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 Abandoned In HKL: Mdm Soh’s Silent Cry For Family, The Price of Progress:Elders Left Behind

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Jaymeeeee
post Apr 23 2025, 12:47 PM

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Since a lot of east Asian (including Malaysian type-C) people not getting married and only live singles life... Expect to see this a lot on the future in the next 20-30 years...
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post Apr 23 2025, 12:50 PM

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QUOTE(y500 @ Apr 23 2025, 01:16 PM)
Imagine when he old and bedridden, both of his niece nephew cut ties with him...
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After tricking the old guy into transferring property and assets to them
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post Apr 23 2025, 12:50 PM

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QUOTE(Chrono-Trigger @ Apr 23 2025, 12:12 PM)
to those who want to be single, the money not spent on children better be put inside some savings for retirement village when old ok..

True story - got a single friend now almost 50, spend entire life rejoicing himself travel... now house also don't have. Savings don't have. He does not realize he is reaching the end of his working life... maybe another 5-10 years left before companies will look for younger people already.

that's recipe for old age poverty and abandonment.

To the singles out there... the least you can do is don't let your parents worry for you... save a lot of money for retirement ok
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If parents truly care for their children, they should not depend on their children in old age. It depletes the children's savings.
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post Apr 23 2025, 12:54 PM

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whether u single or marriage with kids,

always keep enough money for yourself ..no one give a darn to u when u become liability. enrich yourself first
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post Apr 23 2025, 12:55 PM

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QUOTE(Skidd Chung @ Apr 23 2025, 10:31 AM)
Sometimes family is the one thing that takes care of us when we are down and alone.
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my mom treats me so badly after decades
I'm not sure whether want to take care of her when she lying down in hospital
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post Apr 23 2025, 12:57 PM

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QUOTE(-mystery- @ Apr 23 2025, 12:55 PM)
my mom treats me so badly after decades
I'm not sure whether want to take care of her when she lying down in hospital
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What she did to you ?
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post Apr 23 2025, 01:03 PM

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QUOTE(netflix2019 @ Apr 23 2025, 10:40 AM)
Thats why la. If u are single no kids. Be nice to your niece/nephew.

Buy gaming rig 15k as graduation gift. They will remember u their whole life.

Use brain a bit. In family also must do PR.

To be perfectly honest. Not easy to end up old sick and alone. U must have done a lot of fuck up to reach that level.
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If nowadays gen y and gen z

It's easily to be single solo and yolo
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post Apr 23 2025, 01:03 PM

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Legalise euthanasia.
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post Apr 23 2025, 01:05 PM

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QUOTE(-mystery- @ Apr 23 2025, 12:55 PM)
my mom treats me so badly after decades
I'm not sure whether want to take care of her when she lying down in hospital
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since you are grown up, I guess she didn't flush you down the toilet

so you still indebted to her you know
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post Apr 23 2025, 01:06 PM

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QUOTE(M4A1 @ Apr 23 2025, 11:03 AM)
many ktard SINGLE

soon become like this also
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kalau purata jantan-bentina bukan 50:50, we just force some of them to become achik follower icon_rolleyes.gif icon_idea.gif icon_idea.gif
TSLe Don
post Apr 23 2025, 01:13 PM

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Hope gov can provide subsidized old folks home in the future
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post Apr 23 2025, 01:17 PM

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QUOTE(Le Don @ Apr 23 2025, 01:13 PM)
Hope gov can provide subsidized old folks home in the future
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Licensed old folks home already reduced a lot in funding from gomen since Covid.

This post has been edited by Fubar20: Apr 23 2025, 01:18 PM
ruffy_z
post Apr 23 2025, 01:17 PM

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QUOTE(iGamer @ Apr 23 2025, 11:29 AM)
Those who expects niece/nephew to take care, they probably too naive not yet seen actual reality around them. Even own children may wish their parents quickly move on after a period of laborious hardship. Taking care of immobile sick elderly is no joke.
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I say theyre irresponsible and selfish if they expect to be taken care by their nephews/ nieces
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post Apr 23 2025, 01:18 PM

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post Apr 23 2025, 01:21 PM

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If childless just make arrangements for old folks home yourself. Don't wait others do it for you.
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post Apr 23 2025, 01:25 PM

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QUOTE(iGamer @ Apr 23 2025, 11:09 AM)
Even own children may not take care of you when u no longer capable to even change your own diaper. Don’t expect a niece or nephew to change your diaper. Not gonna happen.
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Maybe especially Chinese, if you have nice 2 storey corner lot landed house under your name, likely someone will come forward to visit or take care.
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post Apr 23 2025, 01:36 PM

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QUOTE(-mystery- @ Apr 23 2025, 12:55 PM)
my mom treats me so badly after decades
I'm not sure whether want to take care of her when she lying down in hospital
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Then don't.

No one is forcing you to.

In Asia, socially we are obligated to care for our own parents and family, unless they are abusive towards us.

If you don't care for this kind of obligation, then just ignore it.

There is no law compelling you to care for your elderly parents other than societal norms. They can shame you for it, and if you don't care, it won't affect you other than people might start seeing you differently.




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post Apr 23 2025, 01:37 PM

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QUOTE(Skidd Chung @ Apr 23 2025, 01:36 PM)

There is no law compelling you to care for your elderly parents other than societal norms.
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Cough some countries got such laws cough
xpole
post Apr 23 2025, 01:45 PM

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What makes you think that when you're old, your children will take care of you?

It's so delusional when you make kids for your retirement plan.

So many cases when their adult children working outside malaysia, leaving their parents alone.

So many cases parents live in other state and their kids rarely visit them. Some of them only visit them during festive season only.

Having kids are not guaranteed that your adult kids will visit you every single week

KIDS ARE NOT YOUR FREAKING RETIREMENT PLAN.

This post has been edited by xpole: Apr 23 2025, 01:48 PM
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post Apr 23 2025, 02:06 PM

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perhaps this aunty's situation is diff

but this is the potential future of those who YOLO with their EPF money.. and dont have plan B
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