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whatever relationship advice video i sent her, she claim are toxic chicken soup

typical human nature isnt it? no one, men or women would like to be told that they are wrong. regardless of situation.
and of course, the truth often hurts

What are the advice?

Example?

example videos

1
men who approach married women just want to get free easy lunch

2
advice to married women why they should not entertain men who wants to flirt with them

3
consequences of divorce to men and women



nothing to attack, mostly

Quite mild
Maybe she felt attacked and guilty?

There is no issue for one to hang out with opposite gender. You both have the responsibility to always keep that true without creating any problem for each other.

For example, uncontrolled impulses will create fire from sparks -- sometimes one may develop feelings of lust and/or romance towards someone else while being in a committed relationship, but you have a logical, conscious mind. You have the responsibility to tell yourself NO. ANY relationship requires two hands to clap. If you find it difficult to control your impulses and the feeling is growing stronger, then you should stop meeting the friend, even if it means destroying it. If you're true friends, in time when things settle, you can always meet again and rekindle the friendship.

Now, for someone with insecurity issues, you need to communicate to your partner what is acceptable to you or otherwise, and hopefully the partner can comply. Insecurity is your problem, yes, but it requires effort from both side to mitigate that and hopefully in time, you can be "normal" again.

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My bf had a bad breakup with his gf where she cheated on him despite her being super possessive and controlling of his interaction with any.. female. Few years after, we met. Now, he trusts me to hang out with my male friends (often it's a mixed gender group, but occasionally there might be 1:1 situations), meanwhile I make a point to always tell him who I'm going out with, and answer any questions he may have. If he is not comfortable with it, he would explain why and often, it's more towards his distrust towards the unknown men (i.e. my friend, not his). That said, so far so good la my male friends are generally nice people. I guess somehow I'm super lucky to have relatively normal people in my circle of friends.

We've fought over various things in life so far, but never once because of opposite gender... Yet. For me, I know how much it hurts to be cheated on as I came from a broken family. For him, well, his personal experience. I guess we both know how much it hurts to be cheated on, so we never want to do that unto another.

There are gardens within the home, and there are gardens that belong to the public. If you spend your time tending to the public garden—watering it, weeding it, trimming it, and fertilizing it— but neglect the garden within your own home, which one do you think will thrive in the long run?

Which one will look more beautiful? Isn’t the answer obvious?

But before we complain about another’s neglect, should we not ask ourselves: have we played a part in it? Have we truly cared for the garden that belongs to us?

Or have we carried the mentality that, since we are already in a long-term relationship or marriage— “he or she won’t go away; we are bound by duty”— there is no need to keep tending?

Human nature is such that no one likes being told they are wrong. We are always “right” in our own eyes until the results of life prove us otherwise.

A husband’s rebuke often stirs defiance. The wiser path is not direct correction from him, but gentle reminders from her own circle of women.

In well-ordered households, women guide women toward restraint. But if her circle of friends is already a lost cause, then your situation is likely to end not as harmony but as a cautionary tale for others.

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It is the cause-and-effect cycle of the past generation. In earlier times, were there not many women who stayed loyal, enduring both hardship and prosperity with their husbands? Yes, plenty.

But what happened? Many husbands cast aside their wives once they became successful.

This generation of women was raised with that awareness, they know the mistakes of the past. So who is to blame? No one. It is simply nature completing the cycle.

Until society recognizes the harm it is inflicting, this cycle will continue to turn, bringing its damage back upon us, until we finally decide to wake up and put a stop to it.

Thanks for all the recent replies

In the end, its down to her choice. I will let her choose.

to anyone who has real knowledge and experience, can i ask

can i sue the guy for wrecking my marriage? i have voice recording of him admitting what he did, and also of course, all the messages he sent to my wife

Yes u can. Gather all the evidence and find a lawyer.

even without evidence of any physical activity?

Steps to Sue for Adultery in a Divorce
1. File for Divorce:
You must first file for a divorce, citing adultery as the grounds for the marriage's breakdown.
2. Name the Co-Respondent:
The person your spouse had an affair with can be named as a co-respondent in the divorce proceedings.
3. Prove Adultery:
You need to provide evidence that your spouse committed adultery, such as photographic or video evidence from a private investigator, or witness testimony.
4. Prove Causation:
You must demonstrate that the act of adultery was the cause of the marriage's breakdown.
5. Claim Damages:
If the court finds sufficient evidence, you can claim damages from the co-respondent for the role they played in the marriage's breakdown.

Evidence to Use
Surveillance Evidence: Photos and videos taken by a private investigator documenting the co-respondent and your spouse cohabiting or engaging in acts of intimacy.
Circumstantial Evidence: Proof of voluntary sexual intercourse.
Witness Testimony: Oral evidence from someone who witnessed the affair.

Witness Testimony: Oral evidence from someone who witnessed the affair.--> just wonder intimate time where got other people to witness?

ikr! malaysia law. lol when comes to sex it's always pictured we doing porn film. got camera man and sound guy and light guy