Title: My clingy long-distance girlfriend asks if I talk to others when I'm busy —



what should I do?

Hey everyone, I’m in a long-distance relationship with a girlfriend who’s emotionally dependent.



She needs constant communication and attention. I’ve been trying my best to chat with her every day, even during off work hours when I’m really busy.





I actually need to sleep at 8:00 PM every day because I have to wake up at 4:50 AM.

But sometimes I end up sleeping at 11:00 PM after chit-chatting with her, so I only get 6 hours of sleep or less.






But sometimes, when I don’t reply quickly or miss a day, she’ll ask me things like, “Did you go chat with someone else?”


I often change the passwords for the social apps we use to avoid chatting with her, but sometimes I can’t control myself.


I end up pressing “forgot password” and then use my reset password to log in again so I can keep chatting.


I know she’s insecure and just wants reassurance, but it adds pressure on me emotionally.

I’m wondering — would it be okay if I only message her every 2 or 3 days during busy workweeks, as long as I still show I care?



Or would that make things worse between us?

I care about her, but I also don’t want to feel guilty for focusing on work. She says she loves me, but sometimes I feel like the trust isn’t solid.

Has anyone dealt with a similar situation?


How do you manage a clingy partner in a long-distance relationship when your schedule is tight?

Any advice would really help. Thanks.

This post has been edited by plouffle0789: Jun 24 2025, 06:06 AM

No need complicated from my experience doesn't matter got work to do or not if you really into it just take annual leave and company can't say no to u .

Go fly/ visit her, convince her parents you love her, piap and happy ending and journey continue

If parents and daughter you failed to convince end the relationship and move on .

Last time you success?

If you never meet her in real life.
I mean see her in person not stupid video call. lame voice talk.

100% your "gf" is a scammer somewhere.

Just a friendly reminder.

I experienced a somewhat similar situation. But mine is physically meet up every night. Meet until 12-1am. Wake up the next day at 6:30am. So still ok.

Your gf feel insecure due to her character? or due to some current situation? or some past trauma? These situations cannot be looked at in isolation.

LDRs only work when there's constant communication between both parties. Having a clingy gf who needs to hear from u 24/7 won't make this rship any easier. It also seems like she has anxious attachment style. The more u push her away, the more clingy she can be.

If u have sat her down n had an honest discussion with her abt the importance of yr job n that u're still into her even though u seldom text her but she still doesn't understand, then I don't see this rship going anywhere. It' only works if she stops being clingy by making herself busy like getting new hobbies or u find another job.

Without understanding more context and some background of your LDR/GF, it is reckless to provide input here.

For now, I would say if it is like this now, you can expect it to get worse later.

success and also with fail nothing wrong or right at the end.

Try liao better than doing nothing.

have you met her in person before?

For LDR to work you need to know her at least 1 year before you guys go for LDR

Also you need a long term plan, what is the end game?

are any of you planning to link up after some time ?

So who is the one in overseas? you or her ?

If there are no plans to link up in future, to live together, please forget about LDR

its too much hassle lah.

Change gf la

This relationship won't last

expect she will initiate break up from you , at the end you gave up.

if don't have future plan, just let it go and get new gf.

I at overseas.

But distance just 100km

Just let her know you are not year year 18 yo, but outside full of 18 yo girl!

Boss, work hard!

Money = Freedom

singapore?

Yes

you can't change a partner who is prone to anxious
It gets tiring at some point
I would say build your own value
move up yourself so that you can attract a better partner

It's like same with family members
If you can't discard them, stay with them while moving up your capability. When they saw your value, hopefully some day they may change

rely on yourself, don't hope someone would change for you completely

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This post has been edited by plouffle0789: Jun 25 2025, 05:49 AM

what is your long term plan with her?

is she moving to singapore to be with you?

Need to wait 3 years at least


Wait until Jan 2029

so long.

must be torture for her to wait so long for you