This based on my experience with my ex.

My ex had quite a number of male friends from uni, workplace. At the end of the relationship, I dumped her after noticing her behaviour changes, she would hide her text messages and ask for space and more personal time.

Final comfirmation come to me when one day I noticed her sexy romantic chats with one of her so called male friends.

Story of my friend:

His ex was very popular among the guys. She was pretty, funny, independent, intelligent, smart, outgoing, good with her words and an extrovert. She used to go for a lot of outings, active in school activities, school debate team, and president of a couple of clubs.

All men drool over her because she was like a trophy wife everyone would loved to have.

My friend, on the other hand, was the total opposite. He was an introvert, dont know how to sweet talk girls and can’t even make MLM people sell him their membership. He hate outdoor and he dont like to meet new people.

But the law of attraction says opposites attract right? Thats how my friend and his ex ended up together. It was not easy at first, but they persevered. I think she put in a lot of effort to accommodate his personality. They dont go to expensive dating places and she knows i dont like crowds. They always go to small little tiny cafes which people wont go, and they spent a lot of time at home, cooking and watching NatGeo documentaries.

When her career started to take off, their paths started to diverge more and more.

She is CEO material, high flyer, but he is just a simple copywriter, eking a living out of his laptop on his dining table. He let her use their study room because she has more important meetings to attend in privacy.

Ok back to the story how their path started to go from a single point to two gaping lines.

She has a promotion dangled in front of her, and she kept chasing it, knowing she would land it within 2 years. She worked late, networking, travel, checking all her reports 10times and reworked them again and again, and worked 12 - 15 hours a day, 6 days a week. Sunday she would be going for company events, barely got any time for my friend.

She thought he would be ok with it because he worked from home and he didn’t like social events. She thought he understood and she thought he supported her ambition and her promotion.

Sex was non existent by then. From previous once a week to once every 3 months to 6 months and as sporadic as rain in the desert.

My friend was left high and dry.

Mana boleh mcm tu… syurga kat bawah tapak kaki suami ko tau tak? Suami ada keperluan, siapa nak bagi nafkah batin?

Then my friend found out

She had affairs with other men in her circle of friends, including office.

Not 1, not 2, but 3.

I malas wanna go into detail. My friend asked for divorce and turun talak 3.

That just proves money is important but it's not an absolute value when it comes to certainty with women as well. If a girl is attracted to a guy with less income there's a high possibility that guy reminds her ike her dad, the feel of longing for parental love.

many reasons

based on my experience with the law on divorce, cheating is not a crime in malaysia non bumi, i'm not sure about Syariah law though.

cheating can only be cited as the cause of the marriage being broken, there's no penal code or criminality to adultery.

however, as the husband, and you are filing a single petition instead of joined petition, you can sue the guy whom your wife cheated with citing for damages under penal code 489.

women these days knows... if they are on demand, they will milk as much as they can to their advantage.... gone are those old days where women are traditionally loyal.... no...

A 2025 survey from Durex found 20.5% of Malaysian women and 11.8% of Malaysian men cited infidelity as a reason for divorce

What are the advice?

Example?

Yes u can. Gather all the evidence and find a lawyer.