2025, 02:34 AM

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QUOTE(Takudan @ Sep 26 2025, 01:58 AM)
I have a pretty female friend who also works part time as model. She's introverted but well spoken and down to earth. Not sure if this is an IT field thing-- I've seen several cases of pretty ladies who know their asset and utilize it: they "recruit an army of simps", in Chinese one would say Guanyin recruiting soldiers. She's not one of them.

Ironically for her, it's totally the opposite of (1). She's almost 30 and still single. It's as if guys automatically retreat because they think they don't deserve her. Is that (1) and (2) only meant for guys? Lol.

Yes, since I was coming from a guy perspective laugh.gif

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Well, she did have several who expressed interest, but apparently it's not the way she could accept: she's slow to warm up, so the sudden confessions are always "pushed back" -- not a flat out rejection from her side, but the men would always take it as a rejection.

If she's introverted and not hanging in social circles outside of work, then its likely she's pulling people around her. Which if based on the general iT crowd, they don't tend to be confident with women themselves. So push back / tests are easily seen as rejections.

The way I see it, pretty women get a lot of attention. She has to be wary about men who are not serious, so taking it slow is the right move. Even if she's not entirely conscious of it, she will be "testing" the men that approach her. If the men around her are not confident and masculine, they will most likely fail.

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Thanks to her, I get to see another perspective of "it's lonely at the top" lmao. Jokes aside, yeah apparently being pretty isn't always nice -- one boss likes her very much and he's not good at hiding it at all, I know she's a capable employee but another who doesn't know her may dismiss her capability assuming she's got it easy because she's pretty and boss likes her.
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Hey, even right here we have TS assuming all them handsome men and pretty women have it easy. I'll agree: yes it's easier (pretty privilege), but it's never a zero effort. As with luck -- you can work very hard and get less rewards than another luckier person. That so called luck can be simply good timing, or in this case, good looks. Whatever it is, luck is secondary; it's a catalyst to the primary: your effort.
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Privileges comes with cons as well, but the benefits often do outweigh them.



 

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