A friend just asked me this:

"Imagine if you are a woman, you see 2 potential guys.

Guy A looks rich af. Drives a BM, dresses damn formal with suits everywhere he goes. Name card is a Senior Manager of a company.

Guy B is simple, drives like a Perodua Aruz or a Proton X70, wears smart casual everywhere he goes. Name card is also a Senior Manager of a company

If follow women's mindset, Guy A is richer but what if at the back, Guy A is struggling to pay off all the loans he took for his car, his credit cards for expensive clothing while B is carefree and has spare cash all around, is A still richer?"

So my question here is how do women "first impression" sees a guy if he is rich and successful?

Your description only covers the monetary aspect. This wall of text thread by lady sifu Ralna discussed what it means to be "top", or "successful" in your case. https://forum.lowyat.net/topic/5486344

So the question is, how to identify "successful" attributes? Some are intrinsic values that aren't visible outwardly, but if you only want to focus on money then I can ask you the exact same: how do YOU as a man, identify a rich person?

It's the same regardless of gender innit? You look for luxuries on the person... so many who WANT to be identified as such will do the exact same: get those luxuries. But again, we all know by now that's just the surface: true riches won't flaunt their wealth, so how? You gotta get to know the person to learn more lor. Unless you're gold digger or salesman where your job is to smell wealth, I don't know of any shortcuts.

Stealth Wealth is Real: 10 Ways the Rich Stay Invisible
September 20, 2024

You meet two brothers out at the bar, Tim and Greg. Tim drives a brand-new Mercedes, shows off his Rolex watch, and buys a round of top-shelf tequila for everyone. The other brother, Greg, drove to the bar in his beat-up minivan from 2010, wearing faded jeans and a t-shirt. He nurses a couple of IPAs. Who do you think is wealthier?

The answer might surprise you. While we tend to associate images of flashy cars and watches with the idea of being rich, most real millionaires practice stealth wealth. They care more about actually having that money in the bank than showing it off, and that’s why they often slip under the radar. In fact, anyone you meet could be a millionaire in disguise, practicing stealth wealth.

What is Stealth Wealth?

The concept of stealth wealth found its roots in the classic book, The Millionaire Next Door, written by Thomas J. Stanley and William D. Danko in 1996. This book examines the lifestyles and habits of real millionaires. And these authors discovered that our preconceived notions about what wealth looks like don’t necessarily match the reality of it.

For example, while we might think that most millionaires would opt to live in affluent neighborhoods, they are disproportionately clustered in middle-class and blue-collar communities. They focus more on investing a large percentage of their household income than on purchasing material items that signal wealth. Even more surprisingly, about 80% of millionaires are entirely self-made, not having received any inheritance money.

It turns out, most millionaires are living that “stealth wealth” life by using their money more intentionally. They trade a high-consumption lifestyle for assets that appreciate, more money in the bank, and a simpler way of life. Practicing stealth wealth helps them accumulate even more money, continuing to grow their wealth. But their lack of public wealth displays makes these millionaires difficult to spot!

Read more: https://www.howtomoney.com/stealth-wealth/

A friend just asked me this:

"Imagine if you are a woman, you see 2 potential guys.

Guy A looks rich af. Drives a BM, dresses damn formal with suits everywhere he goes. Name card is a Senior Manager of a company.

Guy B is simple, drives like a Perodua Aruz or a Proton X70, wears smart casual everywhere he goes. Name card is also a Senior Manager of a company

If follow women's mindset, Guy A is richer but what if at the back, Guy A is struggling to pay off all the loans he took for his car, his credit cards for expensive clothing while B is carefree and has spare cash all around, is A still richer?"

So my question here is how do women "first impression" sees a guy if he is rich and successful?

In my twenties, I used to look for men who were already rich and I attracted several...

but now, in my thirties, I've learned to spot men who have potential to become (multi)millionaires in their lifetime, or are on the way to become one. These men are often quiet, disciplined, grounded, and loyal--- qualities that I like.

Generally, men who like to flash wealth are mostly superficial, insecure and want women's attention. They tend to be playboys and attract lots of gold-diggers who throw themselves at them-- these are not the kind of men that I like.

Basically u still want a wealthy guy..regardless flashy wealthy, stealthy wealthy or potentially wealthy.
Wealthy and loyal 😆