Title: My clingy long-distance girlfriend asks if I talk to others when I'm busy —



what should I do?

Hey everyone, I’m in a long-distance relationship with a girlfriend who’s emotionally dependent.



She needs constant communication and attention. I’ve been trying my best to chat with her every day, even during off work hours when I’m really busy.





I actually need to sleep at 8:00 PM every day because I have to wake up at 4:50 AM.

But sometimes I end up sleeping at 11:00 PM after chit-chatting with her, so I only get 6 hours of sleep or less.






But sometimes, when I don’t reply quickly or miss a day, she’ll ask me things like, “Did you go chat with someone else?”


I often change the passwords for the social apps we use to avoid chatting with her, but sometimes I can’t control myself.


I end up pressing “forgot password” and then use my reset password to log in again so I can keep chatting.


I know she’s insecure and just wants reassurance, but it adds pressure on me emotionally.

I’m wondering — would it be okay if I only message her every 2 or 3 days during busy workweeks, as long as I still show I care?



Or would that make things worse between us?

I care about her, but I also don’t want to feel guilty for focusing on work. She says she loves me, but sometimes I feel like the trust isn’t solid.

Has anyone dealt with a similar situation?


How do you manage a clingy partner in a long-distance relationship when your schedule is tight?

Any advice would really help. Thanks.

This post has been edited by plouffle0789: Jun 24 2025, 06:06 AM

Last time you success?

I at overseas.

But distance just 100km

Yes

🏗️ CIQ/RTS Area Property Outlook (mystery Personal Evaluation)

No.	**Aspect**	**Details**
-----	------------------	-------------
1	**Supply**	1. Estimated **20k–30k units** coming to market near JB CIQ/RTS by **2026–2028**. <br>2. Does **not include** projects in wider JB metro and Second Link custom areas.
2	**Demand**	1. Need **additional tenants** to absorb incoming supply. <br>2. Possible sources:<br>;• **New jobs** created in SG<br>• **SG-based renters** relocating to JB
3	**Rental Upside**	1. Most tenants are **blue-collar, retail, F&B, service sector** workers. <br>2. **Rental ceiling** due to affordability. <br>3. **Higher-income workers/families** prefer landed homes further from JB CIQ. <br>4. CIQ not ideal for **family living**. <br>5. **Unclear** if higher-income group will shift to JB CIQ. <br>6. If rent too high, **singles might prefer to stay in SG**.
4	**Other Factors**	1. Influenced by **SG rental market trends**. <br>2. Impact from **SGD/MYR exchange rate**. <br>3. **RTS capacity** of 10,000 passengers/hour is helpful but **not a full game changer**. <br>4. Needs strong **transport & infrastructure support** to truly drive relocation to JB custom area.

👏 Very sharp observations — well structured and practical.
🙏 Thanks a lot for sharing this excellent market insight!

**Group**	**Living in SG HDB**	**Living in JB Condo**
**Singles Malaysian**	1. Close to workplace – saves time and energy<br>2. No daily immigration hassle<br>3. Easier social life and convenience	1. Much cheaper rent<br>2. Willing to endure long commute for savings<br>3. May benefit from RTS link once ready
**Families (Malaysian) *	1. Kids’ schools, healthcare, and daily routines are in SG<br>2. Avoid long travel with children<br>3. But cost of living is high	1. Larger space for kids at lower cost<br>2. Better quality of life if working parents can manage the travel<br>3. Usually prefer landed homes over condos

This post has been edited by plouffle0789: Jun 25 2025, 05:49 AM

Need to wait 3 years at least


Wait until Jan 2029

No choice

She still studying

No plan

No so terrible

This one is jail and police

Now she sleep at 1am

Last time she sleep at 5am


Sure result will be better

Normally play phone 1 hour - 1 hours 30 minutes....

But now I have more dicipline

Now it is ok...

I offline at 8.30pm


Said goodnight to her..she happy

**Point**	**Original Meaning**	**Simplified English Version**	✅ Included?
---------------------------------------	--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------	----------------------------------------------------------------------	-------------
Legal Reference	Section 375(g) of the Penal Code	Section 375(g) of the Penal Code	✅
Definition of Statutory Rape	Sex with girl under 16 is rape, even with consent	If a man has sex with a girl under 16, even if she agrees, it's rape	✅
Reason Behind the Law	Girls under 16 lack mental maturity to consent	Girls under 16 are not mature enough to give real consent	✅
Purpose of the Law	To protect children from sexual abuse and exploitation	The law is to protect them from abuse	✅
Consent is Not Valid Below 16	Her agreement is legally invalid	Even if she says yes, it doesn’t count	✅
Adult Bears Legal Responsibility	The adult is responsible for not engaging in sex with a minor	The adult is responsible, not the child	✅

# Sexual Offences Against Children Act 2017 (Malaysia)

**Section**	**Content**	**Key Points / Punishment**
-------------	----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------	---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Section 2	Definition of "child"	A child is anyone **under 18 years old**
Section 20	No defense based on believing victim is over 18	❌ Cannot use "I thought the victim was 18" as an excuse, unless all reasonable checks done
—	General provision	**Luring** anyone under 18 with sexual intent is a **criminal offence**
Section 11	Sexual communication with a child	❌ Up to **3 years jail**<br>✅ Excludes valid **sex ed / science / medical** communication
Section 12(1)	Grooming a child for the purpose of committing an offence	❌ Up to **5 years jail** and **whipping**
Section 13	Arranging to meet a child after sexual communication for criminal purpose	❌ Up to **10 years jail** and **whipping**

**What is happening**	**Under 16**	**16–17 years old**	**18 and above**
----------------------------------------	-----------------------------	----------------------------------	-------------------------------
✅ Sex with agreement	❌ Not allowed (rape)	✅ Allowed if both agree	✅ Allowed
💬 Talking about sex (messages, chat)	❌ Not allowed	❌ Not allowed	✅ Allowed (if not abusive)
🎣 Luring or grooming for sex	❌ Not allowed	❌ Not allowed	✅ Allowed (if both agree)
🤝 Meet after sexual messages	❌ Not allowed	❌ Not allowed	✅ Allowed (if both agree)
👶 Is this person a “child” in law?	✅ Yes (under 18)	✅ Yes (still under 18)	❌ No
⚖️ Can they agree to sex by law?	❌ No (too young)	✅ Yes (age of consent is 16)	✅ Yes

Do Section 375 of the Penal Code (statutory rape) and
the Sexual Offences Against Children Act 2017 conflict?




No, they do not conflict; instead, they complement each other.

Section 375 (g) of the Penal Code specifically addresses statutory rape, meaning:

— A man who has sexual intercourse with a girl under 16 commits statutory rape, regardless of consent.

The Sexual Offences Against Children Act 2017 is broader and covers:

— Sexual communication, grooming, luring, and arranging meetings with anyone under 18 for sexual purposes.

— It criminalizes many behaviors that are not limited to intercourse, and it covers victims up to 18 years old.



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Summary:

Law Focus Age Limit Main Coverage

Section 375(g), Penal Code Statutory rape (sexual intercourse) Under 16 years Sex with girl under 16, consent irrelevant


Sexual Offences Against Children Act 2017 Child sexual offences (broader) Under 18 years Grooming, communication, luring, meeting, etc.


They work together to protect minors from different types of sexual exploitation:

Penal Code sets the minimum age for legal sexual consent at 16.

The 2017 Act extends protections up to age 18 for other sexual offences beyond intercourse.

This post has been edited by plouffle0789: Jul 10 2025, 08:09 AM

how old of you?

How many years difference between you and your wife?

My one more than 12 years wor

I am also not sure


Hope 3 more years come faster


And i plan no children better


Difficult if got children